I have been talking to this guy for about 2 years. We've become great friends, though I've liked him for almost the whole time that we've been friends. Yesterday, a coworker of his told me that he was gay. She said that she told me this because she didnt want to see me hurt later on. He's told me many very personal things, why would he not be able to trust me the info that he's gay. I would be a little hurt that he was gay since I like him and all, but I would stand by him as the good friend that I am. Should I confront him? If so, how? Since he doesn't know that I would even suspect that and he doesnt fit the "gay sterotype". Should I ask him how he feels about me(I basically told him how I feel back in october, he didn't respond as to how he felt, but I figured he wasn't ready to say anything. ) Please, I need advice!
2007-01-13 12:51:16 · 7 answers · asked by L♥G 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of my favorite friends is a gay person. I knew him for over a year and he never said he was gay, although he dropped a lot of hints. Finally, when we were gathered with a group of our friends I asked him, "Pat are you gay?" He went very quite and said, "Yes." To which I responded "Oh, Okay." I was sitting next to him at the time and I just went on doing what we were doing. Signaling the group that I accepted him. He was a little crazy, but that was just a part of his personality. I don't think he ever had any problems with our friends, because I was the eldest and kind of a group leader.
My recommendation is that you simply ask him flat out, and don't make a big deal about it; "I heard a rumor that you were gay, we can still be friends if you are, I just want to know?" Then if he says "yes" don't react "Why didn't you tell me?!" Sexual orientation is very private and he is probably worried about losing you as a friend if he tells you that he is gay. So keep it low key and no matter what the answer remain friends with him.
2007-01-13 13:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dan S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i figure you should just ask him about it. he knows how you feel, right? well i think you have the right to know how he feels about you. does he see you as a friend because he's gay? or because he just doesnt like you that way. you already took the first step which is telling him of your feelings for him. now it's your turn to know things. it's possible that your co-worker is lying, but there's only one way to find out. ask him. dont be all demanding either, just be calm and understanding.
2007-01-13 12:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a very frank and upfront conversation with your friend explaining your feelings and concerns. If your friendship is as strong as you say it is, it can withstand the uncomfortable discussion. At least you will know if you have a potential future with this guy, and if not, you can move on.
2007-01-13 12:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew gay guys in highschool and to this day we are happy to be friends...we resolved our differences; he came from a very large family and what more is there to say...he may just want a friend...
2007-01-13 12:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by Patches6 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that co worker is probably throwing you off him so she can have him. its her way of saying back off! without hurting you.
if he is a great friend then you should be honest with him.
ask him if hes gay and tell him how you feel.
2007-01-13 13:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by happychick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could be saying it cause she wants him and doesn't want you to have him.She might know how you feel for him and maybe he's told some people how he feels for you.If you do confront him just say basically you want to know how he feels about you.I wouldn't mention the part about her saying he's gay.That might offend him.
2007-01-13 12:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
find someone else..u r not his type.
2007-01-13 12:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋