ok ask this 2 weeks ago ifound out that my grf done xxx pornn i cant take it wha ca i do?

Question

i don know what 2 do i know w all have past but this is hard core her kid told my nephew my moms a porn star he found pictuers now every1 knows i cant stand him now she is so nice but this is 10years of her life i looked her up 2 see what ever1 was talkn about o my god enyway its her past but i cant help but think she has done it all nothing i could do would be like that part ofme says run part of me says past is gone we cant change it but how can that little sht think he did nouthn wrong want 2 se her pornos he is 11 my nephews 17 never mind my 16 yr old son im so hurt and dontknow what 2 dooooooooo 15 xxxx porn is not a mistake she knew what she was do n dump her after6 months or stay we dont fight and get along great but its always on my mind even when were haven sex so let me know what u think big help last time thanks

Answer 1

First you need to decide what you want, then you need to figure out a way to make it so.

You can stay with her and explain to the boys how people change and do different things in their lives and isn't that wonderful. You can be anything - or many anythings in your life - so reach for the stars. If she has had a lot of experience there's a good chance that she will be an entertaining lover for years to come - unlike the one trick ponies virgins can be. Maybe you want to do a little role playing in bed to help work out your issues - perhaps she needs a spanking for being so naughty (and perhaps that is the problem - you can't get the pictures out of your mind and it is distracting).

Or you can leave her if she is not the person you thought she was. Perhaps you feel mislead or that acceptance of her gives a bad example to the youngsters in the family. Some men might be proud to be with a red hot porn star, but if not you, then end it now before deeper feelings are involved.

Honestly, it would be up to her to help deal with that part of it, don't you think. You 2, as adults, can sit the boys down and say "I know this has come to light and I don't want a lot of giggling and misinformation going around so let's talk about it". Discuss it before hand and discuss the best way to handle it - explaining that it is very much like regular sex (sometimes it's good and sometimes it's not), why she got out of it, the dangers involved, the low pay or whatever. When you talk about taboos in a clinical way with youngsters it loses all it's fun.

I say if everything else it great in the relationship, this should not be a deal breaker. We are a sum total of our experiences and the person you see before you would not be who she is if you removed anything from her past - and the past is over. Think about your futures.

Peace!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If you really care for her...sit down and TALK to her. Tell her how you feel about the situation.... do this ONLY if you can let go of her past, .....because as you say, we all have one...and sometime it isn't something we are proud of...but there is nothing we can do to change what has been done. You can't be thinking about it, or bringing it up every time something goes wrong.....that's just not fair to either of you. Also take into consideration if this is something that happened before you came along, or is it still going on.

It doesn't matter what someone else would do in this same situation, no one can tell you what to do....because no one knows your feelings for another person, only you can decide....at least talk to her, and find out the story behind it all...other than what you know. I wish you the best of luck, its not everyday you feel like you have met the right person......and no relationship is without its ups and downs

Answer 4

The past is the past...but you do have a point. how can someone stoop so low that they surrender themselves to the adult industry? and finding out after you have built your own past and future together, has got be be even worse. For one, people in the adult industry have no respect for themselves, they crave attention and will do anything for that feed. For two, if she didn't just model but did the whole porn experience, how do you know she doesn't have an STD or AIDS? some take years to develop and maybe you asked and she lied to you? For three, any woman who can do adult industry and then make a family with a man and not tell him, and her own children find out and want to look at it and show their friends is SICK. She's asking to be found out and asking to be seen. It sounds to me like she doesn't care that people know and if presented the right opportunity and the right amount of money would do it again. I don't blame you for constantly thinking about it. Any one who can look at porn is disgusting if you ask me...who wants a woman with no respect for herself, her body, her future, and her lover?? if I were you I would get out of the relationship. Not because it's gross, but because you have been lied to and even though it is her past, what else could she be hiding from you that might accidentally pop up?? She may be hot, but i wouldn't want to be with someone who has slept around for money and entertainment, and know that when you're seen with her, there are several other guys that look at her and have seen her on the web or have been with her as well.

thats way too many sex partners...

Answer 5

What? Bottom line is do you love this person? She's done what she has done and obviously you are no prince........ rambling with no caps, punctuation and coherent thought. You know what to do! Step away and see what happens. Sure she has done what she has done but you know......... willing to do adult movies implies a certain attitude.

So its too complicated. Step away and it is OK to be alone for a bit. You live togther? Make it clear that you are displeased as man. Don't say much and let her talk. You know there are plenty of women who make it in this world without hoing out

Answer 6

humm this is a hard one
if i did xxx and my current b/f found out i would be so embarresed . i say if think this realtionship is worth keeeping regardless of te porn thing i say sit down with her and tell her how you feel then see if maybe theraphy would help you two get over this. and i have never done porn but i have a past that i was embarresed for my b/f to know about because he wasn't as active as i have been . so i told him how i felt and he said a past is just that a past and it has to bearing to us right now so i would sit down and talk to her maybe she is embarresed by doing porn we all where young and stupid doing thing we never think anyone will find out.
good luck i hope you firgure out whats best

Answer 7

This was in her past....its done its over and well why bring it up again.
Have you spoke with her about it?
If you can't get over it , don't waste her time.
I am sure she has had many years to think about what she has done and if she isn't talking about it and doesn't brag about it there is a reason.
Talk and get over it or move on.
If you love her for who she is ....Now...the girl you know...not the girl you didnt know....thats her past.....would it bother me....maybe not being told by her....but there could be a reason.
Ask

best wishes

Answer 8

dude ur right go with ur gut 15 pornos is not a mistake and ppl do make mistakes.... but a porn star is too much man think when your making love she could be thinking about another guy..... just tryin to help a brother out........

Answer 9

If you can't deal with it and you know that, then get out. It is as easy as that. No one has a way for you to change her past.

Answer 10

If you truly love her nothing cannot be forgiven If you cannot move past this then you should move on, why stay in a relationship if you are hung up on her past