I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 24. We have been together for almost 3 years. This is the longest relationship that the both of us have ever been in. We love each other very much and I want to talk to him about moving in together. The only porblem is that I don't want to ask because I feel he will say no. I think this because I think that he may feel that it's too early and because he might not want to leave his mom in an empty house alone. What should I do? Should I ask him, or should I not ask and let it be?
2007-01-13 12:36:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have been with him for that long then you should know when the time is right to ask him if he wants to. the important thing is that you must talk.
When I was married to my wife the minister said that the most important thing for the two of us to do was to really talk and get what we thought and how we felt about anything out in the open, and that if we did this our marriage would be unassailable.
we have been together for almost two years, and the times we fight are when we haven't talked to each other and just took it for granted that the other person knew.
talk to him, and ask. if he says he isn't ready, then accept it, and stay with him. if you get married , you will find that you have to do this a lot for the two of you to work.
good luck.
2007-01-13 13:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by chris r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you're together with him, somewhere private (not like in a restaurant or something), you can take his hand, look at him and smile a little, and say that you really love him, and you've been thinking about maybe moving in together. Let him know that you know it's a big step and everything, but you have faith in your relationship with him and want to take it to the next level.
Good luck with this! Email me and let me know what happens.
2007-01-13 12:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should TALK... don't ask unless the conversation get's there... start with questions about how he feels on people living together before marriage, whether he'd imagine you two living together, if his mother would be able to manage on her own, etc.
Then, if the conversation get's there, you can pop the question (so to speak) about moving in together.
2007-01-13 12:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lives with his mom?
He's 24 and he lives with his Mommy????
Your intuition is correct.(it never lies)
He will never leave his mommy because he is a momma's boy.
Worse yet,you will NEVER be able to compete or come between his mommy.Mommy would never allow that.
This relationship will work if your willing to be second to the most important woman in his life,his mommy.
2007-01-13 12:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it
its somewhat dangerous leaving an old person alone at the house =/
would his mom approve?
2007-01-13 12:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jay a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years ?????/
If you are ready then talk to him.
You will never know till you ask.
But don't pressure.
And know what you will want to do if he says yes
and know what you would want to do if he says no.
2007-01-13 13:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him!
2007-01-13 12:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it.... its gonna happen sometime if u to get married,
2007-01-13 12:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever he wants
2007-01-13 12:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋