My friend doesn't drink every day, but he does drink pretty much every weekend. When he does drink, he drinks a whole lot and when he gets drunk he usually gets depressed and angry and therefore is an *** to me if I talk to him (I usually try to avoid calling on weekend nights just incase). Sometimes he even gets really paranoid and freaks out (that's if he's had A LOT). He refuses to quit drinking and his father is an alcoholic. I always considered an alcoholic to be a person who drank non-stop. What do you think?
2007-01-13 12:21:59 · 25 answers · asked by sarahjaniepoo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His father is an alcoholic, which is a bad influence. Plus living with one is very stressful and shameful, so he uses booze to let off the stress. Hes on his way of becoming an alcoholic if he doesnt get help;
2007-01-13 12:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by ..;..;.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the week maybe he has a lot of pressure in his life and he finds the weekend as a way to relax. I don't think what he is doing is safe, and I would counsel him about it. Being a depressed drunk is the worst drunk you can be when your drunk.
They are more likely to drive drunk, drink too much meaning alcohol poisioning, or getting arrested for fighting with people. He probably gets a reality check when he is drunk.
As a friend, when he is sober, talk to him. When he is drunk... try to go with him and keep an eye on him just in case he gets stuck drinking alone. It is ok to drink, but not to an extent every weekend where you are just out of your mind.
2007-01-13 12:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people drink and are drunk most of the time. Some do not drink often but when they do they get hammered. Functional alcoholics drink daily but will never miss a day of work. They are all alcoholics. Your friend sounds like an alcoholic and based on his family history he most likely is. Time to educate yourself on alcoholism. ALANON is a support group for friends and family members of the alcoholic. The Alcoholic Anonymous book is also a good resource. Don't let yourself get pulled into his chaos. I wish you well.
2007-01-13 12:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An alcoholic is someone that needs to drink. There is no set time for this need. It could be every hour, or every day or every weekend. He'll say he can stop whenever he wants but even when he sees his drinking having diverse effects on his life or health, he still won't stop. Your friend sounds young. Help him to see that he has a problem kindly and suggest Alcoholics Anonymous. They are a great support organization that has helped thousands of people defeat alcoholism.
2007-01-13 12:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't an alcoholic, then he's on his way. Most alcoholics may start out only drinking on occasions like weekends and then it escalates. If his father is and alcoholic, then he needs to wake up because it runs in his family. He is more acceptable to it. As far as you trying to stop him, if he refuses to stop then you can protest until you turn blue. He won't listen until he is ready. Just hope that he wakes up before it gets too serious. You're a good friend for worrying about him.
2007-01-13 12:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like binge drinking rather than alcholism, if he only drinks weekend. Just as bad I have to add. He has had to live with an alcoholic father which doesn't help either. Try and get your friend to go to a counsellor before he becomes 24/7 dependant.
2007-01-13 12:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he admits he is an alchoholic there is nothing you can do.A person has to be willing to admit there own faults.You are a concerned friend but don't let him drag you into his drama back off No an alcohlic is not a person who drinks all the time there are differnt stages and different types of alcholic if you would like to find out how to help your friend contact alcholic anonomous/alanon one is for the alcholic program and the other is for friends and family of the alcholic.Good Luck your going to need it..Beleive me I been there done that with an alcholic I am no longer married to him(he was the alcholic)but recoverd now for over 15 years I am so glad but he picked up another habbit Gambling so I said 'WHICH one is the worse of two evils I got out ..
2007-01-13 12:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholism is measured not by how much a person drinks or how often. Alcoholism is measured by what the person's behavior is when they drink. It is time for you and the rest of your friends to have an intervention with this person. Your friend is in the second stage. Get help now.
2007-01-13 13:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different patterns of drinking for alcoholics maybe you could contact Al-Anon or Alcoholics Anonymous for advice. He appears to be binge-drinking and as you've observed alcohol is a depressant. It may simply be he is emulating his Fathers' behaviour because that's the example he's been set. It's his refusal to give up alcohol that I think is a problem. Maybe you need to tell him you're concerned for his health, then distance yourself when he's been drinking.
2007-01-13 12:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, it's because the person Cannot deal with real life, so to help make it better he drinks. He may have had problems before with a relationship, or like you said his father was probably not there for him, so he drinks to get rid of those feelings of loneliness.
If its a really bad habit get him to a AA class, they will help him out and he can express his problems to other people who have problems as well.
2007-01-13 12:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by randym 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋