Is he worth all this or am i suppost to get over him? and how?

Question

I make him feel like i hate him but i sytill have sex with him because i love him we've never dated. i've knwn him for 5 years i've been friends with him for 2 and i've been having sex with him for 1. For the last 2 years i've gotten in trouble with the
law, i've had numerous problems with my parents and all he brings me is pain. I can't get over him yet i feel we were meant to be together. I get high and drunk to make myself feel good. I need to get over him but i cant because i have a slight feeling he might feel the same but i dont want to make things odd between us. He lives right across the streetand hes always on my mind.

Answer 1

I think you should seek some counseling. Anyone who brings you down to getting in trouble with the law, having problems with your parents, getting high and drunk, is definitely not worth any trouble. He is not the right one for you.
It sounds to me like it is just sex and not a real relationship. You said yourself that you've never dated in the 5 years you know him.
When 2 people love each other, they want the best for that person, they put that person's needs first. They won't do anything to hurt or put that person in harms way.
I don't know how old you are, but being you are having trouble with your parents because of this guy, I'm assuming that you are young. Get some real friends and enjoy your youth. This is not a relationship, definitely not healthy.
When you find someone, make sure he is respectable, caring, honest, loyal, a man of good morals and character. Take your time.

Get some help, someone professional to talk to and stop drinking and doing drugs. Don't waste your life for someone else or for any reason. Be good to yourself and your life.
God Bless You!

Answer 2

Honey, you have more problems than this guy. You should ask your school counselor for some help. If you are having family problems and getting in trouble with the law, you have some severe emotional problems and need some help. This guy is bad for you because he is using you. You are having sex with him because he makes you feel good and wanted. You aren't getting that anywhere else, I guess. That's very sad. But you can rise above this. Do not sleep with this guy, or any other one, again, until you have a hold of your own emotional self esteem and you feel worthy of somebody better. If you don't have a good school counselor, try your pastor or youth pastor. But please get some help with your self-esteem issues because otherwise you are headed for disaster. Drugs, drinking, sex,...just to feel good tells a story of an unloved, unworthy feeling girl who is grasping at bad things to feel better. God Bless you.

Answer 3

Getting high and drinking is what you need to Stop doing so your mind will be able to focus on getting past this and having a much Happier Life* If you're always in Trouble with him..it's NOT worth it* He will end up in jail, or You will.
You need to stop seeing him altogether. Him living across the street will be quite hard and it's never easy to stop thinking about someone....but you need to do the right thing, and focus on having a Better Happier Healthier Life* You are still young..:)

Answer 4

move get away from him. he is not good to you and u guys are not going to be together. There are alot of guys out there that are going to make u feel like ur a queen. This guy is not worth it. get over him, it is going to take time, but u have to be STRONG.

Answer 5

Tip 1 : drop the drugs... theyll jus kill you
Tip 2: if ur not dating him then its up to you but if i were you id get someone else that treats me right and doesnt jus want to do me... so its up to you

Answer 6

Well i think you need to find someone else and stop the drinking, it never helps.

Answer 7

if he's worth all this....that's for you to answer. but does it seem like he appreciates it? Not really....i think u should sit down and have a nice talk with him about all this

Answer 8

get over him