I have a problem. I am enrolling in a 6 mo. residential program for alcohol. I will live there and the requirements are that I bring my child with me. I have been allowing my child to stay with her grandma-not my mom-because of some major issues where i am living. The problem I am having is that I am on a waiting list for this program. I have not told the grandma, for fear she will call CPS and try to get temporary custody since she will not want her to go to this program-which is completely safe and honestly a really great thing for us. I dont know what to do. When my time comes to go do I just go to the house and get her, I have full custody, since the father is a drug addict. Or should I give them notice and risk having her grandma try to take her legally?
2007-01-13 12:14:15 · 6 answers · asked by chay e 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Take her with you. Even if CPS or the court got involved, they would support you and your efforts at recovery. The treatment program will support you also. You will be in treatment so they will have no grounds to say you are actively drinking. This is a great chance for you to get on the right track for you and her. Kudos.
Also, wait until right before you go to tell her just in case she tries to make the alcohol use an issue and get custody before you go to treatment.
2007-01-13 17:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell grandma you are arranging to pick up your child at a certain date. Your child, your rules, your legal right, no questions asked. These places are not dangerous for children so there is no grounds to take her from you. What are authorities going to do? "Oh, this woman is responsible and making a fundamental better change for her and her daughter - yup, bad for the child"
I understand your fear, but try to put it behind you.
Good Luck
2007-01-13 20:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her with it will raise your chances for success and help her understand your illness. I wouldn't tell the grandma if there really is a chance she may file for temporary custody, it will be harder on your kid just being taken from her grandma's but it would be worse for her if she wasn't aloud to see her mama anymore I would think. your in my prayers good luck and stick with it
2007-01-13 20:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the requirements are that yo bring your child... then bring her. It sounds like this program is to benefit the both of you, and she would probably gain knowledge about your condition.
Congratualtions on your recovery!!!
2007-01-13 20:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get her she is your child and you are try'n to get help
2007-01-13 21:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by memi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wtf. ur grand mom has no freaking right to even think about taking ur child. 9 months no joke. just take ur kid n do wat u have to do. its for ur gd n ur kid's gd too. u dont owe grandma any explanation.
2007-01-13 20:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by lilac. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋