I've got a buzz going as I sit here and type this... it never used to be this big of a deal, but now I'm starting to wonder, do I depend on alcohol? I drink Thurs, Fri, Sat, and Sun. Mon, Tues, and Wed I work night shifts so I can't. I have to start early because then I can avoid hangovers. Sat & Sun I work days and am home by 4pm. I start drinking by 6pm but I stop after 4 drinks, max. I usually drink alone. I have a problem with depression that I had under control for several years, but has returned since I've become quite unhappy with my job. My marriage sometimes isn't all that great either. The only time I really feel good is when I'm drinking. I get sad when the bottle nears empty. (My poison is rum and coke, it's all I drink. Beer is gross, and wine coolers don't give me a buzz anymore). I work in law enforcement so it'd be really hard for me to start going to AA meetings, and furthermore, this is my one vice and I just don't have the urge to quit. Ideas? Thx, Bi
2007-01-13 12:05:26 · 14 answers · asked by bianca_tru 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
OF COURSE!!! I would strongly recommend you seek some sort of counseling for your drinking problem. Alcoholics Anonymous is a great program to help. Remember the first step is to admit you have a problem, then detox, then rehad, then get on a program to help you stay alcohol free.
2007-01-13 12:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by werdsoccer11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there. Done that. Survived!! And you can as well. I think a key factor in your situation is that you don't drink to get drunk. You still maintain a lot of self-control by stopping after 4 drinks. If you are not comfortable seeking help with the alcohol, that's totally understandable. I would definitely seek help for the depression. Once that is under control, the rest should follow. God bless and good luck!
2007-01-13 21:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by YSIC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have trouble not drinking, you should stop drinking. if you can stop drinking for a week without it being too big of a deal, you are probably fine.
maybe go see a therapist or something. you can go to AA, just don't go to one that has court-ordered participants, they aren't serious about it. AA is confidential. give them a call if you have concerns, ask them how other people in law enforcement do this sort of thing.
however, unless you want to quit, it will probably not work, so maybe you should talk to a therapist about why you want to quit drinking. Maybe you need to talk to your husband about improving or ending your marriage, or finding a better job, or somehow changing your life so that it is worth being sober for.
I also recommend the book "Drinking: A Love Story" by Caroline Knapp.
2007-01-13 20:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as well as a drinking problem you also have a problem with depression. You need to get some help with the depression first, then maybe your desire to drink will be less. The one thing that I know from experience is that if you don't have the "urge" to quit you won't no matter what type of help you seek.
2007-01-13 20:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by dolphinsfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help with the depression. You are self-medicating; getting real medication will help you quit the booze and take charge of your life. I used to drink pretty much every day, but since finishing a course of anti-depressants, I drink only a couple of times a month.
2007-01-13 20:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by lee m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would start looking for another job. working at night is taking a toll on your marriage and making you depressed all over again.
being happy with your job is the key. look at your other skills
see if you could change careers. being in law enforcements isn't doing you any good. try talking to a cousellor on the phone or one of those 1-800 numbers to offer help. ask for support from your family/relatives they are your best support system.
2007-01-13 21:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an assessment that doctors can use to assess alcoholism in thier patients. It's the shortest version that I know of, but if you answer yes to any of these you might wanna seek some help.
Have you ever CUT down on drinking?
Does anyone ANNOY you about your drinking?
Do you feel GUILTY about alcohol abuse?
And do you use alcohol as an EYE-opener?
Good luck to you.
2007-01-13 20:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by Brian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call that love of a drink.
I know a alcoholic and she never leaves the apartment. Her daughter does her errands.
She drinks day and night bottle after bottle passes out wakes up drinks passes out and repeats this over and over again.
Now you say ytour an alcoholic,,,you don't have it that bad.
2007-01-13 20:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are on a path there, if not already there. If you don't have the urge to quit, you aren't going to though. If things get worse, hopefully you will get the urge to seek help. What happens if you don't drink one night?
2007-01-13 20:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by brews 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bianca,
If you were an alcoholic, you would drink every day until you passed out.
You sound absolutely normal.
I used to date a recovering alcoholic and he gave me the deal. Once you start, you don't stop until you have to.
2007-01-13 22:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋