My fiance and I are getting married on an island only our two sets of parents are coming with us. When we get home we would like for our family and friends to go out for lunch or dinner with us to celebrate, however, we cant afford to pay for this (part of the reason for a destination wedding to save on costs). How do we word an invite to suggest we wont be paying?
2007-01-13 11:56:04 · 14 answers · asked by *happyas* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If it is really important to you maybe you could have a BBQ and ask people to bring food. You could write something like this:
Due to our lack of funds and desire to share this special time with you we would like you to joint us for a BBQ. Instead of a present please bring a plate of food.
I don't think it would be approprate to expect them to pay and buy you a present.
Good Luck!
2007-01-13 15:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by jenifajen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You simply cannot invite someone to celebrate your wedding and then make them for for it. Plus if they are there to celebrate your wedding, they might bring you a gift, and then you are going to give them the check. I am sorry but if you cannot afford it, then there is really nothing you can do. Celebrations come with a cost. Maybe the parents can do something small in their homes or one of the friends can suggest you all get together informally for dinner one day and as a celebration, you bring a cake. All depends on the no of people we are talking about. Wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-13 16:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by nnaming2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The reason you're having a difficult time wording this is because if you invite, you pay. Simple etiquette 101. If you want to celebrate with friends consider hosting a smaller event, one at your own home or maybe even just a pot luck picnic.
2007-01-13 12:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. There is NO way to word an invitation. An invitation by definition is asking people to come to something you are hosting ... i.e. paying for.
You can casually call friends and say "hey, we're going out, want to join us?"
Or better yet - get creative with a way to host a party. Perhaps at someone's house or scale down your expectations.
You may not send an invitation for something you don't intend on paying for.
2007-01-13 12:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say that you just have a nice get together at someones home and make food yourselves. You will save lots of money. I think though if you invite people out to eat to celebrate, they will assume you are paying for it.
If you still want to go out, I suggest bring less people, and have the meal preplanned- make it cheaper by having hor dourves or whatever.... earlier in the day is cheap!
2007-01-13 12:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As Miss Manners says: There is no polite way to invite people to take THEMSELVES out to dinner.
The people issuing the invitaion are the hosts, and the hosts' role is to cover the expenses for the event they are planning.
Find a way to have a celebration that you CAN afford. Maybe at home or with just snacks or just desserts int he park or something.
2007-01-13 12:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no tactful or polite way to do this, since it is not done. You cannot invite people out to celebrate then ask them to pay! Gee, I thought destination weddings were fairly expensive, don't you usually fly somewhere exotic? Congrats!
2007-01-13 13:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, it might not be apprioriate no matter how you do it - but there is a way around that. Ask your parents to host the party. They can send out invites, letting people know were the party will be and that it is a pay-your-own type event.
2007-01-13 15:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe have a few family + friends and have a high tea in garden or something maybe go to a garden and have a afternoon tea there or just have a casual picnic and say "Please, Bring a plate". Any way where are you going for the wedding?????? Good Luck xoxo :)
2007-01-13 14:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by E F 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not know of any way to write and tactfully say they are invited to a party for your wedding celebration, but that they have to pay for their own meal. Sorry.
2007-01-13 12:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋