I have recently become pregnant with my boyfriend. I found out about a week and a half ago. Oh and by the way...im 17. My boyfriend is a year older and when I started to tell him the news.. he proposed!! I love him so much so I said yes and then told him. He is in just as big a shock as I am because ofcouse, we were being safe for our FIRST TIME! well anyway I think im pretty set on having this baby because i've always aspired to have babies..i guess i just wasn't expecting to have it this early. well anyway i just would like to know what you guys think..am i to young??
me and my bf have enough money for a house, i will be able to complete school before the baby comes, bf has a good paying job, and we have enough money to support ourselves and the baby..plus our parents were mad but have let us known that they love us and support whatever we want to do. Am I to young? are their any teen mothers to tell me their experiences? I will let you know how this this all turns out in my blog.
2007-01-13 11:53:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well, I think you sound like you've got a plan. Just make sure you're not jumping into the marriage for the wrong reasons. You could always live together and take care of the baby and see how that goes first. I found out I was pregnant when I was 18, right after I separaed from my husband, so I know how scary all this is. Yes, it is hard to do. Having a baby is a huge responsibility that never goes away, but the biggest help to me was my family. If you have a family that will support you guys emotionally (any maybe even help financially sometimes) through all this then you'll do fine. You just have to be strong, know what you want, and go for it. It sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders though. I'm glad you're finishing school, that's a big thing. Just keep yourself on the right track and you'll be fine. Good luck!
2007-01-13 12:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first child. I had him at 18. I am still with the father of my son and we have 4 children total now.
I think having a child at any age can be difficult. Especially at a young age. You sort of add to it, really. However, that doesn't mean that you can't overcome those hurdles and make a great life for you and your family. You will need the support of loved ones and you will need to be strong for each other when it is needed. If you love each other and you are willing to make it work, then I say go for it. Do your best to provide a loving and safe home for that child. Don't forget to love and nurture your relationship with your boyfriend as well. Sometimes we focus so much on our child that we neglect ourselves and our relationships. You don't want that to suffer because it can effect your whole family.
Congrats on the pregnancy and good luck :) You certainly sound like you have thought quite a few things out already.
2007-01-15 06:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you both love each other I don't see why not. Sounds like you have a nice plan set up. I got married at 15 ( not because I had to, because our parents allowed it). I had my daughter at 16. Completed high school and went on to complete nursing school. That marriage only lasted about a 2 1/2 years, but that's not saying yours won't last. You are older and have a good plan. We were just too young and being stupid. LOL. It was rough, but I had much more HS to complete than you do. I think you can do it, I wish you the very best and I hope that you have a happy, healthy little baby!!!! Congrats to you and your b/f!!
2007-01-13 12:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I had my first baby. It wasn't the best of circumstances. I was still in high school and still living with my parents. They were not happy at first, but never really blew up or said anything hateful. They were there the whole time with me. When he was a year and a half old he got sick. They were right there with me, helping me along the way.
A great support system is wonderful to have. I think that it is better to have children younger, because you can keep up with them. Imagine being 40 trying to catch up with a toddler. You will still be young enough to play basketball, tennis, even tackle football with them!!!
Besides there are worse things than parenthood that you could be going through..........
2007-01-13 12:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by operationspiritlift 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should keep the baby
my son was unplaned but he is the best part of my life
i was not a teen mom but having children is hard work it is nothing like tv and nothing like the perfect moms you see sometimes .
no time for friends no time for my boyfriend and i . my boyfriend works during the day until 8 pm i am a stay at home mom and i am beat by the end of the day i sometimes forget when i last was my hair until my boyriend brings it up
but it is worth everything i gave up to have him.
i sa if yo uhave a table enviertment then go for it
have a strong support tean familey and friends to help you out. and give yorself me time even if it 10 mins . just some advice i got along the way that now that my somn is 11 months i wish i would have listen to
good luck and best wishes to you
2007-01-13 12:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by ~*big mama *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when I got pregnant and 17 when my son was born. I have never regretted my decision to keep him. I'm sure that you will be just as happy with yours even if things don't go quite the way you planned. If you have a good support system, which is sounds like you have, you can make this work. But, it'll be hard. Good luck!
2007-01-13 11:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh go for it girl! It sounds like all is going well, and the way you sound, that baby couldn't be in better hands with his or her new parents and grandparents. I did the same thing you did, it was an accident but i have never regretted my daughter. One word of caution, please do not give up your life for your loved ones around you though. Get that education and be able to make a nice living on your own. You never know when you will need to pull your weight either. Good luck to you and God bless!
2007-01-13 12:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by ilfo59 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously wasn't too young to have sex to begin with and you knew what could happen.. But I'm not going to lecture you.. You should absolutly have this baby! To be honest I was 17 when I met my husband and moved in with him not long after I turned 18 and stayed home to take care of his 2 children from his previous marriage.. They were 1 yr and 5 years old! There's absolutly nothing I would've done differently! I LOVED every minute of it! You're pregnant already Love and cherish every second of it! 17 or not you can do it!
2007-01-13 12:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by onfire921 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're all set - even ready to support the baby, and have a great support system in place. Go for it! 17 is kind of young, but as long as you can put your life together and make it work, there's no reason not to.
Best of luck to you!
2007-01-13 12:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a child is a beautiful experience, but at the same time its really tough.............You cant go out as much as you use to and you dont have that much freedom because you have someone counting on you......................Their are ups and downs, but i would never change the bad times, cuz my kids are awesome! They are the greatest gifts that god has given me! I wish you the greatest of luck, you will be a good mommy! Its all worth the struggle when you have that little person tell you they love you!
2007-01-13 12:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋