Hes not short hes just shorter than me. I guess hes avarage but it still bothers me alot. I really really like him but highth is a big deal to me. I guess hes about 3 or 4 inches shorter than me. I'm about 5'9. So tell me how you prefer your bf / gf and what I should do.
2007-01-13 11:48:59 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I met my husband on-line, well we talked for almost a year before we met and by then I was deeply in love with him. I am five foot three and weigh about eighty pounds he had described himself as six foot and two hundred pounds. It turned out that he was six four and almost four hundred pounds and not from muscle either. That first date gave me a bit of hesitation but I was already in love and it didn't matter what he looked like. That saying love is blind is true for some people and definitely should be true for everyone. A good relationship should never be based on looks because looks change ten twenty even thirty years down the road who's to say that you won't severely shrink in height like some people and he won't. You never know. But you can be pretty sure that a humans basic nature will stay the same. I know to couples that have a serious height difference the first couple the woman is six inches taller than her husband it did bother her at first but they made it past that and have been together for twentyfive years now. The second couple is much younger and it doesn't bother them. there is not much you can do about the height difference if it bothers you a lot it probably wasn't meant to be. sure you can wear platforms or high heals but is it going to solve the problem? just temporarily. if you really really like this man get over it, it's not important
2007-01-13 12:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really consider this when it comes to dating this guy. I have always preferred tall men, but somehow ended up married to a guy that was just a tiny bit shorter than me. I never mentioned it to him, but It always bothered me when it came to dancing, pictures, and when buying shoes. It never bothered me enough to make me leave the guy, but it was just one of those things that sort of nags at you. Like when you walk past a really nice pair of high heel shoes that you know you would look good in, but will also make you will feel like you are walking next to a midget. I realize that might sound kinda mean...but thats how I felt, so I stuck with the flats. Later I divorced him (for other reasons) and now I'm dating this really tall guy. I cant tell how excited I was the first time I went out and bought some really high heels and he was still taller than me.
So anyways...If you are really into the guy..his height probably shouldnt be a big issue, but if you're not.....take a look at the shoes in your closet and think carefully!
2007-01-13 12:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by lady_daizee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer taller guys but I wouldn't pass on a great guy just because he was shorter than I was. Given the fact that you are tall, do you really want to write off a good chunk of the available dating pool for no other reason than their height?
Everyone has their preferences though. If it bothers you that much and you cannot get past it (I can't get past a combover, myself) then move on and hope you don't live to regret it.
2007-01-13 11:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking at your life as others see you. If you like someone, see them for yourself. What is more important to you, happiness, or popularity. If YOU truly are the one that has a problem with the height difference, and it's not what you think others might think, then you will never feel comfortablewith this person, and the reasons may be gut instinct.
2007-01-13 11:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by picalibur 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an issue with boyfriends shorter than me, and some of them have been shorter. To me it's about attraction and personality, and height just simply does not factor.
2007-01-13 11:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by suzanne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER date anyone shorter than me. My boyfriend used to tease me about liking Tom Cruise because he says he would be the only guy shorter than me. I am around 4'11 and I am 24, so I will not grow anymore.
2007-01-13 11:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like short guys, makes me feel impowered, at 5'9, you are going to meet a lot of guys shorter than you, if you rule them all out, that would be kinda prejudice, if you really like him, why would a few inches matter??
2007-01-13 11:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. I have had girl friends taller then me, but even though it didn’t bother them, it subconsciously bothered me. It is definitely a personal choice, but if it bothers one of you, it may have an impact on the relationship later. If you can get over the feeling, then having him wear boots and you wearing flats may help.
2007-01-13 11:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by last_of_the_romantic_men 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his height is that big of a deal to you, then let him go. But think about what you are giving up. Is what you are giving up worth giving up over a couple of inches in height?
2007-01-13 11:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem but once we got serious i realized it was no big deal. If that doesnt work simply mention height indirectly and see what he does chances are if you are self conscious about him being short hes self conscious about you being tall. Wear flats if neccessary.
2007-01-13 11:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋