So my parents split up last may, and my mom has been seeing this guys since june. I do not mind the guy, but since she has been seeing him, i think she forgot how to be a mom. She hasnt cooked me or my bro a meal in like 2 months. Even though i am am 16 and can cook, and my dad always cooks when we are over there, it is still very upsetting. What teen should have to cook for her and her brother after school and work? She also never grocery shops or is ever home to clean. It is all left up to me. I'm only one person, and i'm only a teen. What do i do???
2007-01-13 11:47:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've tried to tell her that i want her to cook or grocery shop, but she says how tired she is cuz she worked 40 hours that week, but i go to school 35 and work 26 hours a week. anytime i accuse her of something she says that i'm full of **** and she is right and i am wrong.
2007-01-13 12:04:40 · update #1
As a mom I could have cried just for you.
You are getting over your parent splitting up and no,
you don,t mind your mom seeing this new guy. So
I think that shows maturity. But you are only 16 and
you do need your mom to be there for you., and she
is not there for you because she is so full of this new
relationship. You must talk to your mom about the
way you feel. Tell her you miss her being there for
you and that you cannot cope on your own. (I know
you do but you should not have to) Also your dad
should be made aware of the situation - ask him
for help and advice. If I was your mom I would be
very, very proud of you!!! Good Luck!
2007-01-13 12:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok let's get it straight,first and foremost you got it twisited...Respect for one thing should be first and foremost.I don't think your giving your mother any credit.Sit down with her in a RESPECTFUL way and let her know how you feel and what you see,Remind her that she had you and your bro not you.As a matter of fact she is responsible for both of you till your 18.If you can cook good for you keep doing that.Your househoid sounds like it needs some new ground rules..
2007-01-13 12:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes doing the "Its my turn now" thing.You should just tell her what you told me.Maybe she thinks you want to be more independant because of your age,but she needs to know that you dont want things to change so fast.Tell her you dont mind her having a relationship with this guy but she has to find some "me and the kids time"also.Tell her once a week you would like to have a mother~daughter day.Just you and her.You pick what you do one week and she picks the next week.
2007-01-13 12:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by GranGran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, i have the same kind of mom. well she and my dad didnt split up, but they got mad at each other and they didnt see eachother since a wk ago. and ever since our trip to las vegas my mom is starting to act like a 5 year old that wants everything to be about her, gets whatev she wants and i dinn have to cook but i have to take care of her like im the mom and she's the daughter and i just turned 12 in dec and i still have school and school problems so........ dont be depressed
2007-01-13 11:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd sit her down and tell her, either she starts helping around the house and quit acting like a rebellious teenager with a hormone problem. Tell her work first then play.
Tell her you are sick and tired of playing mommy to her and your brother.
2007-01-13 12:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
express to your mom how you feel. it seems like your mom is all about her self. tell your mom every thing. say YOUR NOT BEING A MOM! i feel you though cause i had to go through the same thing. i told my mom and she got her **** together. cause if you dont express your self your mom will never know. stay strong and be there for your little brother. cause if your mom isnt doing her job someone does. sooner or later it will work out for you.
2007-01-13 11:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by ms. williams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HER! Tell her how you feel, if she doesn't respond, and if you feel it necessary, ask to be placed in you're fathers home, but if you do so, keep in mind, you must speak to a judge, this can be hard, you have to prove that she is not taking care of you and your brother, it is her responsibilty to care for you two, not yours, you didn't give birth to yourself and brother......you're 16, you should have a life.
2007-01-13 11:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Heavenly Bunny (VT) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand your situation and i know its rough on you but think about your mom..the split up still cant be easy on her even though she is dated someone else...and if it seriously bothers you that much then you should definately talk to your mother...tell her how you and your brother feel maybe she will remember how it used to be and go back to being the mom she always was.
2007-01-13 11:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kind of had the same problem and felt like my..........was forgetting about me and my siblings but maybe your mom is just trying to get over the pain but you should talk to her cause im sure she dosent notice the way you feel just explain to her and you will see the diffrence tell her you feel like she dosent care no more and tell her exactly your emotions well wish you the best besos 1
2007-01-13 13:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Te Amo PaRA SIeMPrE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her. It has been so long since she was dating a guy she is probably really excited about that. She my not even realize that you are feel neglected and overwhelmed.
2007-01-13 11:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by dolphinsfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋