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My boyfriend will invite me places and than change is mind an hour later. We wouldn't be doing anything too exciting- maybe sitting down watching a movie, or even laying down and watching a movie.. idk. Anyway he has told me three times in the past two weeks "I just feel like relaxing today" and doesnt want to hang out. He doesnt have a job! He quit a couple weeks ago and is waiting to get his car fixed up to start another job. Recently all he does is watch tv, play video games, eat, and sleep. Why does he need to "relax"? What do i say? It hurts me that he cancels.. and i've told him, but it just isnt sinking in!

2007-01-13 11:36:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

9 answers

You sure know how to pick winners.

2007-01-13 11:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you should try telling him what you feel straight up to his face not in a accusing way sort of thing just as a point of what your feeling, if you get what i mean. example: "Lately you (boyfriend) have been acting really different like i feel your not the same person as you were, your not really taking any interest in anything like it hurts me when you invite me somewhere and i get all dressed up and then last minute you change your mind. I really like you but I just wish you would get back to your old self."
If his reaction is just like whatever sort of thing then you can also add in "If this is gonna be a continuous thing with you and if your not gonna change soon then i think we are gonna have to have some time apart until you get back to your old self again, one of the many qualities that I liked about you was the fact that you had a job and we would do exciting things and that was one of the things I loved about you but now its just like you have changed and I want things to get back to normal". Hopefully when you say that he will get the point and actually do something about his ways and make in effort to change.

Best of luck, Keisha

2007-01-13 11:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

it could be countless issues yet I assure if he didn't want then you definately he does not be able to get it up. you're what you eat, if he eats junk foodstuff all day then why are not you cooking him some good foodstuff. it really is the time he needs help because he's definitely in a minimum of a mini melancholy. it could be his job yet regardless of this if he replaced into satisfied jointly with his existence then he should be at liberty jointly with his job so it ought to have not something to do with it. it could be an age aspect as well and also you've not factor out a at the same time as. and obviously he received't go away you adore notes and all a majority of those issues anymore, human beings try too difficult interior the starting up of relationships and lose who they truly are by technique of putting on a coach for his or her better half and then get burnt out at the same time as they comprehend they ought to save it going. per chance he's in simple terms showing his genuine colorings as he can not save up what he began. enable's placed it this type, any relationship that has sex 3 situations an afternoon is questionable as to what type of relationship it truly is. the position do get to spend high quality relationship time if all you're doing is having sex. and three situations per week isn't something to ***** about, that is probable an truly good quantity truly as you've your sexual relationship and then the different situations for different issues. per chance you do not comprehend how a lot you ***** and it truly is getting him down. I say this because I had a lady friend communicate about once how a lot I ***** and that i heavily did not comprehend on the time so i chanced on that the precedence interior the relationship replaced into me taking issues with none interest and by no skill being waiting to income from the straightforward issues. per chance you're too severe and also you boyfriend needs some down time. Relationships go in waves and that is continuously on both 12 months era that oxytocin, the affection chemical interior the mind, wears off and the relationship takes a clean direction. you're literally heading into yet another financial ruin of the relationship and also you want to safeguard your man or woman needs as in case your boyfriend wasn't there and make confident you do not lose your individuality as living as couple can get draining if existence is all about the relationship. he needs his storage time

2016-11-23 16:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

He may be depressed and since he lost his job maybe he really doesn't have the funds to spend on hanging out like that. See if it gets better after he has more money.

2007-01-13 11:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0 0

I sometimes wonder if this is how all men are once they get comfortable in a relationship!! You just need to tell him that it hurts your feelings, because maybe he's just in a slump since he doesn't have a job and really is starting to get lazy. Just talk to him about it

2007-01-13 11:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by brandi_boydston 1 · 0 0

You need to rake charge. & if he doesn't listen. tell him u'll leave him. say anything ti make him change his ways. if he cancels anither date or refuses to do something & be a lzy bum... just completely flip out. Lose ur cool something bad. make him see u don't diserve it. if none of that works, i don't know. but good luck anyway!!

2007-01-13 11:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by stevieglenwright 3 · 0 0

He's lost his interest in you. and hasn't got the Guts to stand up to it. He's a Loser! Give yourself some respect. `Cause that Clown isn't. WALK AWAY!

2007-01-13 11:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0 0

Time to dump him.

2007-01-13 11:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0 0

support his intelligence. lmao.

2007-01-13 11:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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