Any tips to quit musterbation?

Question

As a 22 years old boy, I have full respect fo those who say musterbation has no harm. But I think it does harm me. Always after doing the business I lose almost most of my memory, then my joints all over the body hurt me so badly and tears keep running from my eyes. This has been the experience of 5 years. I think if it could be a job, I could have had the highest promotion. I don't believe I've spend such a long time in such a craft(habit). The problem now my whole body is deteriorating; i used to be a good athete, now I cant catch a roast in our backyard. I have thought to go and have ordinary sex. The biggest problem is that I live in a place where sex before marriage is a crime worse than possessing nuclear weapons. The only thing I want now is to get a way out of this. Can anyone who has quited musterbation before descride some tips for me to follow? One last thing; I am asking this here because it's such a shame to talk about this with anyone in a society I live in. plz any tips

Answer 1

I feel so sorry for you! As one of Jehovah's Witness, here is a hellpful article for you!!

It is general knowledge that today people of the world, including a large percentage of churchgoers, being “past all moral sense,” encourage and recommend the unnatural practice of masturbation. (Eph. 4:19) In striking contrast, true Christians seek to learn and follow what God’s Word the Bible says on matters of sex and morals. True, the words “masturbation” and “self-abuse” are not in the Bible. The Mosaic law speaks of “emission of semen,” but as Bible commentators point out, the reference is to involuntary nocturnal emissions, not self-induced ejaculations. (Lev. 15:16) However, there are Bible principles that adequately cover the subject of masturbation.

For example, Colossians 3:5, 6 says: “Deaden, therefore, your body members that are upon the earth as respects fornication, uncleanness, sexual appetite, hurtful desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these things the wrath of God is coming.” As we have seen, masturbation is indeed a “hurtful desire.” It is also “uncleanness,” for it is an immoral practice, and this explains why the masturbator generally is ashamed of himself and hides his repugnant act from the sight of others.

The Christian apostle Paul’s counsel is right to the point: “God called us, not with allowance for uncleanness, but in connection with sanctification.” And again he writes: “Therefore, since we have these promises, beloved ones, let us cleanse ourselves of every defilement of flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in God’s fear.”—1 Thess. 4:7; 2 Cor. 7:1.

What about the “sexual appetite” of the masturbator? Is it ‘deadened’? Or does he constantly feed and enliven his sexual craving, yes, even to the point of “planning ahead for the desires of the flesh,” contrary to the Bible’s advice?—Rom. 13:14.

The scripture mentions that “covetousness, which is idolatry,” should also be ‘deadened.’ This would apply here, for the masturbator’s affection is diverted away from the Creator and is bestowed upon a coveted object, in this case his genitals, which take on undue importance. This practice then could border on idolatry, as in the ancient practice of phallic worship so hated by God. Instead of being devoted ‘whole-souled to Jehovah’ (Col. 3:23), the person can become a slave to his fleshly sexual impulses, desires and appetite and make these the object of his devotion. “Such men,” the apostle says, “are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own base passions,” “their appetites are their god.”—Rom. 16:18; Phil. 3:19, An American Translation.

“Autoerotism” literally means self-love or erotic love of oneself. It is another term that fittingly applies to masturbation, for the persistent practice causes a person’s thoughts to be turned inward so that he becomes self-centered and selfish, with problems in trying to relate himself to others. For this reason some psychologists have labeled self-gratifying masturbation as narcissism, after the Greek mythological god Narcissus, who fell in love with his own image, to his destruction. Did not the Bible warn that “men will be lovers of themselves” in these “last days”?—2 Tim. 3:1, 2.

Cultivating singleness as “eunuchs on account of the kingdom of the heavens” has many advantages in this time of the end. (Matt. 19:12; 1 Cor. 7:32-38) But let no one think that resorting to masturbation is the way to do this. Rather, self-control is the key to making a success of singleness. ‘Without self-control, let them marry,’ is still the best advice.—1 Cor. 7:9.

‘But won’t suppressing sexual emotions damage my personality and wreck my nervous system?’ someone may ask. Answers the book Why Wait Till Marriage?: “There is no evidence that self-control hurts your sex life. . . . It is the fellow or the girl who goes around with his emotions all unbuttoned who is in the greatest danger. The self-controlled person can bear to wait.” And this is no great problem if one has God’s spirit, for the fruitage of the spirit includes “self-control.” With self-control the Christian can avoid all forms of self-abuse, and in turn reap many dividends—mental, emotional and spiritual benefits that are far more satisfying than the death-dealing “works of the flesh.”—Gal. 5:19-23.

But how does this habit that bothers the conscience of so many people ever get a hold on them in the first place?

PREVENTION AND CURE

If one understands the cause, it is easier to implement the prevention and cure of a bad habit. Did you know, for example, that mothers and fathers who stroke the genitals of their fretful babies to keep them quiet are unwittingly encouraging them to become masturbators later on? Boys and girls may start to play with their private parts during puberty and, not receiving any counsel against this, the first thing they know they are “hooked” on the habit. And if some know nothing about such self-abuse before entering high school, the chances are they will learn of it from either fellow students or the teachers themselves.

Investigations indicate that a high percentage of masturbation is not due so much from a buildup in erotic pressure as from the same kinds of tension and anxiety that cause insomnia. Youths and many older people who are tense with emotional difficulties resort to masturbation as an escape route from their physical and emotional discomforts—a sort of pacifier or tranquilizer, they think, to take their minds off their worries. So, too, persons suffering from boredom, unemployed persons and prisoners, especially if they have been on drugs, often masturbate.

By avoiding these things that cause and encourage the practice, a person goes a long way toward preventing the tenacious habit from getting started in the first place. But what can the thousands of persons who now have the habit do to break it?

Many things are suggested. Avoid keeping company either with pornographic literature or with those who have loose morals. Stay busy working hard, physically and mentally. Do not let problems build up tensions, which cause anxieties that depress the mind. This is not too difficult if one follows the Bible’s counsel at Matthew 6:25, 33 and at Philippians 4:8. Never be a “loner,” seeking to isolate yourself. So, at nighttime arrange to share a bedroom with other members of the family. Sleep on the side, not on the back or stomach. These are a few suggestions for arranging the daily routine.

However, one can never hope to break the habit without having a heartfelt desire to quit. As long as “the desire of the flesh and the desire of the eyes” are stronger than one’s desire to please Jehovah, it is difficult to stop. (1 John 2:16; compare James 1:14, 15.) Once having a genuine desire to break free of the undesirable habit, arm yourself further with these all-important weapons—willpower, determination and self-control—if you hope to win the battle. Then, too, prayer cannot be overlooked, for Jehovah promises to help those asking for help in handling all our problems.—Phil. 4:13; Col. 4:2; 1 Pet. 4:7.

Some persons find it most difficult to discontinue the habit abruptly. So, when they occasionally relapse—usually in a state of semiconscious sleep—they develop deep feelings of guilt and of being unworthy of Jehovah’s mercy. For these reasons it is not only helpful but often advisable to seek the aid and encouragement of a Christian elder. When a girl has the problem she may want to approach either an elder or a mature, respected Christian sister for help.—Titus 2:2-4.

Another motivating force to help one to break the habit may be the desire to be of greater service in the Christian congregation. If a man is “reaching out” for such privilege he should note that one of the requirements for Christian eldership is ‘self-control.’ (1 Tim. 3:1; Titus 1:8) If a man regularly and habitually masturbates, could he measure up to such standards? True, one who already occupies such position may have a temporary bout with the problem and, if he fights it and gains the victory, he need not feel disqualified. But the habitual practicer of masturbation, lacking self-control, is in danger of succumbing to still more serious wrongs. He is hardly in position to serve as ‘an example to the flock.’ (1 Pet. 5:2, 3) Desire to be of loving service to God and one’s brother, then, can also aid one to free oneself from the practice of self-abuse.

Answer 2

First of all, there should be no reason for your body is respond to a natural human action like that, other than a true medical problem. If this has been going on for 5 years, then you seriously need to see a professional physician. It sounds to me that there may be an underlying circumstance that is causing you to lose memory, your joints aching, etc. I would immediatly discuss this with your health care provider, as this is not a typical reaction to having an orgasm. What kind of society do you live in by the way? I am sorry that your have to opressed. It could also be a psychological problem if you are unable to freely have innocent sex with yourself. SEEK MEDICAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSISTANCE!

Answer 3

you are only human and your body has to exchange bodily fluids regularly.if not you get full of tensions

the musterbation releases these tensions,if you gave it up all together it might do you more harm or you nuts could explode ,or you would be asking about blue balls

better keep going but limit it to saterday nights only ,that is the same sex life of the avarage Bruttish working person,

Answer 4

You are not a boy anymore.
The symptoms you describe should
be talked about to a doctor.
They are serious enough to suggest
you have other medical conditions which
no one here on Yahoo is qualified to diagnose.
Go and see a doctor asap.

And no, there are no tips on how to stop.
Just do it less often. Maybe only once a day,
instead of all day long.

Answer 5

You could look up Herbs on the net that decrease sexual ability. Then go out and buy them safely knowing other will not know what they are for. When you feel like returning to normal function just simply stop them and in a week or two... well you know.

Answer 6

Oh I am not even going to read all of that crap. You need to get some will power and stop being a pu ssy..Now when a woman tells u that then u know if u can't stop then u need help.Get professional help.Good luck

Answer 7

Salt causes bloating and butter is an excellent source of calories, so flavor pasta, soups, meat, and stews with refreshing herbs, garlic, and onions instead.

Answer 8

it is a shame that a young guys sexuality and what he goes through is considered shameful, what you do is 100; percent normal and i say go out and get laid. That is the only solution.

Answer 9

Add protein powder to special recipes (like these Rice Krispies treats) to boost the nutrition.

Answer 10

Wear a construction worker glove.

Answer 11

I dunno what to tell ya i mean all i can think of is when you feel the urge to masturbate is to try n take your mind off of what is going through your head by getting up and doing something that will help distract you from your thoughts and hopefully you will forget that you had the urge to please yourself. I dunno what else to say but hope i was some kind of help good luck!