My gradma just died...
2007-01-13 11:10:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
There is no CORRECT way to handle this pain. Everyone shows it in different ways. Some are very forthright in showing their sadness and others hold it in. My father died several years ago and it was devastating. I found it best to just be alone at times with my own thoughts and memories and let the tears flow. But dont be ashamed to show your feelings and hurt in front of others...the comfort you receive from them is priceless. Just know they are in a better place, free from pain and troubles and its another step in the stages of life.Though its I think the hardest stage in life to accept. Hold on to your memories and trust they knew you loved them...what greater gift could you have given them. Its never easy...just take time to grieve in the way you are most comfortable with. Time passes...memories are forever.
2007-01-13 11:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Shari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear that.
Right now, you are probably in shock/denial about your loss. Realize that you will go through a grieving process, and that everyone does not grieve in the same way. Some people will cry immediately--others may not cry for a month or two. Some go right back to school/work--others need a good deal of time off.
When we lost our mother, my brother was full of energy and ready to close her house down. My son and myself wanted to do nothing other than call and write to people who knew my mom, and keep talking about her.
However you grieve, it is okay--even if it is totally different than most other members of your family. Some people like to take out photo albums and look at all the pictures of grandma. That's fine--even if there are 500 albums.
I hope you feel better as soon as possible.
2007-01-13 19:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing a loved one is never easy - both my parents are deceased and I have have lost several friends and family members over the years....so I have learned a few things. First of all, allow yourself to grieve...grieving is important part of your healing. If you feel like crying - do so. Allow yourself to look at old photos or talk about your grandma and the little things she did for you that meant so much. Remember those little things, those special moments and cherish them and share them with others. Little by little you will realize that she will always be with you. Her memories are yours forever. The moments you shared with her are yours forever. The first year...the first holidays, birthdays and so on will be difficult, that's true but you are fortunate that you had a chance to get to know your grandma. She will always love you..you can talk to her whenever you need to...she will hear you - so take comfort that she is close. Too often we don't let go - we miss them so much but take comfort that she is in a better place. Keep her in your prayers and she will keep you in her prayers.
2007-01-13 19:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by RITI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww!!! i'm so sorry!!! i think the best way to cope with death is NOT to forget, NOT to pretend like it didn't happen. talking to people really helps.
even though it's hard to have someone that u cared about die, it can help families grow together. a few years ago i had a nephew that was born with a heart defect and he only lived for four days. at first i thought it was the worst thing that had ever happened to me, but then i realized that no, it wasn't a bad thing at all. it made me really appreciate my family and realize how much they mean to me. it made my sisters and me closer to each other, and it got my brother-in-law into the church. so the best thing for u to do is to always remember ur grandma and always remember how precious she was in ur life and especially remember that something good will come out of it because everything happens for a reason.
2007-01-13 21:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. People deal with death in many different ways. There is no right or wrong way to deal with your feelings. Try writing in a journal. Think of all the good memories you have of your grandma. I'm not saying that you will stop missing her, but in time, the hurt will pass.
2007-01-13 19:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, like all things time. It took me yrs. before I got over the death of my dad in 1980. Now that I'm 47 I can still say I miss him, but not to the painfulness that I felt before. I hope this helps you your time of healing. Also talking to other family members and friends can help too and if need be a therapist.
2007-01-13 19:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by One Hand One Heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, darlin'...I am so very sorry you lost your grandmother. The hurt you have is so deep and endless and I'm afraid that it will stay like that for a while.
Every day will be a little better but you'll feel the loss for quite a while, I'm afraid.
2007-01-13 19:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by kashmir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking about your feelings helps, or writing in a journal, or you could even try making a photo collage or scrapbook of your grandma....
unfortunately it's just one of those things in life that only heals with time....allow yourself the time to grieve....
a great book (super easy reading with good suggestions) that might help is:
how to survive the loss of a love
2007-01-13 20:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
death is very hard for me to even think about also. I will be Praying for you and your Loved ones now that God will be with you and hold you through this and I'm so sorry about your Grandma, hopefully she is in Heaven with Jesus Christ, God. Never to feel any pain again.
2007-01-13 19:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard & takes time but allow yourself to grieve & you will be OK...I'm sorry for your loss
2007-01-13 19:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by Catcanscratch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋