we've only been friends for about a year and a half but we are really close. we flirt all the time and have loads of fun. we spend loads of time together. we tried going out but he said that he didnt want to ruin our friendship. now we are still really good mates. we kiss, hug etc. he calls me at midnight, just to talk. we tells me what our kids will be called and how our future will be (according to him). he even tells me he loves me, but whenever i ask him if he likes me as more than a friend, he says " I dont know how i feel" wtf does that mean? the answer is probably very obvious, but I just need a few impartial people to 'spell it out for me' just so i finally know where i stand. can anyone help? i dont know if he is confused because of our close friendship, or because he likes me but cant say. what do you think?
btw, hes not very outspoken about his feelings. when he says 'i love you' its definately not just a friend thing. (thats the only thing i'm positive about).
2007-01-13 11:00:08 · 11 answers · asked by chatterbox15 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You gotta have this out with him. Tell him that hes messing with your head. You need to be firm and give him an ultimatum. Tell him to go away for a few days and think about if he really loves you and wants to be your boyfriend. Don't contact him in this time just get on with your life. Be strong. If he does want yo he will let you know. If he dosen't you will know as well but I don't think you would be able to salvage a friendship out of this if he dosen't. You will feel p.i.s.s.e.d off with him and hurt etc and you would resent him. I hope he does like you but it's time for the games to stop now.
2007-01-13 11:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally am a little confused with this one, your heading says best friend, then you go on to say "we kiss hug etc" (whatever the etc is) and that he declares his love for you. Maybe YOU are confusing him by asking him what he wants. He IS telling you what he wants by his actions and words, you are just not listening. Maybe he's not ready for a lifelong commitment right now . So relax and stop pushing the issue and enjoy the relationship you share. Could it be you giving mixed signals by asking the obvious.
2007-01-13 11:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by itchyfeetaussie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just likes having someone around that cares about him. Im sure he cares about you but hun hes not the one for you by far. You need to find a new love interest cuz this one is going nowhere fast. He obviously just wants to be friendly friends and there is nothing wrong with that, but i just dont think he is going to help you out romantically.
2007-01-13 11:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by lovingraces 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he definenently likes u and probably wants to go out with u... the reason he wont is probably because he is scared of breaking the friendship... the reason he says he loves u is because he does but just doesnt want to ruin the relationship
2007-01-13 11:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mitch N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably does fancy u and wants it to be more than just close friends but is worried about wot will happen to you both if the relationship doesnt work out so its easier for him in his eyes to pretend that he doesnt know how he feels as he is afraid of losing u for good and either being rejected or more than likely afraid of hurting your current relationship with him i would discuss it with him in private and both of u spell out exactly wot u both want from your relationship other wise your close relationship will just drift apart and u both will be angry with yourself for not trying or setting a clear definition in your relationship with each other
2007-01-13 11:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by ck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the sme situation.... I really dont know what to say to a girl I like....
I just couldn't tell her I love her or not..
2007-01-13 12:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by hirvirs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm may be he is scared of your possible rejection ,or he's wanting to see other people whilst keeping you warm ,you know try be fore you buy syndrome ,tell him to cut the bullshit and either be serious about it or just don't say it at all
2007-01-13 11:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew1968 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men ave a hard time admitin their feelins ave a chat wit him bout wether ure good as mates or more
2007-01-13 11:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you but hes scared of commitment...i can see that right off the bat
2007-01-13 11:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by alex jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why waste your time on this teasing scumbag ratbag..find a guy that wont mess with your head.
2007-01-13 11:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋