We feel as though we love each other (have been talking for hours everyday) and we intend to start a relationship, provided all's well when we meet. I'm a size 14 (UK) 10 (US), so not fat really, but could lose some. My questions are:
1) do you think he'll mind my size?
2) if so, how can I lose a stone (14 lbs) in a month!
2007-01-13 10:59:16 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont meet him..he could be dangerous..if you want to lose wait..eat sensibly and excercise.
2007-01-13 11:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
First of all, a size 14 is a great size to be!
Are you happy with your body? Stop worrying!
It's probably just your nerves now it's coming close to the time when you're actually going to meet him and you're worried he wont like you etc. He's more than likely going through the same, worrying about certain aspects of himself that don't come accross over the internet.
You say you think you love each other? If he cares for you then it wouldnt matter if you were a size 20 would it? Losing weight to please some-one else isn't a good idea, it will make you miserable in the long run. The only time you need to do that is when you feel you should. But don't try lose a stone in a month, you'll end up ill..!!
Finally, take care when you meet him and Good Luck, I hope it works out for you.
:-)
2007-01-13 11:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i don't really think that you should meet up with someone that you've meet on the internet, unless it's a site like Match.com or something. Just make sure that you're safe when you meet him. If you both feel as if you love eachother, then he won't mind your size, because a size 10(US) isn't that big in the first place, but then again, this is FAT AMERICA...but honestly a size 10 is nothing to be ashamed of. But, if you do want to lose 14 pounds in a month, running is a great way to do so. If you're not a good runner then build up to be one....jog for a minute, walk for minute, jog for a minute, walk for a minute, and repeat that for 20 minutes the first day, then up it to 90seconds jogging and walking the next day, and gradually increase it everyday. If you do that for a month you'll look great!!!! I hope everything works out for you...and remember...BE SAFE WHEN YOU GO TO MEET HIM!!!! Because you don't really know who he is yet...not until you talk to him in person...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2007-01-13 11:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
FIRST OF ALL - stop worrying about how you look, and spend time finding a friend to accompany you to the meeting place!
I met a guy I was nuts about on the internet, but I made sure he had no photos of me, and that I knew all about him first. We met in a crowded hotel, and I had left my friends a note that if I did not call withiin 1 hour of meeting to come look for me.
That being said, I am/was chubby and despite the fact he never knew what I looked like until we met, he had no problems. Like you, we felt we were friends for a long time, but we also spoke over the phone a lot and it took about a year to meet.
A US size 10 is pretty skinny BTW, so stop worrying about it. If you have feelings for each other and the way you look affects it that much - or the way he looks - then it's probably not relationship material anyway.
2007-01-13 11:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything like this is high risk as both of you may not be who they say they are...
As others mentioend. He may be a lot older and anyone can put any picture.
Equally he may be a nice kid... What worries me is how about his photo.
If you meet him do so on these conditions...
1) Its somewhere public
2) You do NOT get into a car or back alley.
3) You do NOT give an address
4) You have two adults who can fight seriously poss your dad watching nearby (at least two who can follow you) and do not mention them at all.
5) Ask if ok that your brother be there to meat you (get an older mate if nec on top of the two guys. When you meet him take his photo on your mobile phone and message it to your mum or dad... Say mum or dad insisted on it likewise if he has a car the numberplate but as said dont get in or near it.
Have text mesages in phone readdy to send if you dont feel right or feel in danger.
Have a second phone hidden if possible... borrow one.
If all turns out ok fine... better to be safe then sorry.
Maybe lie and say you dad or uncle is a cop.
Or military police would be better. Find out about any nearby bases so you can say where.
A real guy would be cool with all this and actually should be doing the same till you have met several times and been given the ok.
This is as lots of vary nasty people catch kids by making friends on the net and arrnging pick ups as well as perfectly nice boys.
Thats first...
As for loosing weight get advice from a doctor on what to diet safely and do lots of exercise... swimming is good.
2007-01-13 13:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just lost a little bit of weight and now I'm just one size smaller than you. I know what you feel like though 'cause I've been in the same predicament. I always just made sure to tell the guy that I was meeting that I wasn't a skinny girl. I guess my reasoning behind that was that if he showed up expecting me to be larger than he'd be happy when he saw that I was just an average size.
It is possible to lose about 5lbs at least in a month if you want to. You have to be really dedicated though. I lost weight by cutting my calorie content down to 1000 calories/day. I worked out a little bit too.
It's tricky getting to know someone really well on the internet first. I've had it blow up in my face before where I was crazy about this guy and we met and he was hot, but he was just a smaller guy....which wasn't my style. Good Luck. Keep your self confidence no matter what.
2007-01-13 11:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are too worried.
Go out, have a nice time.
Make sure to go somewhere public for your first couple meetings - you must do this to be safe.
If you two have really talked alot online then your body shouldn't be that much of a concern - at least you know that you will be able to find things to talk about and might be friends even if the romance isn't there.
You might also find that he is not quite what he looks like in his pictures.
Honesty is the best policy. Have a friend take a full body picture of you so that you can send it to him. Take alot of pictures so that you can choose the one you like best.
Good Luck!
2007-01-13 11:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A US size 10 is a medium, depending on your height. If you are 5' tall you'll be rather heavy...if you are 5'6" then it's not so bad (just a bit over average sized)...
Why have you been hiding this from him? You two aren't in love, you just want to be...you don't know each other and you're already worried he'll find your size unappealing...that's not anything to base a relationship on...if you'd been up front from the get go, you wouldn't need to be worrying now, would you?
If you watch your calorie intake and exercise several days a week, you could easily lose 10 lbs in a month...but if you feel you need to change yourself to satisfy him, then is he really someone you want to be with? Think about it...change yourself for YOU, not anyone else.
2007-01-13 11:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Online, size seems to be an issue! Offline men who genuinely like you as a person, are not bothered by your weight. Trust me, I have had the same anxieties and I have NEVER had a problem in reality!
If you seriously want to lose some weight over the next month, then join a slimming club.
2007-01-13 11:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Colette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen a couple where one is really cute and one is really freakin ugly? That should be enough to tell you. Looks don't matter if someone has a personality. If this guys loves your personality already then he'll be turned on by the rest. If he's not when you meet then he's full of sh*t.
No saying your the ugly one but I am saying looks shouldn't be the deciding factor.
2007-01-13 11:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by Juicy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt accept you as you are, he is not the one for you. Simple as that.
Size 14 is NOT big, my god, im a size 20 and have a fab hubby and I get chatted up and flirted with all the time. Men who chat me up can see my size quite clearly but they still chat me up. Its all about personality, not what size you are.
Forget about losing weight and get yourself a fab new outfit, that way you will feel great and confident and he wont notice your size cos you will be fun to be with.
Stay safe on your date and make sure someone knows where you are.
xx
2007-01-13 11:05:53 · answer #11 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋