almost every time you tell her off...according to my coworker she does this on purpose, so we won´t tell her off anymore, I don´t believe it, I think the child is just very sensitive and doesn´t pee in her pants on purpose....I mean , how long can she have been potty-trained for?? and besides I don´t think a 2-year.old can think of such a strategy... what do you think?
2007-01-13 10:55:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I agree with the 1rst answerer,but my coworker is terrible, e.g. she literally pushes the food in her mouth when the girl isn´t eating which of course makes the girl cry and not eat at all...PD these are Spanish standards; I am Dutch and have been taught different ways of approaching small children, but right now I can´t afford to lose this job...
2007-01-13 11:05:47 · update #1
excuse me Dory, I am the nice one here, probably the nicest teacher the kids have had and will looking at how things are here in Spain..maybe I didn´t express my self very well using the expression "to tell off", it´s not my native language, maybe I should have said "correct wrong behaviour" or smt..
2007-01-13 11:12:28 · update #2
no one seems to read the question properly, I am NOT telling her off for wetting her pants!!!!geez
2007-01-13 11:15:20 · update #3
THANK YOU SO MUCH, RADIO!!! my husband agrees that the kids can´t afford to lose me!! I made anoter toddler more confident and talkative in just the 2 weeks I´ve been there!!
2007-01-13 11:29:11 · update #4
What do you mean when you say tell her off? She's 2. If you're being really mean that can cause her to wet herself, not because she's doing it to hurt you but out of fear. She probably is very sensitive and you all should watch how you talk to her when she isn't behaving. Even though you may not think you're being mean that's how she is percieving your words and tone and it's scaring her.
2007-01-13 11:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ndpndnt 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont' think kids are that intuitive - to pee on purpose, But if she is scared by the way your coworker is comming at her, it could be a reflex. Also, do you know her home life? Do her parents spend a lot of time with her? This maybe a way to get attention. whather it be good, or bad. Also, if she is punished to severly at home, IE spankings, slappings, she may be afraid that you coworker is going to do the same.
Talk to her parents about it - they may have some suggestions, and the same thing could be happing at home - it could be she is just simply not reday to be potty trained yet
2007-01-13 11:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child has their accidents you cant yell at them for it. My daughter is potty training and sometimes still has accidents. You just take them to the toilet. It has nothing to do with how long the child has been potty trained for. And for a 2 year old to think of such a strategy, that's just going a bit too far don't you think, she is just a little girl. Everyone has their accidents don't get mad at them.
2007-01-13 11:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One, a child this young, may not think of such a strategy, but, if she sees that it gets attention, she may be using it.. However, kids, as you well know, all train at a different age... and, this may be a simple case of stress, or separation anxiety. Talk to the parent/s about this, and see if it's a problem at home..
2007-01-13 11:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a two year old is old enough to figure out that this is a way to get her own way. However, the correction you give may be different from what she is use to and she could be nervous. Try a different approach.
Talk to her parents about the situation. Bring her to the potty more often and talk to her about why she does this and how she feels when it happens.
2007-01-13 11:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear that is pretty normal with boys around that age. try reminding him constantly to go to the bathroom. i think it happens because they are lazy and get too involved in playing or doing other things and that is why they do it. My son used to pee his bed a lot, but thank god that has stopped. I used to get mad, but he just kept on doing it. So I stopped getting mad and pretended like I didnt even care, and he stopped doing it. He is 6 now and hasnt had an accident for about a year and a half. Try sending a bag with extra clothes with your son to school. And put it in his backpack and tell him, "since you cant find the time to go to the restroom, I am sending extra clothes with you to school so you can change into after you pee on yourself." maybe he will feel a little embarrassed and stop doing it.
2016-05-23 22:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct. I two year old is barely potty trained. While a two year old can be very clever, this scheme that your insane co-worker has attributed to the toddler is far fetched. I understand that you can't lose your job. It sounds like these kids cannot afford to lose you. If people where you work are like this co-worker, then it reallt reinforces my decision to quit my job, havea my husband work 1.5 jobs so that we could keep our daughter out of daycare. Continue to be kind to the children you care for and stand up for them if that psycho does anything abusive.
2007-01-13 11:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by -- 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad the different types of care our wee ones receive away from mommy. look up reggio emilia schools. respect is so important. I do have a three yr old in my class that will pee herself just to get out of doing something. I take it as a stage that will pass. Fussing over this behavior will just make it worse, or keep the child doing it.
2007-01-13 15:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bobbi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you have the right idea about how children should be treated! all i can tell you to do is to go with your gut and when the children respond positively to you (which they will!) then maybe your co-worker will see what you are doing and the results and will hopefully begin to change her behavior!! just stand firm on your beliefs and do what you know is right for these children!!!
2007-01-13 14:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by mrskumar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling at a young girl for peeing in her pants is probably making matters worse. How terrible of your coworker for doing so. I would suggest talking to the parents and letting them know what is going on.
BTW, what's the name of the daycare so I know never to send my kids there?
2007-01-13 11:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by dolly 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋