I am 19 and he is 22, W have only been married for 8 months, but already he dosent seem to care if we have sex or not. If i dont have sex with his for a few days he will just go look at porn and get off that way. I have tried going out and getting sex outfits/lingure. Toys just about anything and still nothing. He tells me that he dosent care if i get outfits its my choice. Like i didnt have to do it. I want to know what can i do about this or what is wrong with him.
I am 125 pounds, 5'6, blond hair, green eyes, and a perfect smile. I dont control him and i try to make him happy but its like he dosent even care half the time. Please help i need to know what to do. Or what he is doing.
2007-01-13 10:25:48 · 19 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-13 10:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All Men have strange feelings having sex with a pregnant wife. THey are concerned about the health of the baby as well as the mothers. And 6 months pregnant its time to be careful anyway. The worst part that I need to tell you is that men also will be really jealous of the baby up until the 2nd year for some men. It really happens. And the mother is programmed to take care of the baby first and that is how it should be always. Second baby did you get your tubes tied or did he? He could be concerned later about another baby. Also, when your breast feeding there is the issue of when you get excited and milk starts to flow. Some men dont mind some find it sick some give it a taste and get sick all the above. I think you need to give hubby some time to adjust and get use to the fact that he now will have two babies and children that he is responsible for the rest of his life. Thats a tough idea to swallow for all men too. The realization that he wont be making any more babies could also be at issue. THe easiest way is to ask him not this forum whats going on in his head and whats going on in your head too.
2016-05-23 22:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to be answering this question 15 years into the marriage not 8 months into it. But seriously, you are not the problem. He is. It is obvious that he has a porn addiction and that good old fashion sex isnt flying with him. How was the sex before you got married? Was it better?
2007-01-13 10:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by blaak_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With your self description, I would have to say, it's his problem, not yours. He may be obsessed with porn, and is unable to handle a real relationship.
It seems that you have attempted all the ways to entice and lure him, and for any normal guy, that should have done the trick.
He needs counseling, or other help. I'd say, that if this goes on, your marriage is doomed to fail.
We are all sexual beings, some with more desire than others. His is not being directed at you, his wife, and if he doesn't supply that, you will be looking elsewhere.
It may be time to re-evaluate your marriage, and maybe call it quits. There are thousands of men, who will happily meet your needs.
2007-01-13 10:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like such a nice girl and it sucks that you are with some guy who does not care for you. maybe he feels that he has "conquered" you and could even be sleeping around. Keep an eye for that.
It seems that faithful girls attract scumbags and faithful guys attract cheaters also. Damn. The whole relatioship thing just sucks.
Anyway, if he doesn't appreciate you, have a serious talk. I am so sorry that your marriage is like that but maybe he is just too young to understand what marriage really is. What a jerk!
2007-01-13 10:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by JiveSly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is just been a spoiled child who is acting like he doesn't want anything to do with sex. Maybe he doesn't want to have sex with you because he might have caught something from someone else and if he has sex with you and get what he's got then yu know he has gone somewhere else. Or maybe he is a fag. Never can tell what's wrong with some men in this world. Especially him having a beautiful sexy woman at home who wants to and he doesn't WOW what's wrong with this guy. But want to chat more iM me anytime.
2007-01-13 10:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i learned a long time ago , unless a man is alot older normally , they dont just all the sudden loose interest in sex. i was married for 11 years, we had sex every day UNTIL he started cheating on me. it was a HUGE signal. you better look at the red flags honey, especially if your a pretty girl, cause if he isn't having sex with you and he's 22, then he's having it with someone.
2007-01-13 12:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by l911jnt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are both still very young and its odd that after such a short time married that your husband has turned off having sex with you.
i think that he needs some counselling to find out why this has happened and hopefully you can work out these issues.
try talking to him and if he doesnt want counselling then you might have to consider if you love this man if you can stay with him forever not having sex.
good luck.
2007-01-13 10:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 !! Sorry dear you are too young for that kind of rubbish... sounds like you need to move on form this relationship if you can't work things out with him. Ask him why he married you in the first place
2007-01-13 10:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by luciloobomber2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he really guy? i have never known a guy that would rather look at porn than do the real thing. i would say get some handcuffs and do something completely crazy like that. give him something that he has never done before. another thing you could try is watch porn with him and when he sees something that he likes try it on him.
GOOD LUCK GIRLY!!
2007-01-13 10:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it only been since the wedding? I hate to say this but could he be cheating? You should get counseling. PS Having a child will not make things better.
2007-01-13 10:30:44 · answer #11 · answered by laughalot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋