my mo doesnt know the only reason i dont tell her is because i'm not aloud to date ti'll i turn 18. in my opinion thats "messed up" i would love to tell her but im secared for her to start screaming at me me & my mom do not have the connection we use to have. She says that she cant stand me but she says it like if i did things like smoke, drink, skip school, or if like i wasnt passing my grades. if i get lost for 5-10 min she already wants to call the cops I would do anything to let my mom know that im dating that would mean that i didnt have to hide to see him. My boyfriend told me to tell her but im really scared WHAT should I do???
2007-01-13 10:09:43 · 23 answers · asked by mexican_boody 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just have her see him hangung out with you all the time and talk about him all the time. Tell her how wonderful he is and If she would just give him a chance she would see he was ok and that kind of stuff. She will get the message and you won't even have to tell her yourself.
2007-01-13 10:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have any choice but to tell her, sometimes telling your parents that you have a boyfriend can be scary. I know exactly what you're going through. When I fifteen my parents said I could start dating but I never did. I got into the phase where I was all about school and other things, and I told my parents I would never date or get married. Now that I'm 17 and a half, I have found someone that I love so much that I want to spend the rest of my life with. We talk on the phone for hours everyday, and my parents start getting a little uneasy. So my mother isn't as bad as yours but she is the same way, where she doesn't trust men eventhough she has yet to met him. Anyway, so I was totally scared to tell her. When I finally told both my parents, a feeling of relief just came over me. When he and I are on the phone, I don't have to hide it or screen what I'm saying. I can just be upfront and the fact that they know all the components, it's easier for us. So tell your mother sweetie, I KNOW it's scary, but a huge weight will be lifted from your shoulder. And once it's finally out there your mother has to make the next move all you could do is tell her. Let her meet him see that he's a good guy. You sound like a pretty good kid so maybe she won't take it as hard. Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-13 10:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know she's bound to find out anyways... mothers allways do, unfortunately, but as long as you keep it like it should be, less then you would want to but more then your parents want you to do, you could start of by introducing him as a real good friend, at first take him home, along with some more friends just to reassure them... they didn't say no boy FRIENDS 'till 18 right... So it won't be something for them to get all crazy about, and still you can on a descent level date your friend!! Good luck
2007-01-13 10:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that he's the one, and he feels you're the one, then what does a couple of years difference really mean? Better question is, why are you worried about it? Aren't your feelings more important here? Good luck, both of you! :)
2016-05-23 22:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that he's a good guy and why he's a good guy, and that you feel like you should be allowed to date. Let her know that you'll be responsible and that you know the consequences of "certain actions" and that you aren't going to do them. Suggest that she and him and you sit down together and have a talk about the things that concern her about you dating. comfort her concerns, and show that you can be trusted. Best wishes to all three of you :)
2007-01-13 10:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Carolinii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, that is really messed up, I was dating when I was 14 or 16. I don't know what to tell you, but from here it sounds like he is a nice guy.
2007-01-13 10:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by amazon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im goin' through the same thing
and i ama gonna set a day where
me and her can talk cuz me and my mom neva had a good relationship
never and my parents arent divorced or anything we all live 2gether
but anyway imma set her down and just explain 2 her that i found a guy that i really like and hes a good guy chances are she probably already knows shes not stupid im sure she knows u like boys im sure she realizes it was bound 2 happen
2007-01-13 10:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by the best at being me™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her in a "this is the way it going to be way" Tell her I have a boyfriend now and you can either accept that and meet him or waste both of our energy trying to stop me either way you cant win. Come on now 18 to start dating that is just a little to old fashioned.
2007-01-13 10:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom if you can bring your friend home to meet him.
if she says okay . Don't ask to go out. stay home and watch T.V. or something so she can see the both of you . She won't need to be suspicious.
If she says No. then talk with her . be honest and tell her how you feel.
That is all you can do.
Don't go behind her back that will only make it worse on you .
2007-01-13 10:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would be a lot better if you told her and not wait till she finds out because you think she's screaming now. Wait and see her if she finds out. She might gt mad for a while but she will get over it. But amke sure to tell her.
2007-01-13 10:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋