2007-01-13 10:03:36 · 29 answers · asked by virtualstryker_9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
HEY stupid did the hamster in your brain die? If you happen to tell her it's the end of everything, trust, marriageand she won't ever trust youa gain fool. SO if you really love her just stay quiet and don't tell her. But if you do just happen to lose your mind and tell her do it now because if you do it just before the wedding, or after you will have a lot of people mad at you not only her. If she has brothers and her Dad might tag them your ***. SO keep quiet if you love her and don't want to hurt her and don't do it again. Or tell her now and never see her again and move on.
2007-01-13 11:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think honesty is the best policy, what is the point of being in a relationship based on lies? I've heard many people say you shouldn't tell the person you've been unfaithful as it's selfish because you're only relieving your own guilt and hurting them more. Whether you tell the truth or not, you're still hurting them. Telling the truth is the best thing in my opinion. If a guy cheated on me I'd rather he have the guts to tell me then hear it from someone else. Most cheaters get found out at some point, believe me. Your girlfriend will be mad at you and be prepared for hell, but I think she will respect you if you tell her. It shows that you want to make the relationship work and you don't want any lies. Don't condone your cheating, but tell her the truth and that it was a huge mistake. You will need to prove to her that you wont cheat, if she decides to give you a chance go to councelling together or go to cheaters anonymous if there is such thing. At least you admit you've made a mistake and you want to put things right. If you truly love one another you will get through it together, but be patient. Good luck hun, we all make mistakes, but telling her the truth will be the best thing. However don't cheat on her again, because I doubt there will be anymore chances and frankly you wont deserve it the next time. You'll be a very lucky man to get a chance this time, but still be honest.
2016-03-14 05:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it an isolated incident? Do you feel truly sorry that you did this? Are you likely to stray again? If you think there is even a remote chance that you will cheat on her once you get married, then call the wedding off. She deserves someone who knows how to be manogamous. If it was a one time occurence that you feel certain will never happen again, then telling her may be the end of your relationship, or at the very least, will cause her to lose all trust for you. This is tough to answer. As a woman that was cheated on by her husband, I can say that I left him once I found out and because of it, I have trust issues now with men. On the other hand, she may respect the fact that you were honest and up front with her and view this as a positive thing that you told her. I suggest that you talk to someone you can trust not to tell her (someone who is close to her and knows her well) and ask them how they feel she may react. I hope things work out for you. Just remember, "You reap what you sow."
2007-01-13 10:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by ceegt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your girl needs to know what kind of man she is about to marry. She'll probably be completely ticked off and has every right to be. You never know though, she may take some time to cool off and stay with your cheating butt, but be prepared to lose her. I mean, think about it if you were in her shoes and she cheated on you. Would you want to know? I think it's better for her to find out from you as opposed to someone else later on down the road. Do what you think is best, but if I was you, I'd come clean and pray that she doesn't do any physical harm.
2007-01-13 10:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's always a possibility she will find out. If that happens, she may be able to file for dissolution. It's unfair of you to keep something like that from her. You made a big mistake, you cheated on HER, not that you had affairs before you met her. If you're a true man who loves her, you will own up and give her the choice of trusting you won't do it again. Concealing the truth from her is dishonest.
2007-01-13 10:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her. It is totally not fair to her if you go into this marriage without saying nothing to her. I bet she is the best girl you have ever met in you entire life. And I can probably tell you that she is crazy about you. If you have one ounce of RESPECT left for her then TELL HER. That's if you are a man. But then again a REAL man WOULD NOT cheat on his wife-to-be, or and woman at that matter. Maybe you need to grow up a little more. Marriage is NOT a GAME !!!! Be true to yourself and true to her... " The Truth Shall Set You Free!!!"
2007-01-13 11:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by daisy14320022003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation with my fiance. He decided to tell me before we got married because it's we both feel it's better to be honest with the person you want to share your life with. It hurt a heck of a lot to hear it, but then again because we are so closely connected I already had a feeling anyways. If she is that connected to you, chances are she already knows anyway. Truth be told I'm glad he told me because if he hadn't we probably wouldn't be together now because the guilt was eating him inside and I was feeling like I was going crazy suspecting things. Take a leap of faith. If you two are meant to be together then this crisis will come to pass and can be put into the category of "for better or worse."
2007-01-13 10:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by yorkey115 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends like how often, and how involvedyou were at the time. Are you planning on cheating on her again? Cause if you tell her now, that's what she'll always think. If you plan on being faithful, just realize it was a mistake in the past,and won't happen again. Keep it to yourself and move on. You'll be glad later.
2007-01-13 10:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by KM 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
DONT EVER EVER KEEP SECRETS FROM YOUR FIANCE SOON TO BE WIFE. YES YOU SHOULD TELL HER BECAUSE IT WILL COME BACK TO BITE YOU IN THE BUTT. YOUR NOT BEING FAIR TO HER OR THE RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU TWO HAVE BY KEEPING THAT TERRIBLE SECRET. I SUGGEST YOU TAKE A SECOND LOOK AT WHY YOU CHEATED ON YOUR FIANCE AND IF YOU TRULY WANT TO GET MARRIED. I CAN SEE YOUR MARRIAGE RIGHT NOW ENDING UP IN A DIVORCE. HONESTY, TRUST, AND COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO MAKING ANY RELATIONSHIP WORK! I AM APALLED THAT YOU HAVE ASKED SUCH A QUESTION.
2007-01-13 12:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sheeesh. You are an assh*le. If I were you I would keep my trap shut, but I'm not. Get a good divorce lawyer and get ready for the pain. " Oh what a tangled web we weave when we practice to decieve." or even better for you. " Hell hath NO fury than a woman scorned" If she finds out, "she's gonna be a mushroom cloud droppin mother f*cker mother f*cker" She is going to go from love to hate in a milisecond.
2007-01-13 11:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋