I have been dating dis guy for a year within this year we've broken up because he cheated on me but i take the blame cause i wasnt givin the attention he needed. I broke his heart 2 times and after that i realized wat i lost and i ask him to take me back and he did. Well we broke up again and dis time im afarid i wont be able to get he back cause he told me he wanted to be friends he told me i wasnt ready for a guy like him and i had commitment issues...... i agree i don have commitment issues and i want to get over them but i dont know how. I love him and he loves me to he never lets me forget it but mainly he wont get back with me cause hes afarid ill break his heart again. So how can i show him dat i wont break up again with him and how can i regain his trust? Should i tell him how i feel?
2007-01-13 09:51:21 · 6 answers · asked by confused15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay...I got problems with you already (LOL! I'm saying this out of love in the "Yahoo!Answer" sense. I'm not trying to be mean):
He cheated on you & you've allowed him to turn it all around & put you at fault. (Some guys are masters at this!) Don't claim that. He cheated because he wanted to cheat. He says you're not ready for a guy like him. Okay, what is dude really offering? And if he's all that, why do you keep breaking up with him? What kind of issues are you having with commitment?
It might be best for you take a break and deal with those issues before you jump back into a relationship with him.
Whatever you do, don't place him on a pedestal. And instead of regaining his trust, he needs to be trying to regain yours as well. How do you know that he won't cheat again? He might decide to jump ship if you blink wrong...it's like walking on eggshells! You don't need the stress.
What's the harm in being friends? That might actually be the best thing to do in the meantime. If he's meant to be with you in the end, then it'll happen.
2007-01-13 10:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mirch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all before you can gain some one Else's trust you have to trust your self! ask your self I'm i really ready for this relationship? if your answer is yes then you have to start showing YOU that u won't mess up.how? well-be and act more mature,don't look shy or unconfident around him,Let him know with your move-looks-eyes,and all you can that your not there just for whenever he feels secure again,but now! Show off the new confident you...flirttttttt..alots with other guys..but not in a nasty way(cuz then he will think you a Little kid messing around) in a sexy respect full way. And trust me..he'll come to you.(they all do) you have to remember that men's are like new born- they learn what you tech'em and use it against you. The smart thing to do is have the secret weapon ready for when it happens.and you know that girls are multitask...guys are not they process one info at the time...so girl"use what nature gave you"
2007-01-13 10:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by themorena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't blame yourself for him cheating on you. If he was really in love with you and if he was really committed to you then he would have spoken to you about giving him attention and spending time with him. You can't take sole responsibility for the relationship breaking up because it was him that ended up cheating, not you. It sounds to me like he is trying to make you feel guilty and breaking up with you so that you don't feel that he is to blame. You should really open your eyes and see what an asshole he is being. It isn't about gaining his trust. Its about him trying to gain yours. You should not be the one feeling guilty for him cheating. It was not your fault.
2007-01-13 09:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell him how you feel. The problem is that you can't be a good gf until you feel good about yourself and feel you are lovable and worthwhile. It is most likely that your commitment issues have most to do with how you see yourself. You regain trust by being trustworthy and to do that, you have to believe in yourself.
2007-01-13 10:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up, and start a new beginning with a new friend. Several times repaired does not make a new relationship!
2007-01-13 10:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well express your true feelings
2007-01-13 09:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋