im so pissed, yesterday my mom said i couldn't go to my friends so i was mad but not as mad as i am today. so i asked again today if i could go over to her house and she said no again. this time i asked for a reason and she said its cause im not following the rules her boyfriend just made. well they are stupid rules.my mom never pays attention to me anyways so why would she want me here. so i am thinking about walking to my friends house since it is only at the front of the neighborhood. would that be counted as running away or something like that? and yes i have walked to my friends house before i did like every other day during summer. should i walk to my friends house? i have a cell fone and stuff so she could call me when she actually sees im not there. im 13 almost 14 if that matters any.she just started having rules like a week ago i have followed them long enough. a week is way to long to be following rules anyway.
2007-01-13 09:43:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i don't like to talk to my mom anymore cause she never listens to me. so i don't really want to talk to her esp. since im pissed rite now i might start cussing.
and her bf has been here for about like 9 months and he moved in wit us just like the bf she had before this one.
2007-01-13 09:58:57 · update #1
You should have been following some sort of rules all along. Better late than never. You need discipline. Don't go to your friends house. Why don't you hang out with your mom and her bf...if she really doesn't want you there, then she'll tell you to go to your friends if you bug her enough.
2007-01-13 09:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by luvguns2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once in a great while, the parents are wrong and the child is right. This is very VERY unlikely, however. Your mother is responsible for you. Not only does she have your best interests at heart, she also has to try to keep you safe, happy, and independent without totally alienating you. Give her a break. Accept that she has had more experience than you have and if she makes a rule (or enforces one that someone else made), there's a reason for it. This is part of growing up - maturity isn't about being old enough to do whatever you want, it's about being responsible enough to do what is necessary for yourself AND others.
2007-01-13 17:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by swbiblio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You age doesn't matter at all. What matters is that you live under your mother's roof and she is the one responsible for you until you turn eighteen. So she has a right to expect you to follow the rules in her home. Of course you COULD go to social services and ask to be placed into foster care, however there are no guarantees that what you get will be better than what you have at home...quite often they are much worse. So you can act like a baby and throw a tantrum and wind up in more trouble or you can be mature, follow the rules and get the priveliges you seek.
2007-01-13 17:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you set down with your mother and ask her since you went to your friends house all the time this summer why you can't now. Try to keep your cool and say you would like to understand what her thinking is. Also talk to her about the rules her boyfriend has made and say you just want to be sure you understand the rules. Most important for your sake is to keep very calm and I know at your age that can be very hard. Also do you have someone else that is family outside of your house you could talk to. I think this could be very important for your sake. Please be careful especially if you don't know your mother's boyfriend very well. Take care and God Bless
2007-01-13 17:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Diane H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry your angry with your mom. And as a mom, it doesn't make sense that she would be listening to her boyfriend instead of her own common sense. Still, it sounds like you're going to have to grow up a little sooner than most kids. This is what you need to do... go to your mom and ask her if you can both sit down and make up a list of rules and expectations. Tell her you love her and that you know she's trying to protect you, but that it would help you if you knew for certain when you can visit your friend and when you can't. Tell her you'd like to know what chores she'd like you to do and what your curfew should be. See if that helps work things out for you, ok?
2007-01-13 17:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sure it's not about you. It's dangerous out there and I get your parents concern. I'm a parent too and too many times we read that kids are abducted or approached by nasty people. You may can ask to be driven, or work out a plan where you will run there and call home as soon as you arrive. Don't think it that you are not trusted, it's the crazies out there that we can't trust. You need to be safe. Hope this helps.
2007-01-13 17:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by LINDA G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to act like a spoiled baby and not listen to any rules and throw tantrums, then yes, your mom isn't going to listen to you. If you can act reasonably and not scream, then sit down with your mom and have a REASONABLE CONVERSATION and try to come to a compromise about rules. Rules are put in place for a reason, and if you deliberately disobey, then you're acting like a child and deserve to be treated like one.
2007-01-13 20:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋