All people. All religions are different.. So I was wondering:
If your (for the sake of this question we'll say) 25 year old son came to you one day and stated that they were gay...
1) How would you feel?
2) What would you say?
3) What would you do?
2007-01-13 09:39:41 · 22 answers · asked by evil_nykki 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I love the honest answers..
I would also like to know that as a parent, would you feel partly to blame at all? Would you see it as an insult on how you raised your child?
woul you ever accept his lover into your home as a "son-in-law"?
2007-01-13 09:52:36 · update #1
1.) Neutral. I really wouldn't care one way or the other.
2.) "Okay"
3.) Nothing. If he wanted to talk about it, I'd listen.
Why would I feel that there needs to be any "blame"? I don't feel that being gay is wrong so blame insults wouldn't be issues. I would accept whatever partner that he had on an individual basis, and sexual orientation would not be in the list of criteria. I really don't care what others (including family members) do with consenting adults in the privacy of their homes. It's none of my business. I have enough to do living my own life. I let others live their own lives as they see fit.
2007-01-13 12:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
1) Worried...because of violence & discrimination toward gays
Relieved...because he was probably worried about telling me
2) I would probaby just hug him first and ask him if he wanted to stay and talk to me for a while
3) I'd make coffee and grab some cookies and sit down and listen to what he has to say
Members of my family are gay. Not one of us has stopped loving them because of it. I'm sure you're probably going to get lots of negative answers with this one, but the truth remains, my son is my son, no matter what his sexual orientation is!
Edit: I would accept his partner. If my son was a good person, obeyed the law, didn't harm anyone, & is happy why on earth would I feel like a failure...or guilty???
2007-01-13 09:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel: sad Say: that I felt sad for him and what he would face Do: continue to be his mother and love him and pray for him. What else could be an option? Getting upset over an annoucement like that doesn't change anything or make it easier for parent or son. The quicker you achieve acceptance, the sooner you can deal with the changes in your relationship and work on making that better.
2007-01-13 09:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Addie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) I would be okay with that. I would feel a sad for all of the unhappiness that he has suffered this far, hiding it from me. I would have wanted him to tell me earlier so that he would have had easier, happier teen years. 2) I would tell him that I loved him. That I wanted him to be happy. That no matter where life took him, he was my baby and nothing would ever change that. That when he does find someone to spend his life with, they are welcome in my house, just like they were my own kid. 3) I would hug him and kiss him. He is my baby. Nothing would ever change that. I am a 'Christian' more specifically a Presbyterian that attended Catholic School and Baptist.
2007-01-13 09:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by The Pope 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would feel afraid for him because of all the hatred towards gays spewed by many religions (even if they deny it, it's there).
I would fear for his safety in an intolerant world.
I would tell him that being gay was nothing to be ashamed of and that my love for him would not change.
I would hug him and tell him to keep himself safe from those who would now think he was fair game for their acts of hatred and intolerance for anyone different.
Addition:
Would I feel to blame? No, because I see nothing 'wrong' with being gay, therefore there is no 'blame' to attach. I have raised my son to be a good person and he is, what else matters? He and his partner would always be welcome in my home. And hopefully they would be married in my family's church (Unitarian which has no rule against being homosexual).
2007-01-13 09:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sun: supporting gay rights 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i personally would say "thank you for telling me." and then go on loving my son like i did before. because he is still my son. and if he is gay, so be it. why would i care?
some people might base their answers on their religions, but i dont. i am catholic, i believe in God, i pray, and i put alot of faith in to the God i believe in. however, my religion doesnt effect what i think about homosexuality. and alot of people think that all catholic's hate homosexuals. but lets be honest, hate the 'player' , not the 'game'. basically, there is good and bad in every group. some think its wrong, others dont mind. like me. i dont care what, how, or who you are, as long as you treat me well, thats all that matters to me.
2007-01-13 10:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Proud-because I did a good job raising him to be himself and not care if anyone else thinks his lifestyle is right or wrong
2) I would tell him that I am thrilled that he talked to me about it (not that any child of mine would ever be afraid to)
3) give him a big bear hug (:
Deist
2007-01-13 09:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by forrest_rain 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Happy.
2) Good for you! Want to go shopping?
3) Go shopping.
Atheist.
2007-01-13 09:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by eri 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
His life is his to do with as he pleases. I hope that I had raised him to be a critical thinker and to be a good person, but his happiness is up to him, not me.
Agnostic and happy.
2007-01-13 09:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Id feel like a failure or sad. I would tell him that I love him and that he can make his own choices then I'd kick the sh-- out of him. Just playing. I have no idea what I would do.
2007-01-13 09:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by twism 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋