2007-01-13 09:30:47 · 16 answers · asked by Heather F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They like her more. Either that or they like your husband less.
2007-01-13 09:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people think "down at the courthouse" when you say civil wedding; however, this is not true at all. Many people do decide to go down to "city hall" and have a quick ceremony with a few witnesses, BUT that is not the only way it's done. A civil ceremony is simply a ceremony that does not mention god or religion. Everything else is usually completely the same: the dress, the aisle, the rings, the (non-religious)vows, the (non-denominational or JoP) officiant, the signing of the papers and the big party afterwards... It is up to the couple whether or not to make it a big deal. Just remember that marriage is NOT a religious practice, it is a SOCIAL/HUMAN practice.Marriage is a custom that spans almost every cultural background, so claiming a wedding is a religious ceremony is simply ridiculous. There are religious weddings (very different for different religions) and non-religious weddings (also different depending on cultural background), and basically what they amount to is the celebration of the commitment between the two people and the joining of their families. So, if the couple feels like having a great big celebration for a civil ceremony they absolutely can! And it can be in a church if the church allows it, or it can be elsewhere.
2016-05-23 22:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it happened to me I chose to look at it like this.
My parents knew that I was such a wonderful person that of course I would get married and have a wonderful life. On the other hand my sister is such a diva they are so amazed that someone is actually willing to take on a lifelong comittment to her that it is a big deal....besides if they make a big deal out of it he's less likely to back out when she becomes a Bridezilla thus they really really get to get her out of the house and have some peace finally. :o)
Maybe not the best attitude...but hey you do what you need to to get through it. Just remember what a good person you are...help her with her plans if she'll let you and remember in the long run family is family and you can't do anything but love them anyway.
Good luck
2007-01-13 11:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is to honor the female more than the male. At least that is the traditional history of it. It is for a man to show off his beauty. Very much more of a big deal to a woman as far as the deatails are concerned. Plus tradition usually says the parents of the bride pay for the wedding, so that is probably why you hear them talking about it alot. If they are using their own money.
2007-01-13 09:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Momma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there - and it bothered me at first, and then I let it go. After all, my parents andtheir excitement mean very little in the grand scheme of things - my wedding was about me and my husband and our new life together. Sure it sucks that they are more excited fo ryoru sister, but it doesn't make your wedding or your marriage mean any less.
2007-01-13 10:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok it's not that you're parents like or love her more people!! The reason why they are make a big deal on her wedding is cause she's the youngest getting married.In my opinion it should be equal though.
2007-01-13 09:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sibling rivalry sucks...but I think more often than not it is caused by the parents such as in your instance. Instead of the siblings realizing favoritism for what it is, they turn against each other.
It's a hard pill to swallow. I wish families didn't have to be like this but they are.
2007-01-13 11:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by 14b32bbdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you approached it differently than your sister. Maybe your resources are different. Maybe they like her fiance a bit more. Maybe they regret not making a bigger deal over yours and don't want the same remorse for your sister. Who cares. They can't change the past so just be happy that you are happily married and that your sister will be too!
Look on the bright side.
2007-01-13 09:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by az 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah...don't take it out on your sister. maybe the parents had things going on at the time of your wedding or they wish they would have been more excited. don't worry about it too much! just be happy for her. it's about her now.
2007-01-13 12:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that
only w/ me being the middle child , it's actually worse
ignore it
don't worry about it
nothing u say/do will sound/be mature enough to them or w/e and will lose any respect and such tehy have for you
jus make sure u dont hold it against ur sis
2007-01-13 09:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by kaeh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not judge and don't be jealous. Just be happy for her and help out in any way you can.
2007-01-13 13:27:07 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋