my 4 year old son told me earlier that he hates me and wants to live with my ex girlfriend. Shes not even his mom nor was she around for long. Shes nice to him and im sure she loves him but hes MY son. Hes mad at me because I "made her leave" and yes i did break up with her but for his sake. He was getting attached to her and its not good for him because i didnt think wed be together for long, and now I dont let her come around. I know he didn't mean what he said but it hurt. What should I do ? Let her come around or keep her away ?
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2007-01-13 09:18:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Keep her away. He will get over it soon enough. Please do not introduce everyone that you date to your little one. They get attached very quickly. I refused to see my boyfriends children until I determined that this was going to be a long-term, possible marriage type of relationship. Date who you want to date, just try not to have them meet your child until you know that they will be long-term.
2007-01-13 09:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by A M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I would take this as a lesson to wait until things are serious to introduce your son to girlfriends. Right now he is probably just hurt that he doesn't see her anymore. He doesn't understand that 'you broke up'. He may even think that she doesn't like him anymore. I would try to explain to him , in your best 4 yr old talk, that you and your ex are not as good of friends anymore. Maybe he can call her to say goodbye or something, so that he can feel a little bit of closure. But I wouldn't do visits because that may only be more confusing to him. He's four. He'll be over it real soon. Don't worry.
2007-01-13 09:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you f u c k around and live with someone your child is going to get attached to them. I suggest YOU grow up and start thinking about what effect your choices are having on your son. I don't know why this child's mother doesn't have custody of him but you certainly aren't fit to parent.
2007-01-13 09:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He liked her so he wants to see her. What would you do if he really liked his babysitter and she left?To him it's the same thing. He will evetually forget about her. Sorry about the break up. Maybe in the future don't let girls get so attached to him so early on in the realtionship.
2007-01-13 09:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That sucks exceptionally undesirable. Why can not they nonetheless dangle out? If my ex, who loved my youthful ones very a lot, needed to take them to play or to mcdonalds for an afternoon, i does not concepts. they could nonetheless be friends, correct? Does the female friend nonetheless opt for to work out him? believe me, the more desirable those who love your little ones, the more desirable shelter they are going to be as they become old. encompass them with those who love them as a lot as you may.
2016-10-17 01:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur the one that did that question before u was only usin her as sex so u bring her round ur son and she calls her mommy knowin his mom left him. i remember the man with no parental respect. see cause of u ur sex thing an ur son are hurt. u cant play with fire an not expect to get burnt
2007-01-13 09:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring her around and make him happy if she doesn't come explain to him why and then he might understand
2007-01-13 09:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by Zack 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
let him c her alitttle
and tell ur ex about it
she may b able to talk to him bout it
us girls work in magical ways
2007-01-13 09:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Here I Stand 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
why don't you look after your son on mon/tues/wed/thu/fri
and let him sleep over or see your ex on sat/sun
i hope that helps
2007-01-13 09:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by The Dreamseller 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
its your house and your rules. suck it up and be a man
2007-01-13 09:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by blank 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋