I have a long term friend who now is pregnant of her 2 baby. Me and her used to do Meth together. When she had her first baby, she twick untill she was 2 months then stop. The baby was premi. Now shes pregnant again. Last year was the last year we were going to twick. I stop twicking because i dont see the point of it. Plus i want to keep clean. My friend was supposed to do the same. I found out that she is still twincking. 4 months pregnant and still using meth. I told her to stop but seems like she dont care or something. I have another friend whos baby died in less of a month of being born because she used heroin. I told my friend about it but it seems like it goes in one ear and out the other. What should i do. Should i tell her parents or should i just leave her so she could hopefully learn a lesson. I am more concern about the baby she caring. But she just dont listen. I fear for her babys life. What should i do??? HELP!
2007-01-13 09:05:34 · 16 answers · asked by Ice age 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
her 1st baby is one year old. And she says she needs meth to "clean" because she feels so lazy without it. IF i tell her parents or social service then she would maybe hate me for ever. She is my best friend but maybe it would be better if i say something. What would you do?
2007-01-13 09:25:22 · update #1
This is a very difficult question and one that does not have any easy answers. But, as with most difficult questions, there is a right answer. You must put the needs of her unborn (and born) children first. You know that what she is doing is wrong or you would not have written. There is a reason that it is considered a crime to be aware of child abuse and to do nothing. The child has to come first. As one of the people who answered your question said, you can contact Child Protective Services and not give your name. Something must be done.
You can explain to whoever you talk to what your fears are and they may be able to suggest to you what can be done to help your friend. You must think of the damage that she is doing to her unborn baby. You mention that she has another baby, you have no idea what kinds of damage have already been done to her. The damage may not even appear until she is older.
I understand that you want to be loyal to your friend and that is a good thing. But, in this case there is a greater need to protect an innocent child. If your friend were thinking clearly she would actually thank you for getting her the help she needs. Perhaps you could even call her OB/GYN and make her aware of what is going on. You have an obligation to do what you can to save these children. At this point in time you may be their only hope of a chance at a normal life.
I hate to say this, but if your friend does not love her children enough to do what is right for them, if she is willing to put her unborn baby at terrible risk, she does not deserve to be a mother. That is the cold hard fact.
Please be strong enough to do the right thing. It is hard but so often the right thing IS the hard thing. It is easy to do nothing. Be strong.
Blessings
Lady Trinity~
2007-01-13 09:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the only person that can help herself, yet she needs your support so don't leave her alone or she may become depressed and get even worse. Try to talk to her when she is not on drugs and tell her there is lots of help available for her. How old is her other child? What does it do all day while shes taking meth?I would be more concerned about the welfare of the existing child and if shes not prepared to listen or talk reasonably about her problem then someone needs to help the child, social services maybe.
The best thing you can do as a friend is to tell someone about it because she needs help and her children need help.
2007-01-13 17:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has no right to learn a lesson at the expense of her child. Someone needs to incarcerate her until the child is born, then take both away from her. Your concern needs to be these poor children. Tell her parents. Turn her in to the authorities. If she hates you, really, what have you lost?
Sounds as if you quit meth? Way to go and congratulations!
2007-01-13 18:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. You could tell her parents..but really, there is not much they can do.
You could also report her to Family Services (you could do so with out giving your name). They would not be able to make her stop using while pregnant but they would be able to take the child away if the child test positive for drugs at birth.
The only way to make her stop using is if she gets in trouble with the police. That is probably the only way she would stop..if she is thrown in jail she would not have much of a choice.
There is no easy answer here.
2007-01-13 17:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by A M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to say, but if she doesn't care enough to stop so her baby will be normal or atleast live then apparently she don't want her baby too bad. And no baby needs a mother like that. Maybe she'll learn a lesson from all of it. I don't know if this is any help but I hope it works out for the best.
2007-01-13 17:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Shaynee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it makes me so mad these wemon have babies and do drugs when so many that would give anything to have one cant i would call the law on her at least if she is in jail she cant do drugs she may get made but its for the sake of the baby in some states or at least where i live if there is drugs in the babies system when its born they take the baby and the mother goes to jail come on it 9 months of your life if you cant stop for that short time for the health of your child you really need help an NO CHILDREN AT ALL!!!!
2007-01-13 19:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by BlessedMommyof3.. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone! This child doesn't deserve this. You can either call social service or the police. What she is doing is so wrong on so many levels. If the baby dies she could actually be tried for murder. Please help this baby and do something!!
2007-01-13 17:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by jduffy75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And if you don't tell social services you could be a party to the death of an innocent child...if not multiple complications steming from the baby's own met addiction. If you need to ask what you should do you're not as "clean" as you profess to be.
2007-01-13 17:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try and talk to her family. they might be able to find some support groups or center for her to go to. If she does carry the child to full term the hospital will more than likely contact child protective services and they may take the child away from her.
2007-01-13 17:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by TARA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your best friend you would report her A**!!! No one needs drugs to clean! She is putting herself and her baby at risk. Wouldn't you feel guilty if the baby was born with a birth defect knowing that you helped contribute by not getting your friend help.
2007-01-13 18:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Snickers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋