He keeps asking me for sex and I just clamp up, we have been fighting a lot lately and I'm not as happy as I use to be with him. I don't know what's wrong with me I'm suppose to be happy we have a child together and I just don't want to have sex with him at all. Please help me.
2007-01-13 09:03:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's either one of two things: 1. You are totally stressed out planning the wedding, which is completely normal, and you are too tired and uninterested at the end of the day. 2. You are realizing as you are planning your wedding that forever is a long time, and you just don't think he's it anymore.
That said, doubts are common, and so is stress. Figure out which one it is first. If it's stress, get a massage, and find someone to help you plan. If it's doubt, talk to him, and if the two of you can't figure it out, talk to a marriage counselor. Best of luck!
2007-01-13 09:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by momof3cuties 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest situation is the responsibility of raising another human. The short of the situation is communication. One should know the other well. In other words, one should be a good friend and know many of the dislikes and likes of a person before he or she gets into a intimate situation.Too, counseling should be strongly considered. Talk to adults that are married.Talk to adults that have travel the road of marriage for a long time. Two people , in my opinion, should be going in the same direction in order to make any relationship work. You can not be going North and the other person is going South. Again, talk to adults that have your interest in heart.I am talking about parents. ministers, and your doctor about this situation.
2007-01-13 17:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by prof 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you who to have sex with. that's your decision. But if a child is envolved from you having sex with him before there is two major things to think about. At sometimr he was desireable are you would not have had sex with him. Number 2 now a child has been born with your DNA and His the kid is the most important thing you made your decision a while back back him and raise that child.
2007-01-13 17:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Billy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't wanted to have sex with my husband lately either- I guess it's b/c we had it for every night for two months straight. Could that be your problem? Your tired of it and he wants it so your arguing over every everything which makes you unhappy. Plus he may need to give you a little alone time to let you figure some things out. That will do everyone some good.
2007-01-13 17:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by STARS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my BF for awhile and we don't have sex as much anymore. I just feel too tired and stressed to put that as a priority. You should just tell him your concerns and the truth. Perhaps the spark is gone, and maybe you're just having a little dry spell. If you're not really happy with him though, it's not going to work.
2007-01-13 17:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAybe your getting cold feet about marrying him. Sit down with him and explain to him how you feel and if he gets mad guess his not mature enough to get married yet. Because marriage is not all about sex and it seems like it that for him. SO you'll need to communicate and fix what's wrong before it ends up in a break up.
2007-01-13 17:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we as women have alot of things going on in our lifes that we don't realize is affecting us. Make sure that everything is ok with you, if your not happy then nothing will go right until you are. Find out what is upsetting you and talk to him about it. You must have communication or things will never be right.
2007-01-13 19:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a therapist and see if it's just pre-wedding nerves or something deeper. You need to have this issue resolved before walking down the aisle.
2007-01-13 17:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be your birth control method. The pill, patch, ring, etc. have all been known to lower or completely deminish sexual drive over time. Check with your doctor.
2007-01-13 22:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by brenda s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to sort this out and fast!
Get some counselling as i can't see that it is a good idea for you to stay together like this....
2007-01-13 17:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by luciloobomber2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋