this guy wants to have an affair with me,we work and live under the same roof(a school),his girlfriend is always around(we work together),so at night he sneacks up in my room or takes me in lonely places so we can make out.i really like him but im not used to this cheating thing nor i want to get used to it.i asked him if he loves his girl and he couldnt give me an answer(she is so boring and bitchy,noone at work likes her,it-s not just me)wich to me means no,he also admitted they r together 'cos they r used to it..like an habit that is hard or scary to change...he said he likes me,think the world out of me and that i make him happy and excited..we havtn had sex yet but he wants to.is there a way to win him over?dont wanna have sex 'cos,since i have feelings for him i would feel miserable the day after,but i dont even want to turn him down 'cos im afraid to lose a potential love story..all i knowis that i feel terrible,negleted when his girl his around and sad for letting this happen.
2007-01-13 09:00:27 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u guys,just tell me the truth,im not scared to hear that.is he just playing me?how do i know is he is or not?thanx
2007-01-13 09:01:39 · update #1
thanks for your honesty.
o.k. I hear what you re saying you are interested in this guy,and asking him questions about how he feels towards his girlfriend.
Also you have feelings for him ,you allow him to sneak into your room,and you dont want to turn him down because of a likely love story.these are some of the things you have shared,and I cannot possibly comment on any of your body language because I have not seen it.
You seem to be playing a game with a man who you know has a girlfriend,and he is playing games with you.
there is no such thing as winning someone over,but there is such a thing as manipulation, and you seem to be doing a great job so far.
he has been disrespectfull behind his girlfriends back by saying that she is boring and bitchy.
I am afraid you have the usual sexual predator in your mist,and your fantasising about love is pie in the sky.
I am sure you are a really wonderfull woman because you have spoken very honestly,and maybe you are feeling lonely,and vulnerable and this predator is picking up on that,so be carefull,put up a boundarie to make this guy respect you.
there are plenty of dignified men around who dont put their girlfriends down behind there back. you deserve better.
2007-01-13 09:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you even letting this guy take u into a dark place to make out? hahahaha And why in the world would you wana win this guy over? You ever think that maybe his woman is a beyotch cuz he's her habit as well and getting sick of him. You should'nt be messing around with someone's man to begin with.. Find your own man.. ur just setting yourself up for heartbreak or a beating.. he admitted she's his habit.. can't break a habit that quick.. if he wanted u he would of left his woman and proceeded with u.
2007-01-13 09:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by SiKofPsYchos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't buy the "used to each other" excuse. If he's using now, there's not much to expect from him in the future in my opinion.
He's already warning you so that when he dumps you, you can't come and complain.
You'd better stop it, and you'll know if he genuinely care about you. He would then have to either break up with his girl to be with you, or chase after another girl in the office! I wouldn't be surprised if he chose the latter.
If he thought the world of you, he would never treat you like that believe me.xxx
2007-01-13 09:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are involved with someone who has no problem with cheating, and you like him? Or do you just block out that fatal character flaw, so you can have a hand up your jumper and a tongue down your throat?
But hey, it's your life, if you want to catch something off the pond scum, that's your call
2007-01-13 09:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that if he was so into you he would dump his bitchy girlfriend to be with you, that way you wouldn't have to sneak around. I think he is just playing you, he must have some feelings for her or he wouldn't stay with her. I think once you sleep with him he will start ignoring you. Don't you deserve better than some guy that you can't even be seen in public with for fear someone will see you?
2007-01-13 09:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can see your being use for a play thing cant you?..he is bored and your his plaything to stop his boredom.... if you cant see your being used then wake up and smell the coffee girl... she may be a ***** but what would that make you if you went off with someone elses fella????..... course he likes you, thinks the world of you but believe me its not you.. its whats between your legs he is after.. else he would finish with her and be with you... think!!!... this aint a love story is a sordid little fling.. and the only one who wil get hurt... is.....YOU... if you have no self respect, which sounds like you dont then have some RESPECT for her for christs sake... and get a life!
2007-01-13 09:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by tikketiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex with him ; if he will cheat on her sooner or later he will cheat on you.
The fact that you do not like her is not relevant; she could be the way she is because she is with a two timing louse.
Do not meet him again no matter what and find yourself someone genuinely nice.
2007-01-13 09:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think he's playing you all to get some extra action on the side.....but me i play dirty if i like this guy i would be sure to win him over...but that just me i think you should talk to him.....i mean you want to find out it he's playing you so what do you have to lose......and remember not to get to attached cause you don't want to end up getting hurt.....just be careful how you talk to him don't make it sounds like you want him to chose between you and his girlfriend.....unless that's what you want him to do......good luck♥♥♥
2007-01-13 09:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by skittlez978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is, he is using both you and his girlfriend. He doesn't want to commit fully to either of you, and he's got the best of both worlds. The longer you let him get away with this, the harder it will be to break out of it. Your relationship with him is highly unlikely to go anywhere - even if he finishes with his girlfriend to be with you, he cheated on her, what's to stop him doing the same to you? End it and find someone who can commit to you properly.
2007-01-13 09:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he likes you and thinks the world of you he wouldn't put you in this position.
obviously there is something between him and his girlfriend because he's still with her... no matter what excuse he gives you, that's the cold hard truth
if he truly wants to be with you then it should be only you, not his girlfriend too
besides, how would you feel if you were his girlfriend... even if she is a *****?
2007-01-13 09:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋