My girl friend always get upset, we always end have up arguing over petty things. She told me early in the relationship that she had a temper. I always believe that love overcome all obstacles, I love her but I feel that her tempers is taking a toil on me. She made me stop drinking and I love her for it, but at the same time if she can't make an effort to work on her temper I believe the right thing to do would be to dump her. If I can make a sacrafice on my part and if she is not willing to do so on her part then I shouldn;t be with her.
2007-01-13 08:50:58 · 17 answers · asked by rudy t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, if you girl has a temper all the time she might be like bipolar or something
2007-01-13 08:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by scott_pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as someone says 'I have a bad temper' or 'I like to eat a lot' or
Your girlfriend is an argumentative girl that likes to be disagreeable.
Id make that trip to the dump or go deaf. Up to you.
BTW Love does not overcome all obstacles unless you both believe it and work to overcome together. Sorry for the bad news.
2007-01-13 17:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to make a serious effort, go with her to anger management classes. Tell her that is the reason you feel your relationship is strained. If she isn't willing to make an effort then dump her. But tell her in a nice way that you love her but the temper flare ups can upset you. Tell her when she is calm, not already set off on a temper binge.
Good Luck
2007-01-13 16:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, love doesn't overcome all obstacles...that's a nice sentiment but a fairy tale, not real life.
She didn't "make" you quit drinking, you chose to quit. She can't "make" you do anything, you're an adult (or I assume you are if you are old enough to drink).
Sit her down and talk to her about her temper and how it affects the relationship...see if she'll consider counseling (anger management or perhaps couples counseling for the two of you together).
Don't choose to make a change in yourself, then expect her to do it too...because you did. Make your changes because you want to be a better person (inside and/or out). Don't make them so you can try to insist she change something about herself that you don't like. If you don't both accept each other for who and what you are, then you are not a good match.
2007-01-13 16:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try talking to her about it if you haven't tried. Say the same things you just said. And if she loves you, she won't want to get dumped right? So ask her about her no temper issue. IF you love her enough you can offer to help her with it. But think about it What will happen if you do dump her? Will you still want to be with her? What happens if you stay with her? Will you live in agony for however long you're with her?
best of luck my friend!
2007-01-13 16:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Cizzlebobizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMHO, I believe that it was wrong to stop drinking just because you were told to not because you think it was right. Before you stop reading this, I would suggest you try to get to know your girlfriend more, she could be upset most of the time but probably not because of you or the situation. She might have been angry about something or someone for a long time that it was you who have seen this manifest. Should you dump your girlfriend? If you love her then don't.
2007-01-13 16:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by simpsongs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granted you do love her, you shouldn't just leave her like that. I am pretty sure that it took a minute for you to quit drinking. Help her if she's not getting it on her own. That's true...if she's not willing then you should let her go, but if she is, don't just throw it away. Like you said, love overcomes all things. Yet if it's taking it's toil, then you know what you have to do.
2007-01-13 17:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try communicate with her about how r/s is 2 way straight... if she wants to work out for both of us..she should work on her temper too...if she insisted not too..just dump her
2007-01-13 16:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by cheeryviola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her temper is too much for you to deal with then find someone else.
2007-01-13 16:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman but cut my guy some slack. Some women were born bitching. I don't get that. Sounds like you did your part Hon. Time for her to do hers. You deserve better.
2007-01-13 17:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by Erica R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋