Im with an experienced guy but im making him wait for sex. How would you feel if you were him urge wise.? I know its hard to control but would you reallly be willing to wait soo long>? In other words how long is too long?
2007-01-13 08:47:13 · 21 answers · asked by jamaicastars 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make him wait until he marries you. Or at the very least, he can wait until he proposes with an engagement ring.
My husband loved and respected me enough to be willing to wait until he was ready to commit his life to caring for my emotional, physical and mental well-being. Sex wasn't his priority.
2007-01-13 08:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do notttttt choose to have sex because you are feeling guilty for making him wait. Even if he's being a good guy and not pressuring you, you're going to feel pressure just from yourself, because you know he would like to have sex and you feel bad withholding it.
My own opinion? The longer, the better. And let him know up front that you might never have sex with him. That way you won't feel bad about not having sex with him - that's the terms of your relationship, and he can make his decision up front whether or not he can handle that.
Then, don't have it unless you not only WANT it, but you feel really good about your decision. It should be a nice extra in the relationship, not something you give because you feel it is owed.
2007-01-13 09:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Janelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you, he would wait until you are 100% ready. Don't worry about his urges, good for you for practicing some abstinence and waiting until you're good and ready. I've heard of experienced guys waiting until marriage, because they loved that girl enough to wait. So if he threatens you, say goodbye. There's better out there.
2007-01-13 08:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your guy really cares for you and respects you, he should wait for you no matter how long it takes. Don't rush into something you don't want to do, just because you might think he's going to leave you. If he can't wait until your ready and applying the pressure, then he's obviously only just after s*x and is not worth it.
2007-01-13 08:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I f you are dating a man and he does not respect something this important than he is not someone you should be dating. Respect is very important, if you are in a relationship and it lacks respect you are in a negative relationship. It is best to wait anyway. Build a friendship that has a foundation of respect and love. I know this is not R&S, it would behoove you to have the Lords blessing in your relationship. It is so much better to have God build your foundation.
Good luck.......and never give in to any man because you think it's difficult on him and his urges. C'mon women have ugres to and by not giving into them neither of you will die.
2007-01-13 08:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had sex once in a calender year cos my wife has gone off it dont talk to me about urges but i love her and im willing to wait we have had a taLK she has in this time had our second child an been suffering from p n d but i understand if he loves you he should be willing to accept the way you feel ONLY WHEN YOU ARE READY YOU SHOULD DO IT tell him how you feel communication is the best form of dialect
2007-01-13 08:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by wahey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I'm a man and I'm telling you to wait until you're married. Engaged is not good enough.
It is true that the drive will exist, but he'll have to m--------------- or whatever.
Ultimately, men should be the ones setting a standard like this, but we've strayed so far from that in our culture that it isn't even funny.
2007-01-13 08:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Joe C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well !
i think easy girls are not the type of girls most men fall for!
i would rather fall for a girl who makes me wait rather for a girl who would go into bed with me after a fortnight!
because if someone makes you wait and thinks for a long time before getting into a real relationship it also means that that person is serious about you and is here to stay!
2007-01-13 08:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mohummad Ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue isn't "urge". People can wait indefinitely, but they often don't want to. It's not something they cannot control, but if he is someone who prefers that sex be part of his relationships then he may not choose to be with you if you prefer to keep sex out of it.
Each person should do what works best for them.
2007-01-13 08:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can wait as long as you feel like. There are other ways of enjoying each others company ;). If he leaves before you are ready than he obviously wasn't the right guy for you.
2007-01-13 08:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by lynnabugg 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋