My ex has hurt me a lot in the past. But now he wants me to forgive him and he wants to know how he can prove to me that he really does "love" me. I don't know what I should tell him, I want to believe him but something seems weird.. What should I do??
2007-01-13 08:36:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depends on what he did to you. but if he did something really bad just tell him that you don't to take him back. bc if you do then he might do the same thing he did the first time. i learned the hard way. so good luck.
2007-01-13 08:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to forgive him. That is the only way that you will be able to go on with your life and not have to blame anyone else. But you don't have to forget! He can't really prove that he loves you anymore than he already hasn't!!! He's just doing this now because he may be feeling guilty, but that doesn't mean he won't do it again. Just tell him that their isn't anything else he can do b/c it's over and you're tired of laying your heart out for him to stomp all over it. That weird feeling is your concense telling you not to go back to him, and if I were you, I wouldn't. Be happy and move on. Don't let him come back and do the same thing over and over to you.
2007-01-13 16:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off u need look at the past and think about what all has happened, of course he's going to say that he's changed and he's ready now because he wants u in his life but he needs to know that since he messed up he needs to work for it now. Tell him that u need time to see without being in the relationship, u need to pay close attention to him and judge for yourself if he has changed at all.It is possible that he can mess up again once u say yes but at least u took your time and planned it better. Take it slow and if he really wants to prove himself he will give u all the time u need. If u feel funny about it then dont do it u know we have a way of finding the truth.
2007-01-13 16:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by SingleMommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say he has hurt you-emotionally, financially or physically?
All are devastating but i dont want to tell you to do something that could be dangerous. Talk to him and push the envelope ask him what is different now. If he becomes aggitated-dont agree to anything and make sure your friends and family know whats going on.
If his past actions justify a restraining order hop to it
He may be sick and regretting the mistakes of his past or he may have AIDS and want to share it with you.
You know him better than we do but if your instinct says trouble then let the trouble stay away from you
2007-01-13 16:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ur gut. if it seems wrong don't do it. i have had an ex hurt me alot in the past and now just wants to be my friend. its hard to let him in even as just a friend but i miss having him around so as long as i have him as a friend stuff should be good. so go with what feels right thats the smartest thing u could do.
2007-01-13 16:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he can't get anyone else now and he wants you back so he can do it over again because he can't find anybody else to do it to. don't go near it; just walk away. the reason he thinks it will work is because you want to believe him so much. he might not even realize he's going it, but he's setting you up to get hurt again. let it all go and leave it behind...not just the way he hurt you, but him, too. it will be better for all involved if you just leave him in the past.
2007-01-13 16:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by fireflower413 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life .. Why do you want to be hurt and have to live in pain...??? There are man's out there who knows how to treat you as a woman a person.....
2007-01-13 16:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. But if he hurt you, and you left him, then you must remember the pain he caused first. It's easy to forget it when you're alone. Perhaps you just need to ignore his calls until he goes away.
2007-01-13 16:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If history teaches us anything, it's that it repeats itself........until this guy has had a lebotomy or a near-death experience, he's never going to change......but if want to keep getting hurt, that's up to you
2007-01-13 16:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by chris o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that he is your ex for a reason, and you don't need a repeat performance to remind you of just what exactly that reason is.
2007-01-13 16:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋