Kayy i know i have another boyfriend trouble thing but this is something i forgot thast ileft out. im still a Virgin and my boyfriend has like had another girlfriend but by force and lots of one night stands. and im scared that he's gonna make me a one night stand type thing and since im a still a virgin im scarred to have sex with him cuz he lives like kinda far(but he comes to vist alot and might be moving here) and im scared he'll never call again. and i cant really call him cuz my mum wont let me. but anyways. iunno should i trust him that'll he'll call me again??
2007-01-13 08:31:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kay my mum will let me talk to him, im just not allowed to call him for some stupid reason. but he says he loves me and he's really sweet and i just dont know what too do. i should just wait right? like till we get more into the relasonship?? iunno i just need some advice.
2007-01-13 08:43:26 · update #1
the Girl Forced him to go out with him... and raped him.. just to get that stright.
2007-01-13 08:49:24 · update #2
How can he have a girlfriend by force?
2007-01-13 08:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is your boyfriend doesnt mean he has a right to your virginity. Taking it by force is a sex-crime and rape. People justly go to prison for that.
If you are afraid, you shouldnt be doing that. You should listen to your own heart kiddo, its saying no and you should listen to it.
You know that. You dont want to admit that you know it, or that its true, but you know its true.
Theres plenty of time in life for stupid mistakes later, make as few of them now when you are in the formative stages, when the rest of your life depends on the choices you make.
There are some, not many, but some girls who get pregnant their first time. Do you want a baby? He has a track record of not staying around, can you trust him to pay the bills, or will you have to get a job right away? Do you want to kill a baby with an abortion? Do you know whether its tissue or a human being? He has had a lot of "partners" and you cant prove they were clean, so how comfortable are you with catching one of the thousands of sexually transmitted diseases that are not aids, that are not curable? If you get vaginal warts (asymptomatic in guys) then you have a HUGE chance of getting and dying from cervical cancer in your 40's, can you be comfortable with that?
If you cant answer these questions clearly then you should keep your legs shut - dont spread them. You got about 80 years in your life, dont spend the next 60 miserable because of some stupid boy.
There are plenty of boys out there. You know it. No matter how big, how sexy, how strong, how cute some guy is, there is always another boy out there who is cuter. Wait till you get a guy who is much cuter, more into commitment, and more dependable.
2007-01-13 08:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with anyone until you know beyond a doubt that that's what you want to do, and that you can live with it if he DID turn out to be a jerk and not call you again. You should be ready and able to handle all the possibilities.
If you say he's had lots of one-night-stands, then I don't think I'd trust him to call you again. I'm also very concerned about you saying that he had another girlfriend "by force." Are you saying that he date-raped someone? If that's the case, get away from him ASAP. He'll contribute nothing good to your life.
2007-01-13 08:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first time making love (not just sex) is special because you are giving so much more of yourself than just the physical - you're trusting someone with your emotions and both matter. Don't you think it would be wonderful to share that with someone who you have no doubts about and you really feel safe with?
If you do decide to lose your virginity to him, remember you'll not only be having sex with him but you'll be having sex with everyone he's had sex with before ..... please insist on using a condom (if he cares for you it shouldn't be a problem) and be careful of oral as well. It's not very romantic but STDS/HIV are very very much a reality long after the moments pleasure. Be safe and all the best to you.
2007-01-13 08:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very personal thing, your virginity, and if you are at all nervous about him, and you don't think that he'll respect your feelings if you don't do it, you shouldn't do it. You sound quite young, and personally, I'd want my daughter to wait till she was older. There are so many diseases out there, that it isn't worth chancing your health. Remember that when you sleep with someone, you are sleeping with every other person they have been with, (and their diseases, too.) So, in short, just wait.
2007-01-13 08:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by jen ERNY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your boyfriend does not have the right to force you to do anything. I''m not trying to be mean but you have to grow some balls and stand up for yourself because if your not sure that your not ready than don't force it. If he cares for you than he should respect any decisions you make.
2007-01-13 08:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by melissa_c07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him. There shouldn't be any doubts or fears about him using you. Plus, if your mom won't let you talk to him, then you must be far too young to contemplate having sex with a guy with such a history. When you're ready, you'll know.
2007-01-13 08:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't trust he'll call you after you give him what he wants. they normally don't. and don't give in to him if you're not 100% sure he wants to be with just you. save it for someone who really cares about you. the fact that he's had alot of one nighters should send up a red flag right away. don't be a notch on his bedpost. don't give it to him. he doesn't sound worth it.
2007-01-13 08:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by yzma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem like a decent girl, so my advice to you is, stay away from this one night stand loser, and keep your virginity.
2007-01-13 08:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him just to get him to come back.
2007-01-13 08:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋