I'm 24 years old virgin girl, who never have a boyfriend. I want to be in a relationship, but most of the guy a like want to have a sexual relationship now. When a guy ask me, when was the last time you a have sex? I tell them that I virgin. Than guy don't want to be with me. They say "you are a good person and I like you, but i don't think it will work out.' I was kind hurt about that, I feel there is more in a relationship than sex. I just tired of be alone. I just want to know the most guy dislike virgin girls,why? Also I like to here from guys don't mind that girls are virgin, tell me why?
2007-01-13 08:30:33 · 15 answers · asked by kimbrown34 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most men would be pleased, they see it as a challenge and would try to be your first. I admire you for sticking to your guns, seems like you're up front and honest with them and if they walk away right after that, then it isn't meant to be and they aren't worth having. Their actions after you say that show their true colors.
2007-01-13 08:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's that the guys don't like virgins, I think that it's more likely that they are not looking for something serious, and they find the fact that you're a virgin intimidating. See, a lot of guys THINK that when a girl has sex for the first time that she will feel that the guy she's with is the one she wants to marry, or at least be with for a long time. The guy might not be ready for that type of committment, so he would rather not go ahead with the relationship. It's really a matter of difference of values and morals. Some guys also feel that being with a virgin adds pressure to the relationship since he will define what sex is to the girl. At any rate, I'd just like to say that guys don't dislike virgins, but they find the situation intimidating. Myself, it doesn't matter to me whether or not a girl is a virgin, but all of the relationships I've been in have been long term, and I also take the opportunity, if a girl is a virgin, to make sure her first time is as good as possible. Keep looking, you'll find the right guy for you eventually.
2007-01-13 08:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by terryandadriana 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is coming from a guy,
I'm a 27 year old virgin, Nor have i ever had a girlfriend either.
They ask you when was the last time you had sex, Cause they just want to get with you.
Actually there is a lot of guys who think that it is special that a girls is a virgin. People are kind of surprised when i tell them my status, I really don't care what they think cause I'm proud of who i am.
Hey atleast your not out spreading diseases
2007-01-13 08:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by the d 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your Beliefs! I'm a 40's Male. And just got tired of all of the Expressions, being measured by how much money I spent on the Ladies. Sex ain't everything. Unfortunately, the guys that you are dating? Are talking from their crotch. and will be, for some time to come. Stand your ground. Or give in to their adolescent beliefs. Or wait until you reach an age where The Heart, is the best thing, that they want. Good Luck!
2007-01-13 08:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it is so important and personal to girls, and it is such an emotional thing, they know that a virgin is going to get really attached to them. Its a big deal to us.
but at the same time, you need a guy that respects you. They are out there. You just have to find one. Any guy that won't date you because you dont have sex isnt worth your time anyway.
2007-01-13 08:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Julie Bear 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you've been dating immature guys! If the first thing out of his mouth is when did you last have sex, he probably wasn't planning to stay around very long anyway!
And, you're right. There should be more to a relationship than sex! Keep looking, you'll find the right guy.
2007-01-13 08:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by fdm215 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
most guys would not recognize a virgin if they actually found one, just tell the next guy, no sex till after marriage, if he does not like that, you are better off without him anyway.
2007-01-13 09:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well were all born Virgins. but guys have an image in there head that after you do the deed they are clingy which is a scary thing
because who wants a call at 5:00 .0001 right when you get off work or somthing crazy like that
2007-01-13 08:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by pi pi 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I actually prefer virgin girls. That way you know they don't have any STDs or whatnot. Lack of experience isn't a bad thing!
2007-01-13 08:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by qamper 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you waiting? just wondering if it is personal choice or what. you have to find the right guy becuase its not that guys dont like virgins, they love them, if they can change that. but if you are going to stay a virgin, then they may not want to stay in that relationship. Many guys are sexually active and want a partner who is also. But i know more guys than one would think who are still virgins, so keep looking, and if you want to wait, do not change that for anyone else!
2007-01-13 08:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by I_caught_fire 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋