how can i be more confident?

Question

Anything plz

Answer 1

My advice is this;

First point : Do what YOU -want- to do and do not denigrate yourself for possible mistakes, or for what other people may or may not think. Always accept yourself unconditionally with or without others acceptance, approval, love etc. Actively accept yourself in the face of strong opposition and hardship.

Babies, when they learn to walk stumble many times before they become masters of bipedal walk.

We all learn from our mistakes. Expect to not do too brilliantly as you practise trying new things. Then you will gain mastery of these things and become better. Do not put yourself down for this. Always accept yourself with or without other peoples acceptance.

Not getting what you want isnt failure. Its feedback to let you know how to improve.

And "failing" at something can never make you a "failure". You are too complex and have too many sides, elements, behaviours, thoughts, and acts to be given a single, general, overgeneralised label. This label also predicts the future; which is illogical and unhelpful. And plain damn silly.

Secondly; make a plan of which AREAS you would like to be more confident in; I could say that I was a confident COOK, and a confident COMPUTER USER, but not so confident at ADDING UP. Try to avoid seeing your lack of confidence in one area as an umbrella for your WHOLE SELF.

Behavioural pyschologists suggest that you also reward yourself after a successful completion of a task, whatever size it is. Small steps lead up a big hill, and before you know, you may be at the top of the hill, looking back and down on your old problems, seeing them shrink in size and colur as they float away into the distance.

If you have some issues with depression (which you may or may not have), I would advise that you try and resolve these things, so that a baseline level of happiness is restored, which will help you to move forward and towards the confidence that you want to achieve now. And then you can look into putting these self-improvent steps into practise.

Books I would reccommend are books on REBT by Windy Dryden, and Albert Ellis and Instant Confidence by Paul McKenna a uk hypnotist, who explains NLP techniques in a very simple fashion, also using Ericksonian Hypnotic language as you read the books.

Also googling the net for "New Behaviour Generator" and NLP and "Anchoring" may start you off on a fascinating trip you may or may not want to start on your trip to gaining confidence.

These are just some tips and goodluck with your path towards building confidence.

All The Best

Answer 2

In my experience I was a shy non-confident guy so my psychologist told me to go to the movie theather all by myself every week, it actually is a good confident exercise, you start practicing your self-confidence since the moment you have to go to he movie cinema, you have to buy your ticket, go to the bathroom, buy some snacks and stuff.
Good luck sweetie! Hope I helped, besides you are already progressing since you had the courage to ask such thing.

Answer 3

It depends what you want to be more confident about.. if its about people then just remember your better than them and it wont be the end of the world if you lose a friend or what ever there are a bunch of different things you can do for different types of fear

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Before you step out of your house look into a mirror and tell your self I'm the best until you begin believing it it helps a lot. Always act like your the prettiest girl in the roon even if you don't feel like it. And of course don't worry about any one else's opinion!!!

Answer 6

Learn to love yourself for the person you are! Not everyone will like you but that is the same with every person on earth but we are who we are, believe in yourself and always do what you feel is right!
Good Luck

Answer 7

There are assertiveness classes run by the NHS (Free) find one in your district, Good luck to you.

Answer 8

Uh, take a bath, nose Job, face lift, elocution lessons, have your boobies done, at least make sure they are both the same size, remove your beard by electrolisis, trim your pubes to a heart shape.
Or alternative just chill and stop giving a damn, works for me.

Answer 9

By ignoring what others think and concentrating on you and what you like