My kids are growing and speading their wings, I am single and want to socialise more....got no-one to go out with. I have some good friends but they are either miles away, married or alot younger than me (I am 41). I am sooo bored. I want a life and don't know how to find it.
2007-01-13 08:26:50 · 21 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well what do you like to do?.... apart from get P1ssed, throw up and fall down? While the top answer was cruel, he made a point, your aim shouldn't be to meet people, that should be the happy bi-product. It's like buying a computer, but not having anything to use it for.
So figure out an interest that will net you a social life into the bargain. Maybe a short education course, but not cake decorating, as you'll end up with a bunch of sad old maids as friends ;-)
So what are you good at? Go explore that, and see who you meet along the way.
2007-01-13 08:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need something to do by yourself which you have to do out and about. Join a gym. This is a good one. You can workout and mind your own business and maybe say a word or two to someone that you know always goes there. Be active in your community. Spend time at your homeless shelter or retirement home. You will meet co-workers there and socialize. Go out with them and end up in a relationship with them or someone whom you may meet along the way. There is no way to put yourself out there for someone if you don't advertise yourself. I'm not saying Join a Gym or volunteer. Just do something which involves being out of the house and around other people.
2007-01-13 16:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel and it is not feeling sorry for yourself there are some who you go out with that to me are just out looking for a man it's not that your looking it's that you want to laugh and have a dance I have never been much for going out only when your kids grow up things change I am lucky if I go out I can but that is a choice just you be careful join a class of some sort something that interests you and you will more than likely find someone like yourself
2007-01-13 16:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it feels being alone aim 46 and now alone Turing to start over after 17 years being with someone so just don't give up just pick a night to go out and enjoy your self doing what ever you want to it's hard to do at first but it's gets easier and may be some day that person or new people will be in your life and that alone feeling will go away i went out last sat. and made one new Friend and planning to do it again so just make your self get up and do it it gets better i promise
2007-01-13 16:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by earl_simmons2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't always need to do things with someone. Maybe you should take some fun college course or do something by yourself. That way, you'll most likely meet more people. Sometimes hanging with the same people sometime prevents you from meeting new people.
2007-01-13 16:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should start going out & doing things you enjoy alone & meet people who like to do the same things.
If you are into it, go to a bar or a coffee shop, if that's your thing. Join a club or group. Just find your niche & hopefully you will meet others who enjoy the same things as you do.
2007-01-13 16:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dirty.Little.Secret. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its time to fly away and have your own life and live.. My kid has fly the coop and I do under stand where you coming from.. All I do is go to work and home.. Next week I'm flying to Hawaii alone but I know I will have a good time....
2007-01-13 16:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show about picking up a new skill,training at college for something totally different and challenging?You will meet lots of there people and have fun at the same time.I went back to college at the age of 29 and felt like everyones mother,but I passed my exams and am still in contact with some of the people who where there with me.
2007-01-13 16:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by pinkydinkydoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem pages always advise joining clubs or doing some kind of classes where you might meet people with similar interests.
2007-01-13 16:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ahwell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by taking care of yourself. Rediscover who you are and what you like. When you have done this, get out and enjoy your newly found hobbies. Chances are you will meet someone who is interested in the same things that you are.
2007-01-13 16:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Forgiven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋