I was looking into getting an apartment for next year with a friend and two other guys we kinda knew. We had been looking at apartments (just the friend and I, the other two guys had been flaky). We waited a little bit too long because a lot of the stuff has been filling up or is a little too expensive. I then got an offer from another friend to live in his apartment next year for a good price and a lot more room than what the other places had; I decided to take it and I feel kind of bad because I backed out of the oral agreement with the first friend and now he has to change what he was looking for.
Would you been offended if a friend did this to you?
2007-01-13 08:19:31 · 8 answers · asked by Dave H 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The second friend said it would be cool if my first friend wanted to live in the place I decided on also. So I asked him if he wanted to go in on it with me, but he thought it would be too far away.
He still has one of the guys that will be a roommate with him, so he isn't all alone. But I still feel crappy.
2007-01-13 08:39:07 · update #1
i would have told the friend that you you really like the offer and would get back to him the next morning . Should have said like you needed to talk it over with your parents or somehting . Then you should have talked to your friend about it . It might damage your friendship a little . It isn't offending it is just kinda rude . Well hopefully he understand and I would still help him find a place since he is your friend and keep an eye out for something good for him .
2007-01-13 08:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would have been nice if you'd have talked to your friend before accepting the offer from this other friend. That doesn't make you a very good friend, does it?
Offended? I don't think that "offended" is the right word. I'd be mad. Angry. Ticked off. Pissed. You can choose. You were wrong to leave your friend in the lurch like that, and you know it, or you wouldn't have asked this question.
2007-01-13 08:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by beekiss 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd be upset if I wasn't talked to about it first since plans were to do this together. But you gotta do what's best for you and you did offer to have the other person move in also. And you said he's cool with what's happened so I say don't worry about it.
2007-01-13 09:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by momma mia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had counted on you to find the apartment and had foregone other options in the mean time, or wouldn't have enough time to get a good apartment, yes I probably would.
If we "just talked about it", I wouldn't. Depends on the circumstances.
2007-01-13 08:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ivan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cool that you're concerned enough to ask, but it sounds like what you did is very reasonable.
Just be up front with the first individual and make sure he knows that you've made a commitment elsewhere and that he needs to make other plans.
Good Luck and Have Fun!
2007-01-13 08:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on whether you explained what you were doing to me (if it were me) and your demeanor. I would try to understand that you needed a place and things do change. I would continue to be a supportive friend and maybe you can still try to help him find a place that fits his needs and budget, or know someone else he can move in with. Be a friend and continue to help
2007-01-13 08:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Wildwood 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, but I would get over it. I'm a guy.
Btw, I was in that situation too, I refused to leave him.
2007-01-13 08:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is you choice completely.
2007-01-13 08:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋