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I think its hormonal because as soon as I got pregnant, even before I found out, I started to be discusted by him. Its hard to distinguish whether these are real feelings or not, but even if it is hormonal it feels very real. We don't sleep in the same bed, and haven't touched each other in 2 months, and oh by the way, that how pregnant I am. I can remember being in love with him, because it wasn't very along ago and this was a planned pregnancy. Now all I want is him away from me, I keep feeling like breaking up with him, but haven't considering the situation and the possiblity its just my hormones out of wack. Any suggestions? this is very depressing.

2007-01-13 08:13:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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You are very right. I was the same way with both my kids and did leave my hubby both times ,It wasn't fun spending both pregnancies alone be live me but for some reason I just could not stand him. I have never met anyone who felt the same way I did till now. It's tough and I have not a clue why this happens.Thought it was only me now I know it wasn't just me.But I do know it's rare.Hang in there if you can as you will want him back later and feel like such crap that you did something so silly as leaving him.,Good Luck.I would find everything wrong I could with him and turn every little thing into a big one.

2007-01-13 08:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by amber 4 · 0 0

Funny things can happen when a woman becomes pregnant...I can remember feeling like this when I got pregnant with my children...I can't recall if it happened each time or how far in to the pregnancy when I started to experience the same symtoms as you're describing here. However I didn't feel the need to sleep in a different bed from my Husband & he was still affectionate (showed love) towards me...I felt also that I'd "gone off of him" & just didn't feel the need to want to have sex...I didn't have a problem with him cuddling me but I did feel as though I didn't love him anymore.
I know this sounds awful...but I never told my husband how sick he would make me feel sometimes...even repulsed, I didn't think it fair on him to mention it as I hoped it would just pass after the baby was born...it did pass but not over-night....there were times that I just "lay back & thought of England" by pretending to be into "it" rather than keep refusing him sex. I couldn't hurt him by telling him how I felt...
My only concern here is why are you both sleeping in seperate beds...have you both fallen out over this? by all means if you wish to...explain how you're feeling, but be careful to let him know he hasn't done anything wrong & it's not personal, it's to do with your hormones...let him know you still love him you just don't feel the need to have sex right now....Remember though Babe, he has needs & even if you don't feel the need...he will. There are other ways of satisfying him & making him feel loved & a part of this baby's growing life as well.
You are very hormonal at the moment...a bit later into the pregnancy...things could change & you'll become unbelivably horny...who knows? Don't go making any life altering & regretable decisions while you're in this state of mind.
Hope everything turns out well for you both & your new baby... ♥ x

2007-01-13 16:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by Funky 6 · 0 0

First of all you need to be sure that the hormonal cause can never be a cause of breaking up in a serious relationship, this is a physiological process, means harmful.
I think you need to review- on objective grounds- your feelings towards the person as a start, are you sure you really loved him, or you were just aiming to simply get pregnant, craving for motherhood is a well known cause for similar situations.
Be honest with yourself at first, then be fair to him and dont forget, that this man gave you the best feeling a woman can ever have, so at least give him some credit

2007-01-13 16:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tarek D 2 · 0 0

Of course it probably is hormonal, wait a few months and also try to realize his feelings. He is probably kinda stressed right now too. I hated my kids father almost from the moment I got pregnant and was ready to throw him out, then at about 6-7 months mother nature changed my mind again and every thing was fine. 3 times this happened! It cant hurt to wait a bit, but once you break up, things may never be repaired. Discuss your feelings with him as well and explain that it is probably hormonal and you want to wait and see. Also see your Dr and tell him about it, you may have a hormone imbalance that may need checking. Good luck.

2007-01-13 16:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by indianola_gurl 1 · 0 0

I know by experience this is second time pregnant, and your hormones go all out of control, it's almost as if you cannot get control of your thoughts my niece went through thinking her man was having an affair and even though he wasen't she still hated him....trust me what you feel is normal, i have friends who screaned at their partners when they were giving birth, and saying things like it's your fault, but then were fine afterwards when the hormones settle down it will be alright in the end, talk to your partner about it, i'm sure he will understand good luck.

2007-01-13 16:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well if you guys are having this much problems right now what is going to happen when the baby gets here. Is he doing something to make you upset, or treat you differently.

Maybe you two should take a break to really think about your relationship. Being unhappy is not good for the health of your baby.

Sit down and discuss how you can make sure the baby will have there needs met and you can both be good parents without being together. good luck.

2007-01-13 16:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0 0

I think that the most important thing to do is mention it to your doctor. Find out if it is hormonal. After that, then you talk to him. If it is, you explain it to him. If it's not, I really suggest you talk to a psychologist about it.. see why it happened when you got pregnant... what caused it subconsciously.

Good luck!! i really do think that you should seek medical advice before getting rid of him.. just in case it's not really him at all.

2007-01-13 16:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by Julie Bear 2 · 0 0

being frusterated with him is normal... digusted is not. that is a problem. do you expect that you should be having feelings anything like this for the person who is going to father your child. you should ask your doctor b/c i have never been pregnant but my mother says that it is just hormones if it is a planned pregnancy, but you should still ask a doctor. good luck

2007-01-13 16:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by I_caught_fire 2 · 0 0

prehaps you should talk to your partner. see what he feels. if he feels the same then maybe you should split up. although this could just be the hormones. talk to a friend about it and get some advice off them aswell. i hope it works out for you!

2007-01-13 16:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by blonde bimbo xxx 2 · 0 0

pregnancy drives your emotions crazy things you like you might not like now that you're pregnant and vice versa... dont worry you'll probably end up like him again soon. just dont nit-pick about the things you dont like in him... no one's perfect.

2007-01-13 16:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by ashes 1 · 1 0

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