Very confused about this?

Question

Broke up with ex in the beginning of september. We have both had a new relationship since then. I am out of mine and she is stll in hers. We ended up going out to dinner last week and we ended up sleeping together again. She said it was a one time thing and that it can't happen again. The whole time she was over she was hanging all over me like when we were together then she just shut off those feelings the next day, is that just from the guilt of cheating? She is really confusing me. I really don't know if it is a wise idea to hang out anymore. If it has happened once I don't really think it won't happen again. She also wasn't telling her boyfriend we were hanging out. She finally told him we went to dinner this week, but nothing else. Should I just stay away. I actaully still have feelings for her and she knows this. I don't honestly know what to do. Any advice would be great.

Answer 1

This is a rather dificult possition to be in,
Especially because your smack dab in the middle of it,

I personally, would stay away.
It may not be the easiest thing to do,
Considering that you still have feelings for this woman,

But it seems as if she is rather confused.
In all honesty, A person who would cheat on their
Girlfriend or their boyfriend,
Doesn't have a great amount
of respect for themsevles or the others involved in the entire situation.

If she had honestly still had true feelings for you,
And she cared about you, she would have dumbed her current boyfriend for you.
And she wouldn't have put you in the position you are in now.

But that is not the case,
What she actaully did was bring you into a situation that was unstable as well as she left you hanging.

It sounds like she didn't really care or repsect you or herself, or her current boyfriend enough to keep her hands to herself and do the "right" thing.


It sounds like maybe you were just a fling this time.
If she truley cared about you still,
And honestly only wanted to be with you,
Then she would have told you how she felt,
While communicating with you openly and honestly,
And she would have dumped her current boyfriend,
To be with you.
But that is not the case, once again.
If she cheated on her current boyfriend,
Who's to say exactly how loyal she will be to you?

I know that it's hard,
Especially considering that you still have loving feelings for her,
I totally understand where you are coming from,
I had almost the same exact situation happen to me before,
And I can surely tell you, That respect honesty and communication between people who are interested in having an healthy relationship is the main key.

I'm really so sorry for the situation you are in,
And I can already feel your pain.
I personally would just stay at a distance.
It sounds like she doesn't quite know who she is,
And exactly what she wants ....Not that it is a bad thing,
Because a lot of people don't know what they want,
But they soon come to figure out what they want,
But sometimes in the prosess of finding out what they want,
They hurt others.
Not always intentionally, But it does indeed happen.


She must have some type of motive behind sleeping with you,
As well as hanging out with you,
She could still have feelings for you,
But the question is,
Is that does she still have feelings for you more than
she has feelings for her current boyfriend?
If she does,
Then give it time...
She will come around...
And if it comes to that,
It will be your choice whether you choose to be with her not.
But be sure to take into great consideration...
That she did cheat on her current boyfriend,
And that is a true sign, of lack of respect,
As well as dis-trust.

You could still hang out around her,
If you chose to,
And you felt that you could have enough self-control
to not put yourself in the position you are in again.
Meaning : Don't sleep with her, Unless she isn't taken.


She is probably having a great deal of guilt that is eating away at her for doing such a thing,
But she will find ways to deal with that as times goes on.

As said before,
I would suggest staying at a distance from her & her relationship
for a while.

It is personally your choice,
And if you'd like to talk to her,
Then talk to her,
But if you are afraid of being put in the position where you are a victim while she cheats on her current boyfriend,
Then be sure to be aware of the possibilities,
And know that you must always stand your ground,
You have to make your own choices......
So just do your best to make the right one.

=)

On the contrary,
You sound like a very intelligent and outgoing guy,
I'm sure things will work out for you,
Just focus on the positive!!!


Good luck hun,
And if you have any further questions,
Please don't hesitate in contacting me.

I hope I helped, even if it is just a little!

xoxo

Answer 2

Breaking up IS hard to do* and Letting go is even Harder*~ You both may or may not end up being together again...but you broke up for a reason the first time. You are not with anyone but she is. And yes...Guilt hit her and the feelings had to be put aside. But you're right........The chemistry is still there for you both...but you need to be the better man and stay away, or you know this will happen again....It's never cool to know she's with someone else but until she's on her own again.....I would stay away* and think back to WHY you 2 broke up the first time.
Move forward is my advice. There are plenty of beautiful women on the inside as well as the outside....You'll always hold the memories you both shared, but time to make new memories with someone else.
Good Luck*

Answer 3

She is most likely guilty about cheating on her boyfriend,but don't be mistaken. No women sleeps with a man for pure fun,there is always something behind her motive. Give her time,most likely the guilt will consume her,and her relationship could end. But move on from the situation,and live life,until she can decide what is doing.

Answer 4

Gosh, very sticky, and hurtful for both of you, I'm sorry.
Yeah, separate yourself from her. Be respectful, always, but make the distance between you so at least YOU can begin some emotional healing. In the future, if she breaks up with the current fellow, make sure she's had recovery time (and that she's actually recovered) from that coupling.
Your character as a gentleman is admirable. Her guilt is hers to bear.

Answer 5

yes it is from the guilt of cheating, but she needs to tell her b.f. the fact that she cheated is something to worry about but more so, the fact that she is hiding things is rediculous. what do you think she will do to you. and what happened in your past relationship?

Answer 6

Well if shes cheating on her boyfriend it leads me to believe if you hook back up with her shes going to do the same to you. Trust me man you don't need the drama. Thats one chickenhead you can kick to the curb.

Answer 7

I think she playing with you mine... She don't know who she wants to be with. .. Remember a Cheater always a Cheater... And if want a Cheater in your life.. And never know what she is doing behind your back,, live a life of hurt?? Its your life.....

Answer 8

well it depends on whether you want her back or not. because if you do it looks like you could do that. you could also wait for her to end the relationship. she stills likes you or love you and if you want to capitalize on that to bring her back to you.