My bf dumped me we were engaged I had my life planned around him now I'm 21 and dont know what to do my life is over
2007-01-13 07:49:23 · 14 answers · asked by lostinmath 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're 21, your life is just starting. Trust me, you are much better off him dumping you now than in five years.
Cheer up and enjoy life. Go out with your friends. Take an education. And don't plan around anyone again. It's your life.
2007-01-13 07:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ivan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think 21 is a little too young to be desparate? I feel badly for you and your break-up. Getting dumped when you were about to get married is pretty painful. I have been there and done that. You have plenty of time to rebound and find someone new.
If the guy didn't want you anymore, then why want him back? Look at it this way, he did you a favor by bolting before a legal marriage and kids were involved. The best thing you can do for yourself is to devote your time in bettering yourself and spend less time dwelling on the break-up. Get out there and date other guys. In time you will get over him.
2007-01-13 15:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 21: your life has barely begun. You won't even have a clue to your potential until at least 26. This is the best time this kind of thing can happen to you: you learn from it, you become stronger, and you have time to develop yourself and find the right kind of man.
Getting dumped is just an emotional rollercoaster for a while. You'll be alright.
2007-01-13 16:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you cannot plan your life because life is very uncertain. What happened to you is not a tragedy, it's a speed bump in the parking lot of life. If you feel that your life is over because somebody broke up with you, you obviously have major self esteem issues and are in need a good therapist. The best thing you can do is get a good education so that you can take care of yourself. (Never rely on men!)
2007-01-13 16:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok re-read your last sentence your 21 you have your whole world a head of you i am 21 myself and i have been through the same thing its been 2 years now since the split and sure i still get sad but i have moved on it took a good 2 weeks of being sad than i pulled myself together and got some of my friends and went out. its not worth it dont sit around and feel sorry for yourself go expirence life believe me everything will work out how it is supposed to...
2007-01-13 15:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Amy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say things like that.. just because your bf dumped you doesn't mean your life is over. there are alot of guys out there. you'll be sad for a while but eventually you'll move on. remember there are alot of fish in the sea :) good luck
2007-01-13 15:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is hardly over at 21 Hon. Pick yourself up and move on with your life. Someone out there loves you. You need to find them.
2007-01-13 15:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL.
Honey please, your life is beginning. You are reborn.
NEVER plan your life around A MAN. You are your own country and you are to defend it with honor, dignity, and seriousness.
Start your career and find a real man who will love you for being you!
You need a diversion to keep yourself busy and move past his foolishness.
2007-01-13 16:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's just really..uhm stupid..you don't need a guy that doesn't want you.just move on.cause life isn't over until you lose everything.like your job.your friends,your family..etc.
so when you fall down get back up again.cause i bet he's not the only thing that was your reason for living=]
2007-01-13 15:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by oh. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on girl! this is just a rough time, i have been in a similar situation and its it tough.....take it one day at a time and live, i just turned 21 and got out of a horrible relationship too.....it gets better each day.......there is nothing i could say for you to do. i just hope you have a good day!
2007-01-13 15:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋