To spank or not to spank? Why has this become such an issue?If you are for it and it works for you great.If your not and that works for you great But what I want to know is why have we become so obssesed about this issue. Does it really matter how other people discipline their child{barring serious abuse} as long as it works and the children are loved and cared for?
2007-01-13 07:26:44 · 15 answers · asked by blue_eyed_brat78 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When did it become Ok to tell other people how to look after their own kids?
2007-01-13 07:40:04 · update #1
Because people who spank think they are loving their child and teaching them how to control themselves in the future so they can succeed.
People who don't spank, think that people who do spank are wrong because they themselves have no self control because no one ever spanked them to teach them self control. So their idea of spanking is not a little sting on the tush, it is a full blown, anger infested beating of a child.
Some people don't spank because their parents beat them and therefore they swore never to do it to their kids. Beating and spanking? To people who do spank it is spanking. To those who don't is it beating. That is why people fight over it. They don't understand and they think they are all trying to help the kids.
2007-01-13 07:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Momma 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I completely agree with you, here a woman on tv a few years ago got arrested for spanking a child in a parking lot. I spank my children, I will admit that to anyone, no i dont hit them or beat them! If my boys do something wrong I pat them on the butt, I DO NOT agree spanking with objects though. When I was a little kid I got whooped with a belt, I on the other hand would not do that. When my kids were still young if they touched the stove or something I would say No, No and tap there hands so that they would get an understanding of what not to do. I think people judge to quickly these days and I think that if more of these kids got spanked that not so many would be running around wild!
2007-01-13 08:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has different views on spanking some don't believe it's ok and others do i have no right to go judging anyone for their parenting. However if you witness the child or children getting really hit like really hard then no that is NOT ever ok! For my own child hitting is ok but not hard or anything. I get told i don't hit my son hard enough that is harsh. No matter what age a child is they should not be having marks on them that is not discipline.
2007-01-14 15:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was spanked as a child, and it worked for me. My godson has been spanked but it doesnt work with him. he rather get the spanking then be in a time out. so he gets time outs and they are much more effective. It depends on each child and each parent. I think that its not okay for people to tell parents how to raise there children. Children now-a-days are rude, no manners, and self centered.
2007-01-13 10:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by i love my sexy hubby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a psychology major and according to my professor children do not develop reasoning skills til later in childhood, so when a child is in their terrible two's reasoning with the child will not prove as effective as spanking. Altho for discipline to be effective the punishment or reinforcement must occur consistently and right after the behavior was exhibited by the child.
2007-01-13 07:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Thank You, I totally agree, I am tired of hearing people relate spanking to such things as sexual abuse, or even child abuse. Unless your leaving permanent marks, it's OK. Like you said, if it works then fine.
2007-01-14 21:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its only an issue because the government want it to be, They are the ones making it an issue, I have two children 8 and 10 If it is warrented i smack them and they are very well behaved and adjusted kids. The government are the ones that made it abuse if you give your Kids a smack on the butt for doing the wrong thing, because they think it will scar them, but i think if you don't you end up with disrespectfull brats.
2007-01-13 18:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
its an issue because its mean and doesn't work. any child care provider/psychologist/ect will tell you spanking itsn't the best way to parent.
to me its a outdated, I think in this day and age we're smarter than that.
my BF argues with me about it. He was hit as a kid, he had a horrible bad boy phase. I was rarely if ever hit (maybe 6 times in my life) and I never had one disciplinary problem during k-12, no crminal record, ect.
so you don't need to spank to get good behavior. it confuses children and doesn't teach them anything. they can be hit, but can't hit others.
they behave to avoid pain, not because of the intrinsic motivation to do what is right. once you're not around, they'll misbehave if you spank. and why shouldn't they? instead of taking the time to explain things to them and teach them right from wrong, you just smack them.
2007-01-13 11:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because they care about the children of these parents feelings. I know it's not right to tell others what to do, but maybe they had a traumatic experience involving spanking, and they are just trying to help other kids not go through the same pain they had. I support these people, for I am one of these people.
2007-01-13 10:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by The_Pink_One 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree with you, and i rarely initiate a conversation about it, as I feel everyone can do what they wish about it. However if I am asked my opinion about the issue of spanking, I will share it, loudly if need be.
2007-01-13 07:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋