I asked another question about my Nephuew's girlfriend and her behavior and boy did I ever get it socked to me. Am I a prude for not wanting my grandchildren exposed to that?I was told that I was being judgemental and I know that I am in the respect that I don't want my grandkids to say that word or to use drugs and to think this is normal and my lifestyle is adnormal. So do I give up on teaching my grandchildren morrals?
2007-01-13 07:17:42 · 14 answers · asked by Pamela V 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
no you are not a prude for hating the f word i hate it as well and as for not wanting your grand children exposed to that kind of talk i say good for you and stick to your morrals and teach them to your grand children and any body who talks like in front of the children and in front of you knowing that you do not like such languish it is very disrespectfully
2007-01-13 07:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by ann p 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're a prude. I think that today's society is a little more accepting of foul language than those of the past. I think that if a person were to curse, it is of their own doing. I don't think that children should be around this kind of language. I did read your other questions about the Nephew situation. I'm not trying to judge anyone, but I wouldn't hold her family's problems to her as a person. Sure, there may be a lot of issues with them, but that doesn't mean she will end up like them as well. Everyone has their struggles. I know that my mother went through a LOT as a child, in and out of foster homes, abusive parents, etc. And she is the strongest and most wonderful woman in the world. She raised me well, and didn't become a "bad seed" due to her surroundings.
I think if this is something that really bothers you, you should sit down and talk with your Nephew regarding the matter. Not lecture him on why he shouldn't marry her, but just a conversation (i.e. he talks and then you talk, it's a two sided thing) to get your opinions heard. If you want to make it more comfortable, find someone in the family who's still on the fence on the situation. That way you can also have someone's opinion on the matter that isn't biased.
Remember, we have to have faith in people and hope for the best. First impressions aren't everything, and people can always change for the better.
2007-01-13 07:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by sfowler0817 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is low class to use such language. People who can't refrain from using the "F" word usually do poorly in school and work. It sounds like you are dealing with some very immature people. Most mature adults would thank you for your advice and try to refrain from talking that way, at least not as often.
Unfortunately you don't have custody of the children. There's nothing you can do about bad langauge except to keep on good terms with the parents, immature as they are, so that you can be a positive role model for the children. if the children's parents are drug users, they may be neglecting or abusing the kids. If they are, for their own safety, you should make an anonymous report of child abuse. If the parents are drug addicts, then after several months or years if the parents can't stay clean of drugs the children may end up in foster homes or perhaps in the home of a relative like you. At least then they would have positive role models.
2007-01-13 07:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Investor 2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're a prude at all. The girlfriend's behavior is setting a bad example for those around her, especially the kids. She, through her actions, is encouraging the younger ones to use foul language. You have every right to ask her to please not use swear words around the grandchildren. Not to mention that repetitive cursing, after a while, is also just plain annoying.
2007-01-13 08:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you should never stop leading them, especially when concerned with wright and wrong. but our culture is slowly (okay frighteningly rapidly) devolving, and public school kids I hang out with say worse than that.... no, you're not really a prig or anything like for hating, and just because other people use it doesn't mean you have to..... yeah, steer your grand kids away from it if you can, and they will probably listen if you don't pose it to forcefully and make a point of subtly reinforcing it.... and using the *f* word doesn't necessarily mean that they'll do drugs..... that sounds judgmental to me, but i dunno. I've had a very laid back upbringing. And no lifestyle is normal or abnormal. people just do things differently. morals are something alot of kids aren't exposed to nowadays.... guess chivalry really is dead, or dying. but there's nothing to stop you from trying. and you can't judge or slur people according to their lifestyle yeah, there may be things you don't agree with, but I'm sure there are plenty of things they don't like about yours.......
2007-01-13 07:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that word is very degrading. all people need morals. some people, myself included, will just learn the hard way. im still very young, 18, but i wish that i had some better infulences in my life when i was younger. they will be exposed to things like that regardless of what you do, but you can do your best at making them into great people. there is always, though, a point where you have to stop teaching and let them take over, until then, drill, drill, drill!
2007-01-13 07:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by I_caught_fire 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not prude at all! I'm pretty young and I think the same thing. My motto on that subject matter is this: I look down on those who resort to words such as that, they must not be smart enough to have a larger vocabulary.
I think it's normal that you are concerned about that, I would be too!
2007-01-13 07:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
NO DON'T GIVE UP!! There need to be more responsible adults like yourself in this world. They're your grandchildren it's part your responsibility that they grow up good kids.
2007-01-13 07:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by cavigirl17 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Are you a prude? No. You are misinformed and wasting time on how she speaks instead of what she says. You are more concerned about the words coming out of the mouth than the thoughts behind the words, worried more about taboos and niceties than listening to and learning from the speaker.
If you want to criticize her, first find out what she has to say, then if it's wrong tear it apart with rational thinking. Attempting to ban words and ideas only shows fear by those trying to ban them, not any rightness in their position.
Nothing will silence her more than intelligent argument and a civil response. You can publicly embarass yourself or you can embarass her. Your choice.
> I don't swear for the hell of it. Language is a poor enough means
> of communication. We've got to use all the words we've got. Besides,
> there are damn few words anybody understands.
- Henry Drummond, "Inherit the Wind" (1960)
http://imdb.com/title/tt0095373/quotes
> There's a different group to get pissed off at you in this country
> for everything your not supposed to say. Can't say
[ 35 ethnic slurs which I censored because of yahoo's fascism ]
> There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of those words in and of
> themselves. They're only words. It's the context that counts. It's the
> user. It's the intention behind the words that makes them good or bad.
> The words are completely neutral. The words are innocent.
>
> I get tired of people talking about bad words and bad language.
> Bullsh|t! It's the context that makes them good or bad. The _context_
> that makes them good or bad. For instance, you take the word "Nipper."
> There is absolutely nothing wrong with the word "Nipper" in and of
> itself. It's the racist asssshole who's using it that you ought to be
> concerned about. We don't mind when Richard Pryor or Eddie Murphy say
> it. Why? Because we know they're not racists.
>
> They're Nippers!
>
> Context! Context! We don't mind their context because we know they're
> black. Hey, I know I'm whitey, the blue-eyed devil, paddy-o, fay gray
> boy, honkey, mother-fycker myself. Don't bother my assss. They're only
> words. You can't be afraid of words that speak the truth, even if it's
> an unpleasant truth, like the fact that there's a bigot and a racist
> in every living room on every street corner in this country.
- George Carlin, "They're Only Words"
http://www.iceboxman.com/carlin/pael.php#track14
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2007-01-13 07:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
no dont give up kids need morrals and i hate that word and the p word and gd.its terrible words.
2007-01-13 07:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by texas nanna 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋