With my daughter everytime she learned something new, I loved it. It was something less for me to do... I taught her to do things really early.. to put on her shoes and brush her own hair... etc...
With this baby though, I am still pregnant, but I am feeling the opposite, like I want to stretch the baby and toddler years out more....
Did anyone else encourage their firstborn to be independent, especially single mom's?
2007-01-13 07:14:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm a single dad, and have a good relationship with my (now adult) daughter. Raising her got tough in the teenage years because I was looking to protect her while she was fighting for independance. It gradually eased up as she got older, but I must agree that a child should go to college far enough away that he/she can't come home every weekend. We appreciated each other a lot more after a couple of years, and she was much better equipped to deal with life. When I look at other families and at the one I came from, there does seem to be a signifigant difference with the first one. You're asking about a mother's feelings though, and I can only suggest. Could it be the excitement of the first is how he/she develops, and the reluctance to part with later ones is the realization of how short a time they are your babies?
2007-01-13 11:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too am pregnant with #2, and have an independent 3 year old girl.
I don't think I pushed her to be independent, but I didn't exactly hold her back either. She came to me from her bedroom, just the other day in a completely different outfit she had on before. I didn't know she could change her clothes by herself, but she was SOOOO proud of herself, that I praised her immensly & silently thanked God that it was one less thing I had to do in the mornings.
2007-01-13 09:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by P. K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a single mom but I feel like I pushed both of my kids to be idependant.
I have a 13 year old and a 7 yr old. I keep telling the 13 yr old about life and the 7 yr old safty issues. More to both but I wont bore you.
I wanted both of them to stay babies but wanted them to grow up. I cant wait for their weddings but wish they were still able to fit in a highchair.
We can't have both.
2007-01-13 07:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by nia93me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a single mom but yes i've done the same thing my daughter 13 and very Independent where as my son who is 11 is not. is it a gender thing or my hang ups? not sure but i do notice a difference.
2007-01-13 09:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by fluttering_by@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have encouraged and gently pushed both my girls to be independent, the youngest didn;t need much pushing, shes just like me...my 9 yr old on the other hand would prefer to let us do everything for her.
2007-01-13 07:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋