How should i tell my girlfriend that she is gaining a bit of weight.?

Question

Don't get me wrong i would just tell her but i know how girls get when it comes to stuff like this. I know no matter how i put it she will be upset, so ive been lying to her when she askes me about it. And they say you should never tell a girl she "looks fat". WHAT SHOULD I DO.

Answer 1

You and her should start slowly getting into physical activity.

It depends how old you are. If you're just kids, don't worry about it.

If it's a case of the "freshman fifteen" I wouldn't sweat it.

Both of you should do healthier things. Tell her that "you" want to be more fit. Tell her that "you" want to go for a walk. If you make her think you're the one who is worried, and she comes along with you for the activities, she'll shed the weight.

Seriously, you can't just come out and say it if you want to keep her around, and I'm guessing that you do.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I care about the way I look and my husband's opinion of me is extremely important too!! I would want him to let me know if I was gaining weight (How can I fix something if I don't know it's broke?). I have told him in the past to be very gentle if he does ever have to tell me that I'm putting on weight. He hasn't had to yet, but here is how I would reccommend telling her without destroying her confidence. The next time she asks you if she's gaining weight,simply tell her that she looks good to you and you can't really tell, but if it's bothering her that much that she keeps asking, you guys can just start eating better and excercising together. Make sure you tell her that what's important is how she feels about herself, because you will love her no matter what. Putting it this way puts a caring and thoughtful spin to an otherwise hurtful truth.

Answer 3

I don't think YOU should say Anything to your g/friend about her gaining a tad of weight. She will FREAK out*~ Alot of ppl gain some pounds over the holidays...She will KNOW herself if she's put on some weight...you don't need to point it out to her. If she ASKS you "do i look fat" Your common response should be NO* you look Beautiful* then ask her HOW DO YOU Feel? Yes it may be a lie and you don't want to lie but trust me...NEVER tell a woman that YES she looks fat or YES she's gained some weight. Trust me SHE knows she's gained weight and i'm sure she's trying to get it off quick before spring/summer comes...and will try to dress more slimming. But Pls...Don't ever say that to a woman LOL They don't like it at all~*

Answer 4

To put it bluntly, YOU DON'T. unless you're worried about her health, or she's binge eating, you're probably best off not mentioning it to her. She'll figure it out when her clothes fit too tight. The majority of women are VERY concious of our weight, and don't really need outside criticism on that. If you feel that you absolutely must say something, I'd suggest saying something like "your clothes look a little snug, are you trying a new style?" or "you're getting a little fluffy/snuggly." Try not to use the words fat, chubby, or anything else derogatory. Ask yourself why it matters to you if she's gaining weight. I'm married, and my husband is "fluffy," and to be honest, I'd miss his tummy if he ever got a washboard stomach. Everybody's different.

Answer 5

Damn good question. The key to any relationship is honesty, but just don't make it that blunt. Just give her a slight hint of how you feel and maybe she will grasp it. Invite her to join a gym with you, you'll be spending time with her and making your body healthier while you are it. If she Deny's going with you, edge her on. If she still doesn't get the hint though, just keep trying somehow. no matter how you say it doesn't matter how sweet you go about it the only thing she is going to catch out of your sentence is "gained weight". It really hurtful to hear, so i really recommend that you subtly go about it. Make emphasis on you wanting to work out and how you would really love her company

Answer 6

Very difficult one. I've been told I wasn't as fit as I used to be and that bugged me but also motivated me to do something about it.

You can always say she looks sexy now, but you also liked her size when you first met. Also don't give her chocolate or alcohol unless you want her to put on more weight. If you don't end up wanting to say anything maybe you can suggest you do some activities together, join a gym or a sport or something and she'll soon lose the weight.

Answer 7

I wouldn't tell her she's gained weight. The next time she asks about it start a conversation! Tell her she looks great. Mention that she has asked several times then ask if she's unhappy with her weight. Give her a chance to talk to you about it. Keep it light (no big deal) and positive. Let her take the lead.

Answer 8

Be a gentleman, and tell her that she look fabulous....and if you like the anorexic kind, then i suggest you break it off with her

However, if she's getting obese (as in, she's gained weight over her ideal weight) then it would be right to tell her she needs to watch what she's eating for her own health

But if shes just a bit plump round the edges, then you shouldn't really be complaining....be grateful for the extra meat

Answer 9

When I gained weight, my boyfriend told me. I knew it anyway, and told him... I know, I know...

Then, I worked out really hard and he cooperated with me by throwing my legs to the sides and forward and the object was not to keep my feet six inches from the floor. He would also swim the butterfly with me and race me even though I couldn't beat him... He was an athlete and so was I, so I could handle the criticism and he helped me. I lost the excess weight in no time.

If you don't have that kind of relationship with your girlfriend and you don't work out, then don't call the kettle black or she will be offended.

Answer 10

she already knows, she is asking if you still like her anyway. she wants to hear you say something like "I love you just the way you are, you look great to me". if her weight has gotten so out of control that you aren't attracted to her anymore, then let her down easy and break up with her. if you love her, then just say she's always beautiful. you DO NOT tell a girl she looks fat, we NEVER want to hear it, even if we already know it.