What Do You Think?

Question

This problem started today... It's nothing dramatic, but it's certainly something that i can't stop thinking about no matter how hard i try. I met a guy who works in this shop i visit very often, he has served me at the counter once, but i didn't think anything about him then, now however, im starting to think that he seems a very nice and decent guy. However, I know nothing about him and another thing is that i am 16 and i have no idea how old he is...he does look like he may be 20/21. I don't think age is very much a problem, i am a mature girl and have my head in my shoulders ( and i don't mean to sound cocky :-) ) I was thinking a few days ago that i just want to concentrate on my studying and i know perfectly well that you don't need a man to be happy as i am perfectly happy right now. However, my new years resolution is to be more impulsive and to try things that i wouldn't normally do (within reason), so i would simply like your opinion on what i should do about this? Thanks! :)

Answer 1

As mature as you think you may be, you're not going to be on the same page as the 20/21 year old and you're not going to want the same things.

Answer 2

Being spontaneous is sometimes difficult. You need that gutspa to get it rolling. But honestly if he is older, say 20 or 21, he may have different interests. I'm all for the "I dont consider age" when dating thing. Actually I dated a younger guy myself. But the maturity levels were always an issue, the fact that he was in high school and I had graduated more than a year before that, and that I was turning 21 soon, so my interests were to go out and have a good time. He would not be able to do those things.

I think that if you really want to go for it, then first you have to know if the guy is even available and/or interested. I'm not witty, I dont have any one liners to give you. Are you friends with any of the other employees there? Are you friends with anyone who is friends with anyone there? Having the right connections can sometimes help too, that way it's easier to get your foot in the door without actually having to go up to the guy and ask him out without running away in humiliation if you're rejected, or looking like an idiot because you can't find the right words, or he says yes and then you have no follow up conversation in your head.

All I can say is just be yourself. I know this sounds so cliche, but if he is in fact older he'll want a girl who IS mature, not a girl that ACTS mature.

Good luck! :)

Answer 3

Your first intuition was correct. A 16 year old girl who is mature with a head on her shoulders would just concentrate on her studying, because a very nice and decent 20/21 year old guy would not date a 16 year old girl because it is very much a a problem, because you are j.b. (jailbait).

Answer 4

I think you're getting way ahead of yourself. Afterall, he's only served you ONCE. Have you ever even had a casual conversation with him? At least start there. You may find that you might not even be attracted to each other. You'll probably find yourself in tons of situations like these at this age, but the worst thing to do is be impulsive especially with guys you don't know, trust me.

Answer 5

what type of shop? 7-11? try buying someting inexspecive like a slurpie let him ring you up and then leave the slurpie at the counter as he reminds you that you left your item come off with a quick line like your hot and i figured i would try to cool ya down. if he's intrested he will let ya know and if not yous both can have a good laugh

Answer 6

first of all if you are only 16 he could get into alot of trouble if hes older but maybe you should find out and if hes not next time you are there strike up a convo with him and see if you guys have anything in common if hes interested you will know if not well you havent lost anything you didnt have to begin with did ya

Answer 7

Huh?

Answer 8

He's a little too old for you. But it's O.K. to look :)