My 2-year-old girl always needs a soother when she goes to bed; she even searches for it in her sleep and puts it in her mouth, i dont know how to make her stop using it. Moreover, she needs to watch video of all ads and title songs of serials when she is eating, which i started when she was just 4 months old. Now, she refuses to have even a spoon of food, if the video is not running. I even tried engaging her mind in toys and even took her out while feeding. But nothing works. Pl. tell me how to make her overcome both these addictions.
2007-01-13 06:55:01 · 13 answers · asked by Indian 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I really dont see too much wrong with her wanted something at night (her soother). The only thing you could do is take it away and she will eventually get over it i guess. As far as the videos...she will eat if she is hungry enough. Good luck...I have a difficult 2 year old as well so I feel your pain!
2007-01-13 07:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sled Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is only two so let the soother comfort her while she sleeps. She'll outgrow it & if it makes her feel secure at night, what harm can it do? Trying to take both the tv & soother away at the same time is too much emotionally for her to handle right now. Now, you're daughter is so used to watching tv while eating & that's going to be a hard habit to break but you have to do it now & don't give in if your daughter fusses. Maybe while you sit down to eat with her, you could find some relaxing music on the radio & play it softly while you both eat. Toys don't belong at the table. They're a distraction too. Teach her that mealtime is for eating & reward her when she's done by turning on the tv "after" she gets down from the table. Just remember, she's only going to do what you allow her to do, so be firm, & don't give in where the tv is concerned. No one said being a mom would be easy. It's a learning thing process each day, but you'll do fine.
2007-01-20 07:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with any addiction to take the item away all together means she would be going cold turkey so it depends on wether you can listen to the tantrums. I personaly would take away her soother while shes asleep and keep it away to see how it goes first. As for the video by refusing to eat she knows it scares you and by doing that she can get her own way. I would hide the video and tell her no and if shes not going to eat ok she can go hungery but dont give her any thing else eg.sweets' yogurt' cereal give her back the meal you prepared otherwise she'll see this as another way to get what she wants. She will get that hungery that in the end she'll eat it but only do this maybe for a few hours dont let her go without eating for a long amount of time. Dont do both in 1 day either it wouldnt b fair thats like being an alcoholic and a heavy smoker and giving up both in 1 day it wouldnt work. If you have no luck still with any of the answers you can consult your health visitor.
2007-01-13 07:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by vic b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would just take care of one addiction at a time. First the TV-- She's little, you're big. She's the kid, you're the mom, AND the boss. So just don't allow the tv. She'll be mad and try to make you miserable for awhile, maybe even days!! But don't give in because then she wins, and this will set the pattern for getting her way with you later. Just remain calm and firm. Even if she throws her food etc., don't get mad. Eventually she'll give up.
Take care of the soother later. With one of my kids, what I did was: At Easter I said the Easter bunny was coming but he would probably take the soother for his own little bunny. And he did! When my little one woke up in the morning the soother was gone and a pretty Easter basket was there. He never said another word about the soother.
2007-01-20 09:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie Preston 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is doing it because you let her! My 3 year old tried the movie thing with me for a while. I put her plate in the fridge and pretty soon she would decide she was hungry and she got to eat cold food. Tell her fine, don't eat. Take the food away. And, make sure the tv stays off! As far as the soother to fall asleep, take it away. She can't stay awake all night. She might cry but oh well, kids cry. Let her cry, it will make her sleepy faster.
Probably not exactly what you want to hear. It will be rough, and you will want to cave in, but don't! Each time you cave in and let her watch a video she is learning that all she has to do is resist or get upset and you will give in. I'm sure you don't want to still be having these kind of problems when she gets to be older.
Be brave.... and stick to your guns!
2007-01-13 20:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by mommybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to take the soother and the video away. She will be angry at first. She may even refuse to eat, but just because she isn't eating at meal time doesn't mean that she will starve. When she is hungry she will come to you for food.
As for the soother you can give her praise when she wakes up after sleeping without her soother. Again, she will be angry. She may even cry herself to sleep, but she will still fall asleep eventually.
2007-01-19 09:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by Allison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly the bad habits are already there. You just have to take them away and be strong when she has a fit. It should only take a couple days for her to get over the video at least. the soothie will be harder. You might try having a ceremony to get rid of it , explain to her that she is a big girl now and that she doesn't need those things anymore. You could make a big deal of putting them in a bag and saying that you are going to take them to a baby that needs them. Or on trash day take her out to the curb and have her throw the stuff in the can before the trash tuck pulls up and have to say bye to them and watch them drive away. I hope this helps.
2007-01-18 06:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Heather D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not rigidity her in any respect! you may reason an ingesting ailment in the destiny or you are able to only make her sense like that's a chore and some thing she HAS to do and that is not any relaxing. attempt to be relaxing with the nutrition, like use toothpicks (boring ones no longer the pointy ones, i imagine you seem for those that say flat toothpicks). I do this for my little ones and they noticeably a lot devour some thing that on a toothpick. I cut back up pizza, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, quesadillas with a pizza cutter and placed toothpicks in each and each bite and my daughter loves it! everywhere i look I see overweight little ones, i'm so fortunate i do not ought to cover nutrition from my little ones and problem about diabetes and severe ldl cholesterol and being made relaxing of and disregarded in college. Be grateful that your baby isn't overweight it truly is sooooo a lot more suitable sturdy and psychologically unfavorable to the baby for existence! Btw- did you recognize that a toddler in trouble-free words desires a meal the dimensions of their own fist? So if she is ingesting that a lot at a meal then sense free. keep healthful snacks accessible like culmination, vegetable, cheese, raisins, wheat crackers and so on. it truly is truly useful that they learn healthful ingesting conduct jointly with healthful snacking and small customary foodstuff.
2016-10-31 00:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the video off. She will eat eventually. She wont starve to death. Also with my daughter and the soother.. at 2 yrs old I told her she was a big girl and that we were going to mail them off to baby's that need them.
Then she and I packaged all of them up and put them in our mail box to "send them to the baby's". It was fun for her. Then that night when she went to bed she asked for them and I reminded her that we sent them away. She cried for a few min. but then got over it. It took about 3 nights for her to stop asking for it. After she went to bed I took them out of the mailbox and threw them away.
2007-01-19 08:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pdoodles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let her watch videos or TV until shes had her meal. remember you are the boss
2007-01-19 14:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋