I'm still the same pretty, fascinating person they were interested in before they heard I have kids. It's so hard to meet anyone, are there any guys out there who really won't care that I have children? If so, where are they hiding?
2007-01-13 06:54:47 · 9 answers · asked by advicemom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Advicemom there are plenty of men out there who are more than happy to accept a woman who has little ones, but obviously you just haven't met the right ones yet. There are not many people who don't come into relationships without some kind of baggage attached, male and females especially the older that you get. Just a suggestion but if you have any hobbies or interests perhaps you could join a group of like minded individuals and perhaps you may meet someone of the male species there or even another woman who may end up setting you up with someone they think you might hit it off with. Or if your kids are into any sports or anything you might even met someone at one of their games, as there are a lot of single fathers out there looking for someone that will accept them even though they have kids to bring into a relationship also. In my opinion, which may not be correct, I think that you'd have a much better chance of finding a mate by trying one of these things rather than at a bar or nightclub. Another way might be to do some volunteer work for an organization in your community, not only will you be doing a nice thing for someone in need but you may meet someone and expand your social network at the same time. I know it's not easy being a single parent and dividing your time but it is doable. Best of luck, believe in yourself and show the world that you are a confident woman. There is someone out there that is looking for a woman just like you but it may take some time before you meet or it may happen when you least expect it. Again best of luck.
2007-01-13 07:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They Probably Cannot Take/ Or Do Not Want The Responsibility Of A Child. Also They Are Useless/Worthless If They Just Run Away Because Of Your Children. They Should Love You For Who You Are (The Whole Package).
You Will Find The Right Man Soon, And When You Do He Will Appreciate You And Everything That Comes With You (Children) :D
2007-01-13 15:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many single men aren't really interested in kids - yet - and certainly not keen on the idea of raising someone else's kids. Not to be rude, but the fact that you have kids and no husband, unless it was due to some unfortunate tragedy, suggests that you may not be the best material for long-term commitment.
Some men are interested in kids, though, and while uncommon these are the ones you should concentrate on.
FWIW - I seriously considered dating a single mom once, she was nice and I got on well with the kid; but she wouldn't stop smoking. So it may not always be the kid.
2007-01-13 15:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by dukefenton 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not ALL men "go running for the hills when they find out you have kids", but I will agree that a lot do. They don't want to get involved in raising some other man's kids, all the fussing involved with her ex, and also, not get to spend as much time with her because she has to raise the kids. It is a lot simpler to date a woman that has no kids than to get right in the middle of a "family in progress". I don't feel that way myself....I LOVE kids, but I wanted to answer your question why other men "run". Keep looking.....there's one out there that will love you, and your kids!
2007-01-13 15:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an immediate responsibility, which men don't like. It wouldn't bother me, but I would probably move a lot slower with a woman who has a kid(s). I'm not looking for a woman, who is looking for any ol' guy to father her kids. Why are they single and have kids? Were they married, and if they were married and now divorced, why couldn't they get it right the first time(maybe it wasn't their fault)? Things you have to find out while dating.
2007-01-13 15:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried Parent without Partners? My next door neighbor started going to church and met a woman there. She has a son from a previous marriage. They got married and the son came along. Perhaps you could meet someone at a church function.
In the meantime, focus on being the best parent possible for your children. Best wishes!
2007-01-13 15:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all those men are cowards because a child is a child no matter who its father is...secondly to answer ur question men are like that because they feel as if the baby's father will always be apart of ur life and some men can't deal with that...
2007-01-13 15:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's because some men don't like kids that aren't theres do you know what i mean?
2007-01-13 14:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BABY MAMA = DRAMA
We men do not like drama.
Sorry but that it is the way it is.
2007-01-13 15:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋