i have a boyfriend of 5 years and we've been doing good. we're together for 3 years and now in a long distance relationship of 2 years, even with the distance, we're still in good terms and he's now planning to be with me here in canada... im generally faithfull and i have no intentions of fooling him..but then i met this guy, my neighbor, who also has a girlfriend and they just got engaged a month ago. to cut the story short, we have these feelings for each other.we've seen each other secretly like maybe less than 10 times now but nothing has happened between us yet. (sex) we both feel it, but i dont want him to think im only using him coz my bf is not here with me now. and he says they are on shaky grounds lately and always fighting and he finds solitude with me. the last time i saw him i told him that we should stop whatever we have coz its wrong although we both have strong feelings for each other. we feel so much happiness when we're together but we need to stop right? help pls..
2007-01-13 06:40:56 · 3 answers · asked by jerigail1230 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah i know... thanks, i just really need to hear it since i cant tell it to anybody. and just so you know, all the time i had with this guy i always felt the guilt...and yeah, you've said it so right. im just playing with fire. and yes again i wouldnt dare give up my boyfriend, im just at this point where i feel kinda "hurt" because being with this guy felt so right.... but so wrong, you know what i mean? anyway, like ive said ive already ended it, i just need someone to tell my story and see some thoughts..if they ever felt this before.... thanks again!!!
2007-01-13 07:25:51 · update #1
yeah i know... thanks, i just really need to hear it since i cant tell it to anybody. and just so you know, all the time i had with this guy i always felt the guilt...and yeah, you've said it so right. im just playing with fire. and yes again, i wouldnt dare give up my boyfriend, im just at this point where i feel kinda "hurt" because being with this guy felt so right.... but so wrong, you know what i mean? and for the sex part, actually its not really what im after, im thinking too much of him that it scared me, why i have those feelings eventhough i have a boyfriend. i havent felt that way before that's why it made me wonder.
anyway, like ive said ive already ended it, i just need someone to tell my story and see some thoughts..if they ever felt this before.... thanks again!!!
2007-01-13 07:31:01 · update #2
be honest
2007-01-20 15:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by yubyub26r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes* STOP~ 1)...You have a b/friend of 5yrs...that is going to move to Canada..that is a very big sacrifice he's making to be with "you".....and alot of red tape to go through to move here. It's not just ..Oh i'll fly over to Canada and live there.. This "chemistry" you're having with your neighbour who is engaged as of a month ago..is just plain nonsense. If his relationship is on shaky grounds with his fiance then those 2 need to work things out....as for you...saying you've secretly seen your neighbour about 10times but nothing has happened (YET) seems to speak volumes..You're hoping it WILL happen. I think you're playing with fire and you're gonna get burned*~! You'll be throwing away your relationship of 5yrs and for what?? a quick round about with the fellow next door. Then what??
I would seriously think of what's more important to you... a quicky with the neighbour....or a long term commitment from your boyfriend???
GoodLuck*
2007-01-13 14:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know deep down inside what u wanrt to do. maybe you and your boyfriend should take a break from your relationship. you should go out with this other guy and see how ye get on.otherwise you may be missing out on a chance of being with your true soulmate
2007-01-13 14:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by nethnee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋