I used to date her and we too were in love, but now she's all I think about. Im pretty sure I could pull it off should I? im 23 and my wife is 20 her sister in 23 she was in my class and damn she's so HOT! Every frield of mine was like is it worth it? I always said the thought was worth everything but its just not doing it anymore. Another for all you married wives to answer we never really got married I just proposed and she's wore my ring for like a year and a half. so any input??
2007-01-13 06:39:04 · 40 answers · asked by november 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't ask us, Ask your wife, See what she thinks about it. Let us know. good luck
2007-01-13 06:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Janet H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly what are your morals and do you feel like the relationship you are in is real, do you feel a sense reluctance to go ahead with your plan of letting the little head cloud the judgement of the bigger head...needless to say ...regardless of what you chose... know that there is always a reaction for every action...how would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot. If the relationship is bunk than go ahead....are you willing to lose what you have in order for full fill your carnal needs or what should happen if she says no and informs your other half of the attempted thrist after all blood runs thicker than water....personally I would if the relationship was inert or heading down the path to destruction other wise dude if its all good dont mess it up. You decide hope I helped..good luck with this one
2007-01-13 06:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by whitecloudman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you married after a year and a half? It doesn't sound like you love her or you wouldn't want to be messing around with her sister. You need to ask yourself how you feel about the woman you are living with. That is one of the problems with living together you have no commitment. If you are married you have a big reason for making it work out. You have several choices to make and I do hope you make the right one.
2007-01-13 06:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by Diane H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are married or you're not married?? If you dated one sister and then went to the next that was horrible to being with. I know what you want to hear, you'd like to hear that you should go for it but I'm not comdeming that one. Why are you with the sister? Do you love her? Apparently you're with the sister and not her for a reason. If you sleep with the sister and lose the wife, would it be worth it? If you sleep with the sister, lose the wife and the sister doesn't want a serious relationship would it be worth it? You have to think about the consequences to your actions. Plus what comes around, goes around.
2007-01-13 06:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break off the engagement before you do anything! Sounds like you are not committed to the one you have made a commitment to. If the sister rejects you after that, then move on. The consequences of it all are going to involve your fiancee' hating you either way, both of the sisters being unable to trust you because you go back and forth between them, and possibly causing a rift between the sisters because of your selfishness. I don't know how you can call your fiancee' your "wife" when it doesn't sound like you are even ready for that!
2007-01-13 06:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dancing Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the right thing to do here. I think you know that if you love your wife it's wrong. In fact even if you don't love her it's wrong because it's breaking up a family.
I don't think you should marry that girl though. She's not the right one for you. I think you should break up with her, wait a few months and then try again for her sister after a bit of time passes. It will still hurt your fiancee, but not as much as if you both cheated and betrayed her. That's harsh.
2007-01-13 06:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is more then lust and you think that this can strengthen your relationship with your sister in law it's probably a good idea. Make sure you talk to your sister in law first and how you truly feel. Tell her that you just can't get her out of your head and what does she think, as her what would she do, if she were in the same boat and had a heart tearing apart to be with her.
2007-01-13 06:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this happened to my grandmom too. Her sister and the only sister slept with her husband and became his "second" wife ... but it was in 193x and in old China!!!! The scar was never healed... Both are dead now. My grandmom died with deep regrets. Don't be crazy and ruin your life!!! Having affairs are unethical but having affairs with your wife's sister is evil. If you have problems if your wife, do talk it over... Leave the good old days behind and move on... Don't sleep with it... Fantasy kills!!!
2007-01-13 07:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by hb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says the sister even wants you? This sounds like a bad idea, if you're having these thoughts now, you're going to be worse after a wedding. Maybe you don't want to marry this girl?
2007-01-13 06:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Modus Operandi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres alot of hot girls hot there, but whose the one your commited to? if the one your with isnt everything tht u want then dont be with her, but i think you already know the answer. Dont cheat make a choice, and are you sure that the sister would still want you? Her loyalty is to her sister not you so she may not sleep with you, and you may loose em both. best of luck!
2007-01-13 06:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wifes sister, get over it, that could cause alot of problems and in the end you will be sorry b/c you will have no one and family sticks 2 gether
2007-01-13 06:43:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋