Leaving GF because of lack of physical contact is valid - Please answer?

Question

Me & my gal gets along quite well, but the problem is i want more of her. I wana get kinda physical.... i have given hints to her many times but she ignores & moreover she and i talks about sex etc... but she i guess not willing to get physical with me.... i dont wana do anything without her permission, so makingup and touching is ruled out 4 me.

As i am not able to stand my great GF not letting me gettin physical i say to end the relationship.

My problem is what shall i tell her the reason? I cant tell her such a reason for ending it. (Doesnt sound good)

Please suggest what to say in a peacefull & nice way without getin much hurt.

Answer 1

Tell her that it is your fault you have to break it off tell her you want something physical that you dont think she will give up or if u dont want to sound pushy and like u need sex then just tell her that you want to look for different people because that would be the truth you want sdomeone who is going to be able to suit your needs all u would have to say is that you need to see other people and then if u wanna go this far u could say because i have some needs i dont think u r ready for,......Hope I helped :)

Answer 2

First of all I think you are wrong for wanting to leave her. How can you leave her because she does not want to talk about or have sex with you. There is nothing wrong with kissing or hugging, but she does not have to have sex with you if she decides not too. Maybe she has a valid point for not having sex and you need to ask her. Like I was raped when I was 16 by my brother so sex is a real big deal for me. So when I met my husband we talked about it and he said that when I was ready that we would. He was very understanding. I had to trust him to know that he was invading my body not for his pleasure only and that he wanted me to love him. I think that maybe if you talked to her and asked her if there is a reason why she does not want to have sex then maybe you two can work on it and she will come around. I do not know if you a pressuring her on it or not but that needs to stop. It is just like a donkey, if you keep pulling and pulling the rope he will sit down and give up but if you let him lead and do not force him he will come when you want him too.

I recently met a family who is christians. They have an older daughter who is 20 years old she has recently got engaged and she is still a virgin. The guy who she is engaged to knows about her decision and is willing to wait until the June wedding. I hope you will take my advice in consideration.

If you decide not to be with her and to end it, then I say just tell her that you need more that she is willing to give at this time. I hope it does not come to this. Sex is not everything in a relationship or marriage. My husband and I have not had sex in 1 month. We are still happy. We share so much more than sex.

Answer 3

If she's a good girlfriend and you love her why wouldn't you wait? Maybe she's a virgin or just not ready yet which should be even more the reason to keep her. What happens if you leave this girl and the next girl you get with gives you some but she turns out to be a total bi#$@? Is sex worth it? You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. Just being real with you. There aren't a lot of good girls left in the world. My advice to you is to stick it out with the one you're with. She's a good girl, itns't hat what you'd rather be with? A good girl rather than a hoe? If you really can't wait, then at least give the girl the respect to tell her the truth of why you're breaking up with her. You said she's a good girl and don't you feel that she at least deserves that?

Answer 4

Breaking up over lack of sex? Are you kidding me? That has to be the best one I've read all day. Have you considered the possibility of "taking things slow," or maybe she's not very experienced in relationships? Think about it: maybe u r expecting too much, or was sex all you expected in the first place? If you break it off with her, you might regret it later. Try asking her this question: " Are we ok?" and go from there. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I think before you end it, you need to talk to her about it. Tell her how much it bothers you, and how you want to feel closer and more connected to her. You want to show her how much you care about her. If that doesn't work, if she just doesn't care and basically says deal with it. Then it's a really good reason to break up and you don't have to make anything up. If she doesn't take your wants and needs into consideration over this, then she want on bigger more important issues, and that's no grounds for a relationship. But maybe she has a reason for not getting physical. Maybe she is afraid, or shy, or not sure what to do so she avoids it. I really think you guys need to have a heart to heart about this before you just end it.

Answer 6

Ever heard that the best lies are closest to the truth? Say it (truthful reason), but in a way that it's YOUR fault. "Oh, this is MY problem."
It's complete bs, and she'll pick up on it, but it's still much better than pointing a finger at her.

Btw, I agree with your decision to get out of the relationship. Some women simply refuse to understand that mens' needs are not 100% emotional or mental in nature, and that harms the relationship. Good luck finding someone that will fit you better.

Answer 7

you type like you're too young to be doing those things anyhow. She's probably not ready and you should respect that. If you're not going to and be stupid, then end it. But if you tell her it's because the lack of physicality, it could make her think that's how to keep boys and that could end up hurting her a lot down the line... good luck.

Answer 8

I think shes controlling you with her pu$$y. I cant wait to see women coming up with replies to your qn saying that you are a jerk. What the hell would they know about being a guy. Asking for sexual pleasure from your girlfriend is not a huge crime as far a i think if you two had been in intimate for a long time.

If she isnt interested in listening to you find someone who is. Sex while they still can have it is one of the few demands we men ask of them for the misery they would put us through for an entire lifetime of marriage.

Answer 9

Dude!!! That is a totally legitamit reason to break up. Who gives a sh1t about what she thinks anyway. Do you think in a month from now any of this will matter? No. Get out there and find someone who will fullfill all your needs (not only sex).

Answer 10

Just tell her the truth about how you feel. Since you already talk about sex tell her that your needs are greater then hers so you need to move on. This does sound shallow however but i don't see any other way you can handle it-unless you are old enough to get married and in love enough to be married.