My Step Brother Is A Pervert?

Question

i'm 14 and my step brother is 19.he always comes in my room while i'm dressing or when i take baths he sometimes even stays in the bath like forever until i can't stay anymore in the water and have to get out(nakeeed;of course when we're home alone which is veeery often)and i once caught him masturbating on my bed with my used panties.i think that's soo gross but i can't tell him to mom.he's making me look at porn and asks me if i like it and sometimes he tries to masturbate me but i wont let him and sometimes at night he comes in my bed and touches me like everywhere

Answer 1

I have been through this. My step brother did the same stuff to me AND my older sister. His behaviour is sexually abusive. For my and my sister, the long term effects of his abuse are still manifests itself in our psche. We both were in therapy for a long time to deal with the self hatred effects his abuse had on us. It took me a long time to see the abusive aspects of his behaviour due to the power control issue and I felt there was nothing I could do to stop it. My parents too, were never home and were very out of touch about what was going on inside the home. You may feel powerless to stop his behavior...I don't know. You need to tell your parents or a trusted adult right away. You may think that because he is not your "real" brother that it is OK but it is not. I hope that you can find the strength within you to report him to whoever you trust. Also because he is over the age of 18, there could be some legal action you could take against him since you are still a minor.
PLEASE TELL SOMEONE NOW! I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers....hugs

Answer 2

OK stop right there, you say you can't tell mom but you have to. From everything you have already said and I'm sure it's not the whole story you need to let your parents in on this or it will only get worse. I don't want to see any one messed up for the rest of their lives for something that they had no control over. This will weigh heavy on your conscious for the rest of your life if you don't tell your parents right now. I know it may not be easy but it is something that has to be done!! If you need a helping hand please feel free to email me [e-mail]. I have lived through a similar experience and did nothing about it, now I totally regret it. Stay strong.

Answer 3

So what exaclty is your question? Is he a pervert? Yes! Should you tell someone? YES! If this is a serious post I think you are old enough to know that you need to tell someone about this. Your parents, a trusted family member, friend, teacher etc. And while your at it..Tell him to stop as well. If you need to and noone believes you try taping him secretly with a tape recorder. Put a lock on your door. Do whatever it takes to stop him. Its very wrong for him to be abusing you. You need to stand up for yourself.

Answer 4

TELL SOMEONE you trust. If you don't, you're perpetuating the cycle. He won't stop. He'll just keep going further untill you give up. It's not healthy for a step brother, or anyone for that matter, to do the things that clearly make you uncomfortable.

Answer 5

I went through the very same thing but with my biological brother. I understand that you dont want to tell but you MUST because it could get out of hand soon. This could scar you for life if it is not stopped ASAP if you need to talk just shoot me an e-mail

Answer 6

You need to tell your parents. You have not done anything wrong. He is way out of line and could even try to rape you.If yur parents won't listen tell a a school counselor. what he is doing s wrong, and he sounds like a sexual predator. Really don't mess around with this and think it will get better. It will not.

Answer 7

You must stand up for your self and tell him as firmly as you can to STOP this stuff, do not tell him that if he does not you will tell you MOM, just tell her if he does not stop. This could lead to RAPE, I hope not.Here is more ideas, Lock the bathroom door, use a door stop inside the bedroom/bathroom until you are dressed, and also while you sleep..GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

do not let him do that once you let him do it once it's all over and he could hurt you in many ways... do yu ever want to be married to a man and have a healthy realtionship with your husband you need too tell some one and have him stop thats not right and why is he bugging you can he not get a girlfriend???? he's got some problems....he makes you look at porn with him....thats not right please do something about this you are in my prayers.... you are so special don't let him bring yu down...

Answer 9

You need to tell Somebody NOW!!! He's not just a perv, but pretty soon, he's going to rape you!! If he does, tell the police (they can use DNA tests to prove he did it) and he can be charged and go to prison. My neighbor's grandson was living with her, and one day, I saw a girl climb through his bedroom window (who ended up being 14) he, too was 19 and his grandma caught them and he just got out of state prison...Like 4 years later-ish!!!

Answer 10

Please tell on him if not your Mom then a guidance counselor at school but tell.What he is doing is very wrong. He is sexually abusing you! Stop him now. If your Mom chooses him over you then maybe you could stay with your Dad or Grandparents just get away from him.